Girls, would you consider dating a FTM transgendered man?

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ftm means female to male of you didn't know. I've been on testosterone for awhile and I also workout so I look male and no one ever knows I'm trans unless I tell them. I'm 6'0 so that helps. This is very understandable if someone doesn't but could you see yourself dating someone who looks and identifies as a certain gender while having the sexual organs of another? Tbh i don't see why someone would intentionally date a trans person when you could have the real thing. Would that throw you off too much when being intimate or is it fine? I've never met any girls who were okay with it and I'm slightly scared that I'll never have a serious relationship. Quite tired of getting "you're attractive but I need a real guy sorry :(".

Stacyzee · Accepted Answer

I kind of feel the same way, I am attracted to someone that was born male not someone transitioning to be one. Even if you had all of the parts as a actual male, I still would lose attraction, it's just not my cup of tea.
This goes beyond "preference", it's more so someone sticking to their sexual identity.
I have a trans. friend in your situation as well, she is male transitioning to female and no guy wants to date her.
Only those on the down low who wish to experiment.
They would never be in an actual relationship with her however.
She's having a hard time dating.
I suggested to her, that wouldn't it be easier if she met a woman who was transitioning to be male.
She briefly thought about it, but since she considers herself biologically a real woman I doubt she's even consider it.
This is just so complicated, isn't it?

You'll eventually find someone who will accept you for you, you just have to keep searching. You're still pretty young so you have plenty of time.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Accepted Answer

Yeah, you're a dude. I don't understand this phobia people have. As long as you got the right parts and are mentally a dude, I don't see the problem.

I hate how people always say "I support transgender people, they are who they feel they are" and then contradict themselves by saying "I wouldn't date them though because they aren't actually a dude/chick". Doesn't make sense to me...

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

Such a person still has XX chromosomes, so that person is, in reality, a woman.
Therefore, any woman who was with her would be in a lesbian relationship.
Transgenderism is the manifestation of a mental illness. Such people should be helped through their problems, not mutilated by so-called gender reassignment surgery, which cannot be reversed.
I have read that the post-operative suicide rate for such people is huge, usually after they change their minds and realise the enormity of what they have done.

Bobba_Fett · Accepted Answer

This changes as you get older, and if you move to a more open minded city. Also if you want to find someone with a kink for trans Fetlife. com is a fine site for all kink.

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

yes because I give no fucks. if I like them, I like them.

rescuemyheart · Answer

It would probably not be my thing. For a lot of reasons. I would accept you as a guy but just not the kind of guy I would go for xD if that makes sense. But I totally support everyone doing what makes them happiest.

I'm sure there are plenty of open minded girld who wouldn't care about your past. And maybe if I was in a certain situation I wouldn't either. But I'm really attracted to the traditional male and I don't think I could find that in someone like you

XoxoXxx · Answer

No, I wouldn't since I'm straight & knowing that a guy used to be a girl is completely off putting. Try your chances with bi girls as I imagine you'll have better luck with them.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Nope, that would be a dealbreaker for me.
I can't be with someone who's a man in terms of behaviour and appearance, but still has all the biological parts, from body, genitals, to cognitive functioning, of a female.

May_flowers · Answer

I could definitely see myself romantically invested. So ya I would definitely consider. but the deciding factor is just who you are. your personality. not whats in your pants.

CalgarianGirl · Answer

it's not about looks or sexuality who care's if your mtf or ftm as long as the other person loves and accepts you for who you are I would date them as long as they accepted me also :)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't mean to be mean. But tbh... I couldn't ever. I actually fear that'll happen since girls are starting to look like guys.. it's deceiving. Im straight and I actually want someone that was born a man. So yes... I need a guy with a penis.

Dred1614 · Answer

I don't see a lot of women being ok with it. You'd be best off targeting bisexual women because they'll date men and women. Or in this case, a woman that looks, talks, and acts like a man.

Lydia1991 · Answer

The only issue i would see with a relationship with you would be creating a biological family. But other then that i would be fine with it.

aliceinwonderland69 · Answer

Sounds hot but I'm bi so maybe that's why.

9mfeo · Answer

I would date any person that I had interest in.

fauchelevent · Answer

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

thewanderingme · Answer

nope. I want a real man.

Intraluminal · Answer

Don't they have a penile forming procedure?

abundantlyrich · Answer

No I'm not a pansexual

Anonymous · Answer

i would never date a FTM because i am heterosexual

blondfrog · Answer

I would think most would not.

xXiTacoXx · Answer

I couldn't do it.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it's a female with a brain issue

Bards · Answer

Yessss sir.

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