Is it bad for a freshman to date a senior?

[TheBrokenDream]

I just thought that age difference would be bad, but I started like this guy and a lot too!! I think he's awesome, but I know some of you will say that he's too old for you and he can't control his sex drive. Honestly, I don't think he will do anything to me that I don't like... but what I'm afraid is that when he graduates he will forget me... I want him to notice me... what do I do? by the way he's plays video games, he plays in band with me, and I think he's cute!! :D

[solare]

I don't think it's necessarily bad for a freshman to date a senior, but it could lead to some issues down the line. There are some things to consider:

1.) Sex.
If you are a freshman and he is a senior, it's going to lead to problems legally speaking first and foremost. Even if you say "but I won't tell anyone so no one will know," it's still possible someone will find out. Then lives are ruined by the law. I would imagine you'd both have to come to an agreement of waiting for things to work out. People can control their sex drive, but it's just important to be upfront with things right away so everyone is on the same page.

2.) Differences in where you are in life due to age.
After he graduates, you are going to be stuck in high school for some years. It basically becomes a long distance relationship in all likelihood. There is a reason summer going off to college is known as a season of breakups. It takes a LOT of commitment to keep the relationship in spite of college, so honestly, pursuing him now may lead to waste of time later on when things inevitably end.

3.) Judgement
This is probably the smallest issue, but something to be aware of. It is a minor taboo I'd say for someone in college to be dating someone in high school. It's seen as sort of weird in way.

So is it bad? Bad as in morally or whatever-- no. Bad as in a poor choice logically speaking-- I'd say so. If you are willing to accept the risks though, I'd say go for it. Otherwise, I'd let the feelings die out. That's my advice.

[Dignifire]

No, it's not a bad thing. But if he can't control his sex drive then he will want to have sex with you. I'm guessing that would be illegal, and if so you can't do it. It will ruin his life, and you will have nothing but regret about it. Regardless, if you like him then develop a friendship. That's the kind of thing that lasts. Friends are hard to forget. And the best romantic relationships are between people who are already friends.

[existing_not_living]

No. I've thought about dating a senior in my freshman year. I'm pretty sure he liked me back but at the time he was dating someone else who was also a freshman. We met through a class and got really close. He also met his girlfriend through an after school activity so they got really close. It wasn't about me seeking him out or anything. We actually went to the same elementary school and he knew my sister because they were in the same grade. When he graduates, you guys will most likely break up. He is starting a new chapter in his life and isn't going to want to deal with a high school girlfriend who is restricting him. If you want to date him I wouldn't get your hopes up about staying together after he graduates. That's just my advice, though. If you want him to notice you, then talk to him more and flirt with him a lot. So, honestly I don't think it is bad for a freshman to date a senior.

[Dangonewild]

Honestly, I don't think Its bad for a senior to date a freshman because I have seen it in my school but its extremely rare. Seniors hit that "senioritis" and they dont quite have motiation to do anything. I think you two could be friends but seniors look at freshman as babies, just starting out. If you two were to get in a serious relationship it would have to be entirely in ONE year before he leaves and then he'd have to wait years for you to graduate then get to college then to graduate from there because he'll always be finishing where you are just beginning. You can try asking him to help you play certain songs since you are both in band (I know how that goes, I had a crush in Orchestra) but I really think it'll just be a friendship. These things take time and I don't think it's something you have in this situation. Hope this helps.

[Brian223]

When he graduates, he WILL forget you. All seniors are interested in, is too get some easy sex before they leave, and a freshman or sophomore is their best bet to it. You and him will get made fun of heavily, and I doubt either of your parents will like it. There's too many cons compared to pros.

[HikerDude]

If he's 18 you should avoid him. I dated a freshman when I was an hs senior and it was awesome, but I was 17 and she was 15. Most of the girls in my class wanted to date older guys, so younger girls were my only option. Senior girls thought they were too good for hs boys.

[ChadThunderschlong]

My highschool experience was similar. I dated another senior, but senior girls were slim pickings. To be honest I should have dated a better junior or sophomore. Some senior and junior girls were dating men in their early to mid twenties, because there was a college about a half mile from the high school. It was creepy, and senior boys told them so, but they just turned their noses up and said we were jealous. Now that I'm older, I'm wondering where the adults were in those situations.

[thisGUYknows]

It'll only be for a year. Life after hs is way different. He's gonna wanna experience things as an adult that u legally being a child can't partake in. That'll only drive a wedge in between u guys. More cons than pros here

[Gryffindorjedi]

If he's interested in you as well, go for it. Just be careful. It's very possible that if a relationship does happen with you and this guy it will only last for this school year, but he won't just completely forget about you when he graduates.

[looking_for_purpose]

I actually have never seen or heard of that so I think there would be no problem it's just a couple who cares what there ages are the only time someone worries about it is when the guy has grey hair

[slackercruster]

Go for it. Most likely he will leave you as you say, so don't become too attached. If you up for friends with benefits and he treats you respectfully why not have some fun?

[bubbletrouble]

No as long as you are both legal