I'm 5'3 and 130lbs and I've finally managed to get a guy to go on a dates with me. We've gone on a couple of dates and I think that we may soon start a real relationship. I'm just so nervous with him. He's the first guy that's ever liked me and it's all just so new.
When he touches me I can't help but shy away. I'm always afraid that he'll grab my arm and feel that it's squishy and be grossed out. He'll set his hand on my stomach and not like what he feels. I've had so many guys I like tell me they don't like me back because I'm too big and I'm scared that this same this will happen again.
sometimes he tells me he likes when girls wear skirt and dresses, but I'm not sure if I can do those things. He also says he likes when girls wear those tighter dresses but I don't think I can wear those. Can I?
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I have to say that this is indeed a very sad post/submission. *sigh*
Ok, let's clear the air here. Take EVERYTHING that you thought you knew about guys and their respective preferences when it comes to physical attraction and TRASH IT!!
Now, lets look at facts.
-Have you ever spoken to said guy?
-Have you made eye contact with said guy?
-Does said guy have eyes?
-Is said guy blind?
-Have you been on 'a' date with said guy?
-Have you been on two dates with said guy?
-Has he run away from you yet?
Ok, now that weve established some precedence based on fact lets look to opinions. Not all guys, myself included, are attracted to 100lb, blonde haired, blue eyed waifs. Not all guys, myself included, are attracted to ginormous boobs or tiny flat butts. We ALL have differing opinions and preferences. Much the same as you may prefer blond hair on a guy to say red or brown hair, men also may prefer a little (or even a lot ) of cushion.
I'm a prime example of the anti-stereotype. I'm a 34yr old white male. I'm confident in my looks and know that I'm attractive. That being said:
-I have 0 attraction to Asian women
-I have 0 attraction to blondes
-My previous SO was a black bodybuilder
-I have 0 attraction to large breasts
And the list goes on...
One of the body types I'm attracted to is a woman with kinda chubby upper arms, a big butt, wide hips, chunky legs, and cankles. Yep, you read that right, I think cankles can be hot!
My point is, don't be so quick to sell yourself short. Appreciate what you've got, love freely, and accept love when it is given. Regardless of my opinion or anyone else's, you ARE beautiful in some way to someone!!!0