Well here's the situation, I'm bisexual but not out the closet. I'd like to come out to increase my chances with men but I still like women, if not more.
I've been told by friends online that straight women won't date bisexual men, how true is this and can you explain your thoughts on it? I don't want to come out if it'll ruin my chances with women.
If you're bi and experienced this as a man, please comment too.
- I would date a bisexual manVote A
- I would not date a bisexual man.Vote B
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If I was single, I would have depending on the guy. The sexuality shouldn't matter as long as I was loved and he didn't feel the need to cheat to find a man. Just because someone is bisexual doesn't give them license to hurt someone else because they have a sexual preference for both genders. Being in a relationship and committing to one person should be this way for those who want it whether they are gay or straight or bi.
I'm straight so my straight boyfriend should not have to worry that I'll want to sleep with other men. I think the same rule applies to us all. Just because you're bi shouldn't worry your straight partner (or gay partner) that you'll wander off looking to fill your needs with the other sex.
If a bisexual guy was sincere about being only with me and didn't act on the urges to be with men, I would be fine with dating him. If he suggested to bring a man in to the bedroom for a threesome, I don't even know if I could do that either. Regardless of sexual preference, I want to be the one someone wants completely. I do expect honesty though too, and definitely want and need to know if the guy is bisexual. It helps me understand his desires better, and I would hate to have that kept from me, making me feel I'm not worth being honest with.
And unfortunately due to the stigma and statistics of gay sex between men, even if you haven't been promiscuous, I would feel secure with getting STD tests done (together) to know we're all safe.2