So I have an issue with always attracting dsyfuctional/crazy guys. I am not the most sane girl either I am indeed dsyfunctional I will admit. But I am working on myself in the meantime but no matter what it is all I ever seem to attract. I think it is because I am a good listener, compassionate, caring, kind, loving, etc. And I am a huge nurturer and they love a girl that is nurturing.
In the past 9 months I recovered so much from my psychotic break by being in therapy. I applied for college in Jan 2015. And I got a myself good job (I am not talking at a fast food place). I got hired to a retirement home and I am signed up for college in Sept of this year. I am beginning to think it is because I am not smart enough.
But it is too fucking bad for them because the successful/sane ones except WAY too much. They want drop dead gorgeous and an honor roll student! Not my fault I have ADHD. I still have a brain in my head I just happen to not be booksmart. But so what? Does any other girl have this issue? I am not complaining at least people show an interest in wanting to date me.
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Well, like you said you're very nurturing. Perhaps you give them (unintentional) signals that you will take care of them. Perhaps you already do and you allow too much. Maybe it will help to learn to create boundaries and to spot those guys early on and be like 'No. NEXT!' :P Also, with regards to the sane ones, everybody has different desires when it comes to a partner, perhaps you are surrounded by guys who happen to want pretty, smart girls. But it doesn't mean you won't meet someone who likes you for who you are. It's a good first step to recognise which part of you still needs to grow and work on that. It's very brave and smart (ha!) so it's your turn to be 'demanding' and want someone who is (semi-) sane and who likes you for who you are. He's out there. Stay positive! :)1