I am going out with a guy who lives about 35 minutes from my house. We are planning to go to a bar right next to my house because I live in Manayunk (If you haven't heard of it; Manayunk is a part of Philly with lots of bars/restaurants/clubs and a huge night life).
So after the date I was going to walk home but I am not sure if it's rude not to invite him over since I live so close. I am not planning to have sex with him so I am going to be upfront about it but I don't want to seem not interested in him either. He can come hang out with me and my dog and leave later:/
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Wait till you get to know him better. it sounds like its the first couple of dates with this guy? if so then you don't wanna invite him over so quickly. and yes if you invite a guy inside your place after the date (especially after alcohol has been consumed) it will give the impression that you want to have sex with him. it isn't rude to not invite him over. you are not obligated to invite this guy over right now.
and it doesn't matter if you tell a guy "i don't have sex on the first date" because you can say whatever you want but guys go by your actions. telling a guy you won't put out, then inviting him over after a night of partying sends mixed signals. don't do it0