How do white men feel about black women? (no hateful comments please)

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I am a black woman who has always been pretty curious about what it would be like to date a white guy. I see handsome white men all of the time, but I'm usually too shy to approach them, and they never show interest anyways. I know for a fact that I'm not the only black woman feeling this way. My friends and I talk about this all of the time and  they want to try dating a white guy just as much as I do. Something about them is just SO appealing to us. Basically, I'm wondering if I should even bother approaching a white man. I want to know if white guys are as interested in black women as we are in them. Please enlighten me!:-D lol

Setsu · Accepted Answer

Just entered a relationship with a black woman myself, and I'm already 99% convinced that she's the very woman I was born for. :) We took our relationship off-site on Thanksgiving and went public on Black Friday , if you can believe that. :P In the interest of fairness I should admit that she is my first black girlfriend, but I have definitely been attracted to black women before. Once I knew that I could trust her as a woman (not as a black person) and that she was interested in me, I was putty in her hands. The only fear that I had about going public was that other people might view it as an echo of the legendary Master/Slave relationship, as yet another instance of the Big Bad White Man living up to his sinister reputation by stealing something precious from the black community.

I think you'll find that a lot of white men would love to date you. They're just scared that you might hold their race against them. We get lectured so loudly and often that our ancestors were evil and that we're "privileged" because we're white that the task of approaching you often looks like running across a minefield. Left to our own devices, we never know which idle word is going to get our legs blown off, so we usually try to stay clear of the blast radius. As white *men*, we get a double dose of The Lecture, so it's easy to feel like we already have two strikes against us before we can even pick up the bat. The relationship between Kip and LaFawnduh strikes us as funny because it looks like a far-flung hope of quixotic proportions... and because more often than we like to admit, we relate to Kip, who spends most of the movie looking like a complete loser.

It might take a little more effort than usual to make us feel safe enough to approach you, but if you're willing to help us break the ice, we will practically worship you. There's nothing sexier than a little open interest. ;) Go for it, sistah! There's gold in them hills! :D

Subotai · Accepted Answer

Its funny  I don't think very many white men think black women find them attractive.  I think a lot of white men are nervous to try to ask a black girl out.   I think some black women are definitely hot, plenty of black women are very pretty,  I love when they don't straighten their hair and have braids and afros, and to be honest black girls tend to have big butts that's attractive to me.  A lot of black women are smart independent minded and not as likely to play dumb for men and be clingy.  Ironically despite what rap might say black women seem like they are goldiggers much less so than white women.  I like black women who are polite and approachable.  I am not a racist, at least  I don't think I am but black women who act ghetto talk loud and a lot of slang are frankly kinda intimidating to approach, guys don't like rejection from a woman they wanted especially if its witty loud in front of a bunch of people profanity laced and in a dialect they probably don't understand.  We fear verbal beat downs from women almost as much as women fear physical abuse from men.  I find that a lot of older black women seem like really nice people to talk to but a lot of younger black girls frankly don't.  It's not that all black teenage girls are mean, they just seem to act like it to try to be tough or something.  Its not that it offends me it just sorta puts up a wall.  That said a lot of white guys are totally racist and wouldn't even consider dating a black girl or would only be interested in sex.  That's their problem and means they aren't worth your time, nothing for you to feel bad about.

RenieBeg · Accepted Answer

To be completely honest, I have always had an attraction to white men and despite what some may say about my attraction, it has always been a preference. Over the course of many years I have wanted to date white men, but let the fear of rejection keep me from doing so. What I find very absurd, is this fact that some black men disagree with us (black women) dating white men, but often date outside of their race also. I would very much like to date a white man and see no harm in it, with that being said and after reading this post/comments I am now more aware that white men are just as approachable as any other race. Thanks for all of the helpful comments everyone. You all have helped me out tremendously.

Libdre · Accepted Answer

Hello, I find white guy's attractive and I have met a few on dating sites but the one's that would try to converse with me was not my type at all they were a lot older , I've never approached a white man basically because they are intimidating to me, And it's funny because most black guy's that I date thinks I'm mixed because of my skin color , My hair and my eye color, But I'm not I would totally date a white man I love the color of their eyes and I would love to run my fingers through their hair but I am from the south and I don't see much of WM with BW.

Vicktoreeuh · Accepted Answer

LOL. I totally know what you mean. I was there just recently.

But white men are interested in black women it just depends on what region you are in.

Here in Texas its a little hard to come by but they are there. I am actually only attracted to white men and I prefer to date men who aren't black. = ]

Kirkpatrick · Answer

Well yes opposites do attract!  I'm a white guy who has dated several black women.  I was once engaged to a Westindian woman but she ended up f***ing my younger brother, so I took my engagement ring back.  I didn't stop dating black women, however, whenever I could find one who was brave enough to put up with the racial abuse we got just for walking down the street together, mostly from young black men.  (I live in London, by the way.)  The last woman I was serious about was from Jamaica.  I wanted to marry but in the end she told me "I don't want to be with no white man.  I have to be with a black man.  I don't want no half-caste kids".  What could I say?  When I think about it, I'm lucky I didn't marry her and I kick myself to think that I had such poor judgement.  But how can you know in advance if a woman, especially a woman you're passionate about, can take the full heat of inter-racial romance?  It can be lovely but BE SURE YOU'RE UP FOR IT is my advice.  You may have to make some hard choices.  It's not the way things should be but it's the way things are.  Good luck!

ErikM · Answer

Yes, I'm most defintely attracted to black girls, but I'm Norwegian (northern Europe), and we don't have many black girls here who would date white guys because most are African Muslims. What I like about some black girls is that they often have nice smooth skin, lovely curves and a nice smile. Obviously, personality is the most important, and we'd have to be compatible (see my comment on Muslim African women).

I think that in Norway we have a different perception of things than in the US. Guys here aren't used to meeting black girls and we don't have the same preconceived notions of African Americans as you might have there.

scar1 · Answer

I am actually rarely attracted to white girls I am very attracted to black, black Hispanic and Asian girls. Though Asians are my preference. Just wondering where do black girls with your preference live. I've only heard of this on the Internet. Unless both people are suburban. Also generally its not a race thing, its a culture thing. Most suburban people only date suburban people. A lot of them, if not the majority are straight up prejudice of urban people. My preference is rare but most white guys like black girls if not more than white girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I think its not that white guys don't like black women, I think its more like their afraid of the race barrier and they are worried about the womans feelings and social anxieties, which can lead to rejection which always sucks.  If you're into a white guy try to be a little more intimate and flirtatious.  If he's smart he should pick up on these hints and ask you out, if he draws back that means he's not into you and not to worry you win some you lose some, and if he stays the same that just means he's not good at reading body language and you need to be a bit more blunt...lol...

lonleyfirefighter · Answer

Hello Shayna, I have always been intrigued by women of color. However, much like you. I find myself being shy and therefore I am reluctant to approach a woman regardless of her color. I have dated quite a few ladies over the years and in all cases I have been approached with the exception of two. I'm sure you will find this to be strange. But then again, I am a strange person. Lol... In a good way that is. So to answer your question, I think if you approach a white gentleman, you will find yourself pleasantly surprised. I think there are more of us affected by the " oh so shy syndrome " lol... I certainly hope that I was able to shed a little light on your questions.

HumphreyT · Answer

It's a preference. There are a lot of white guys attracted to black females.

Make sure you get one that is willing to date you for the right reasons and not just a hook up.

I'd say wait until they introduce you to friends or family before really putting a lot of stock in them, but yes white men do like black women.

This is really a case by case basis it's not fair to ask if white men feel a certain way because they all have different opinions, but some are definitely attracted to black women.

Anonymous · Answer

There's so many questions like this on the website. Gah.

Everyone is different. I don't know why you generalize and want generalized comments.

There are lots of black women who aren't interested in white guys so your statement, "I want to know if white guys are as interested in black women as we are in them" is weird.

There are white guys who like black women and white guys who don't. Yes, white guys who like black women exist, but you can't tell if a guy is that type just by looking at him. The only guaranteed place you will find such men are on an interracial dating site.

Simple as that.

MissUnderstoodx · Answer

I've dated plenty of white guys and yes they are cute and fun to be with but truly they are the same as any other guy. The only main difference that I have seen between white and black guys is that black guys think that they own girls , and cheat  and that white guys are so possive and are easily angered and can also be push overs. Other than that guys are guys it just depends on the person your with not so much the skin color.

Brando · Answer

It just depends on the guy really. Unless he's living in the last century or he just doesn't find black women attractive, then a guy isn't going to treat you any different than a white, Asian, Hispanic, etc. woman. I personally have had crushes on plenty of black girls before.

hunnie-bunches · Answer

where I am from louisville ky, you see a lot of white girls with black men and white girls with mexicans.but most of the black girls I know say they like white men but they fell the same as you so I went around asking white men if they would date a black girl and they said yea but they said they don't think any black girls like white guys.they feel like the black girls are affraid of how the black men will think...

Anonymous · Answer

Most white guys would kill for the opportunity to be with a black woman I mean I don't know why but it's a point of pride with us if you are attractive you can pretty much count on a white guy saying yes and then banging the bajesus out of you just to prove to himself he can give you an orgasm because the myth/stereotype of black men having a large penis also translates to black women are larger to accept a big black penis so therefore if me a white guy can make a big vagina black woman come than a white vagina should be easy.

Rahim517 · Answer

That's a tough one.  Basically, the reluctance of white men to date black women continues because even white guys who are interested in BW operate under the assumption that they are AT BEST a distant second option to black men in the eyes of BW.  BW need to come out and let it be known that they are actually interested in WM of their own accord, not as a fallback.

Honeybaby · Answer

Some white guys are really sexy, I would definately date a sexy attractive guy regardless of skin tone, but I think they are afraid to ask out a brownie especially in the UK. Not all of us are loud and rowdy, I think that depends on your social surroundings.

bytesunfish · Answer

White guys don't typically date white women. Many just don't find them attractive, but others have their own hate issues. For the average guy in my area, they have nothing against them. There are stereotypes however... loud... belligerent... but those are just stereotypes.

lonlehube · Answer

I think you should take your region into consideration.  I am from the Great Lakes area, and see white men with black women frequently.    I have also spent some time in East Texas, and I would have to say that is probably not accepted very well there.   Personally pretty is pretty, sexy is sexy.  Being married I would doubt if I get a chance to date a black women, but if I found her attractive, and we connected on a personal and intellectual level, of course I would date her.

hallowman · Answer

i realy find all women attractive...if my parents weren't old fashioned id like to date a black girl ...now when I say that I mean someone who is themselvs probably not the kinda people that inforce styerotypes(and I mean that is what I'm attracted to)...but you look nice if I could id like to give ya a chance

Peedesperation · Answer

I am a white guy in the UK, for me its all about personality and not colour or race, you are either attracted to someone or your not. My view is if you like someone then go for it, if they are not interested because of your colour or race then they ain't worth sh*t. Good luck

ConnorMac · Answer

It seems like both black girls and white guys are equally afraid to approach the other. ha ha I also have never dated a black woman, but at this point in my life, I'd actually prefer it to a white woman. I'm the kind of guy who grew up watching movies like Foxy AND Jackie Brown practically salivating over Pam Grier, if that gives any insight. haha

stalinhornsby · Answer

The bothers should aswer that because they have your back. If you are a single woman with single residency and a white girl as a room mate that would open some doors for you. You may have to be in a situation of having a great job and the protections and respect that would keep the black men from knocking at your door. A white guy would have to be very confident to date a black woman; too much pressure from the hood.

phenixblack · Answer

Are you kidding me your gorgeous...how come I never get to meet girls like you I mean your probably a little taller than I would date or whatever but I would introduce you to some guys who would love you

Anonymous · Answer

well I wouldn't approach one because you never know if he likes black women but like with any guy try to make eye contact. if he seems interested then  I guess it would be okay to approach. I get hit on them more than I do black guys for some reason. my friend told me I look like I only date white guys, I don't know what that means lol

Grotty · Answer

I am a white man and can honestly say many women are attractive wether they are black, white, Asian, skinny or f but I no longer bother giving any compliments or try chatting them up because all I bet is verbal abuse and rejection. I have to admit though I find dark skinned black women to be the most attractive to me!

sag2392 · Answer

I love black women, you should go for a white guy one day...i do see why it is hard sometimes, I dated an african girl for 3 years now. I'm so interested! Once you go black, you never go back!LOL

Here's my number, 7064992392...im not a freak, I love black women I have a job, am going to Lee U. I'm GOD fearing and Jesus is the center of my world, so if you need a real man here ya go

Call me

Anonymous · Answer

I am white and I am interestead in black women but I act white lol. By that I mean I like things you don't see a lot of Black people interestead in. Doesn't mean I'm racist its just what I was grown up upon. As for dating black women yes I would I had a crush on a black girl in high school but I never made a move because I didn't know how she or everyonelse would think of that.

Bradd123 · Answer

im sorry but people are asking some stupid questions lol.

how do asians like asians?

or blacks like blacks?

or whites like blacks?

ETC///

Its a choice of preference... you can't generalize everyones feelings by 1 persons answer.

Anonymous · Answer

Well reading all these comments made me come to the conclusion that most white men (not all of them. Prefer not to approach black girls sometimes because most of us (once again not all) come off as really intimidating... Well people I do agree that some of us black girls have this really annoying habit of acting ghetto or play hard to get sometimes even rude. But my people some black woman are like jaw breakers they seem like hard candy but in reality they are just waiting for someone that they can show their softer side to. So do not be afraid to approach them. Well obviously there are different personalities with black one like there is with white. I'm a big softy... I would personally say and I am 100% that at least 8/10 black females like white guys. I mean what's not to like I myself find them very hot. If I offense anybody with what I send I'm sorry :)

joebrucefan28 · Answer

Me personally, I love black women. I don't find white women attractive for a few reasons that I won't get into.  The darker the skin the more attractive I find them, can't really explain it.  Just something sexy about dark, and I mean really dark skinned women. Only problem is I have a hard time talking to black women cause you never know which ones like white guys. I would love to have some help on this one, I might just have to ask the question myself on here if no one says anything.

jimmydean72 · Answer

I had sex with a black woman last night for the first time in my life.  I was like you, I didn't think she was interested.  She pursued me.  If you see a white guy you like, be bold and approach him.  You might be surprised by his reaction.

Verimas · Answer

I'd love to date a black woman, but were I live there aren't a lot who aren't way older/younger or already dating someone else :(  but if I had the chance I would (I just love the darker skin color it's so attractive)

righthere1981 · Answer

Im a white guy,an I prefer black females over any other race: because ya'll are more independant an ya'll are VERY pretty,i love  natural black women..allot of guys I'm seein here say they like hair straightened that's not all natural..an there should be no reason that anyone can't approach a black female I have plenty of times..been shot down a few an I've gained a few..do different than talkin to a girl of any other race..

shf84 · Answer

I've chased a few black women. I was hanging out with one on the strip in Vegas last weekend actually but she didn't like that I was a modern guy which I expected because she was on some religious trip. I did get to hug her though

madamenoir · Answer

I think that if you are attracted to someone, you should go for it.  From my experience there are many WM who like BW, but think that BW will reject them. It is true that the majority of BW prefer BM, but there are some BW who are open to non BM. I do know that some WM are more subtle if they are interested in you and it took me a while, at first to pick up on whether the guy was even flirting with me or not because it can be different from how a BM will approach.

hockeypro · Answer

i actually love black women I don't know know why but it might b that they are great in the bed they actually are interesting people overall. And ur pic is very sexy

girlfarts · Answer

YES! YES WE ARE!  STOP BEING SHY AND ASK US OUT ALREADY! BTW, I am a good looking white dude and I would love for someone as attractive as you to show interest. I don't think it's a "show's interest" kind of thing.  it's more of white guys are not as forward as black guys when it comes to vocalizing out interest. Call me, oh wait I married.

jd0125 · Answer

my question is... do black girls like white men? I find many of them atractive... but never thought they feel the same way...seldom see a black woman with a white guy.. or even look our way.

jd0125 · Answer

Intriguing, sexy, exotic...intimidating... Very interested... Unfortunately some don't think you are interested in us.

Oddjob · Answer

I've dated a few black girls... Some were mixed race. For me, it's down to the individual. If I find her attractive and she's interested, I'll ask her out... black, white, Asian... Whatever.

ankit28 · Answer

believe me we like your big ass and filled lips...its just the peert pressure..u need to make bold move lady.

SloSupra · Answer

Yea, I think most white guys are attracted to black women. I personally am. Not to mention your a pretty girl anyways so you have your work cut out for ya.

bettsyboy · Answer

it all comes down to the individual. i personally like mixed white-asian girls but everyone is different

Curlyfries316 · Answer

i find some black women attractive. but I prefer white or Hispanic. I think part of it is the hair, I like natural hair on black women and most don't wear it that way.

akahcam · Answer

the same way we feel about white women! there is no difference, at least to me, I might fall for either!

ironman52241 · Answer

its all pink in the middle ! I love ladies no matter what color they are !

1MysteryMan · Answer

I wouldn't know about white men but Latin men love Black women.

ClariceOwen23 · Answer

I'm a black girl currently dating a white guy. Most of my friends are white too, and many of them find black girls attractive. So you really don't have anything to worry about

RavinJade · Answer

We don't show interest because like you we are also apprehensive and nervous about talking to you.

zagor · Answer

Depends on the girl.  Skin color matters not at all to me, but I'm not into "Thick" women no matter what their shade.  Slender or athletic black women with a pretty face are hot.

savacriss · Answer

hmmmm... for me I would definitely go out with a hot black chick ( with big boobs and very sexy ass ) i think I just got a boner ...

Anonymous · Answer

In my personal opinion, I am not at all attracted to black women. I like white girls and tan girls, but not black girls, nothing against personality, just physical attraction. I'm sure there are many white men that are interested in black women, so give it a try, but it's personal preference, just like I'm sure there are many black girls that aren't at all attracted to white guys.

sweet18 · Answer

Yes they are. They are many white guys who think that black girls are really beautiful. YOu have nothing to worry about.

Anonymous · Answer

Some like, some don't like, some don't care but I don't know in the USA.

layali · Answer

i it hate when whit guys are afraid to talk to me I'm not gonna eat you lol

BenWebster84 · Answer

I would say it depends on the girl and the guy! I think your pretty sexy!

Anonymous · Answer

oh yeah I am one of those white men that absolutely love black women- my problem is that where I live it seems the black women don't want to be approached by a white guy

Cómoestás · Answer

I feel love in my heart 😍.

lee-cooper · Answer

anyone can date anyone in my world.

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