"doesn't cover very much of the population anymore"... in the USA.
In the US unfortunately, there really is a fat epidemic and instead of doing something against it, now there is fat acceptance everywhere... I mean obesity acceptance, not a few pounds too many, but plain morbid obesity. I just can't understand it and I'm sorry, I cannot accept it as "to each his own". Call me a fat shamer, sure, what the hell.
Unless there is a Thyroid issue (or any other medical condition of the sorts) making you blow up, there is absolutely no reason why anyone should be obese. None. There is no Fat gene. Yes, some people are more prone to putting on weight than others, their metabolism works differently, but again, a manageable thing.
I'm not saying I'm perfectly thin or fit or anything. I am in the process of loosing 20 pounds myself, but that isn't that much weight and is absolutely do-able.
So getting back to your question: I would not date someone who is extremely overweight. He doesn't have to be a model or have 2% body fat only, he just needs to be a healthy weight and active. (of course I'm not mentioning anything in regards to character and personality, which is the deciding factor in the end)
I think young guys are mostly superficial like that which is just a sign of immaturity and lack of experience. Young ladies get a bad rap for being attracted to money too but we just like to have fun and feel secure... guys with money accomplish those things easily. We're all victims of our DNA and millions of years of evolution. I think fit guys are the prettiest but not always the sexiest. Ignorance is a super turn off so I'd take a slightly portly smart and handsome man over a fit idiot all day long. Fortunately for everyone, beauty is subjective.
I am pretty fit and have a small frame, but I'm not fit for the purpose of being fit... has more to do with my hobbies (running, kayaking, climbing, hiking, obstacle courses, etc.) and lifestyle (eating habits and how i deal with stress - exercise & pacing, yoga). I wouldn't date a guy if I felt he only dated fit woman though. I don't think there's anything wrong with having the preference though... just doesn't line up with my own.
I date guys with a certain calm, sense of wonder and open mindness. To each their own...
U. S. society has trained many women to think that all hot guys want someone thin and fit, so I often feel like those guys might not want me even if that's maybe not the case at all. It's frustrating, especially because like you I am only attracted to a fairly small number of very attractive people.
For instance, this really attractive guy was a rock climber and his past gfs were tiny and fit and even though I'm pretty sure he really liked me and wanted to be with me, God willing, i often felt self-conscious that I didn't look like they did.
Well, thin and fit aren't the same thing. Fit women can be curvy (I mean curvy, not fat, which are used interchangeably but are not the same). Either way, I think everyone has their preferences. Nothing wrong with that. I like muscular guys (natural muscle from work, not gym muscle, and yes there's a difference), so there you go.
Fit as in Not obese... fine
fit as in.. manly atheletic females who can pass as men? nope!
curvy is the ideal body figure for women
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... there's nothing wrong with that?
I mean, call it superficial as much as you want. But you're insane if you're going to deny that dating as a whole is generally quite superficial. I'm sure 99% of the population would prefer to date someone who resembles a supermodel than someone with not so ideal features. I wonder how many of these women would pass up a guy with a 6-pack, pecs to die for, etc., and prefer to be with a guy who's got a generous beer belly instead.
While all my ambitious pursuits r of mostly intellectual nature, I am a very fit female- and fairly thin. I hit gym at least 4 times a week, enjoy the 'high' of weightlifting, cardio, and yoga immensely, and love moving/hiking/playing in my 'off-gym time.' That's my nature- and I m attracted to others like myself. I have no sexual desire for out-of-shape men, no matter how wonderful and smart they r (although, r they really all that smart if they don't take care of themselves?)
So, while I wouldn't say that it 'goes to my head'- I simply can't be anything else, being active is natural to me, but I do pity those who don't exercise, and I don't associate with them too much, with a few exceptions (like my wheelchair bound friend.)
not a problem, but I consider he need to be fit too. if not, he's just shallow in my opinion.
It's personal preference. Everyone is entitled to a type.
However, someone's outer appearance/ health doesn't make them any more "special" than anyone else.
I like being in shape, but I'm actually pretty envious of people who are confident and don't care either way.
Those kind of people are very often the most fun kind of people.
meh, i think it's unrealistic, but understandable at first. i think that especially if a man wants a child, he's gonna have to be open minded of the fact that his girl is gonna gain weight for some time. that's life.
As a thin person myself, I don't see myself as a special snowflake. Everyone has their own preferences.
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