I hate my height and all of you superficial guys?

[Anonymous]

Why most men care looks and not personality? I am very upset when guys say looks are important in relationship. I dont give and f* about appearence of guys, I only want a guy WHO accept me with my height and love me for WHO am I.

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[Rawrzz]

In the end chica, everyone is superficial. Guys care about looks. Women care about bank accounts and job positions and ambition trajectory. Sorry. That's human life. You can either change yourself to the extent that you can, or continuously whine about it and play the moral superiority card while remaining alone.

You're not making a ""sacrifice" by looking past a man's looks. A man would be making a huge sacrifice by looking last. Men have one requirement. One. As a whole. Women have a lot more than one.

Would you date a poor man who didn't have a job? Chances are no, you wouldn't. Well, men don't care about income, so they could easily date a chick from the slums if she was physically attractive. In fact, my dad did and I popped out a couple years later.

We both have different priorities. And we're both superificial. Don't act like you're above The Animal. You're not. You're just as much a primate as the rest of us.

[Asker]

So, does it means all ugly girls or short girls should die alone?

[mja091]

Hell no. You'll find someone in the end. Just gotta weed through the dicks and a-holes until you find the right one. I'm 5'8" and 5'1" wouldn't be a problem. I dont care about looks either. I value personality and the chemistry we have over what they look like.

[Asker]

@mja091 <3 that was the answer i like most because that is excatly what i want to hear haha :D

[Rawrzz]

I never said "should" anything. And no one cares if girls are short. That's actually preferred. There are a lot of things in this world that "should not" be. It "should not" be that 1 billion people are starving to death as we speak. But that doesn't change the reality. I'm saying realize reality and adapt to it. Not that anything "should" be.

If a girl is ugly, then if she wants to be with someone, she should find ways to accessorize and modify her apperance via clothing, makeup, and such, so she can get a slightly less ugly, better quality guy. You know there are ugly, low value guys too, right? So really it's just her standards are too high. She thinks she deserves some hot, ambitious guy, but the market does not see her as that valuable. So, she should realize the market thinks she is not that valuable and spend her biological dollars on a less expensive guy. Or yes. Be alone. It won't kill them to be alone.

[Asker]

Life is too cruel. I want to be loved too, does not matter how look the guy is.
Ugly girls are luckier. There are many ways to modify ugliness, like make up and operations. But short height is not solved permanently. You should just accept that the cruel reality and be able to stay strong by your solitute.

[Morriganhell]

That market thing is so dump. I am 5'2" and I have a boyfriend who love me for who I am. He didn't even think about my height once. Looks and market are only for damn superficial people who dont deserve to be loved.
When you love somebody, her height and weight are only a damn number. That is what i thought, and my boyfriend.

[Rawrzz]

Yes. Life is cruel for everyone. Even hot girls and valuable guys experience a lot of pain. Life is pain, as the Buddhists say. Part of The Four Noble Truths. The second is that pain stems from desire. If you can control your desires, you can minimize your pain.

But I believe you're putting far too much of an emphasis on height. I told you. Vast majority of guys LIKE a girl to be shorter than them. 5'1 is nothing. I've dated a girl who was 4'11. Unless you're actually a dwarf, no one is going to care how short you are.

[Asker]

I accept that life is cruel and majority of men are too superficial for me. So I think you dont care about looks too?

[Rawrzz]

*everyone* is superficial. It's not about that. It's about *how* they are superficial. Physical attraction is important. I care a lot about looks. Why would I date someone I wasn't attracted to? That would be like me telling you to date someone whose personality you hated.

[Morriganhell]

Calling everone is superficial sounds like generalization. There are many guys who are not superficial. Looks are not important for many few guys I can say.
As I said, I found one of them. I'am 5'2" and my boyfriend even think about breaking up with me about it :) he is completely ok with it.

[mja091]

You'll find love. Just don't give up and use your personality to your advantage. I can personally say from experience that girls I've been interested in have done the same, and I've fallen for them hard. If you do that.. I'm certain you'll find a good man.

[Rawrzz]

@Morriganhell Girl. You ain't got any idea what you're talking about. Your boyfriend didn't make a *sacrifice*. I've literally said "guys don't care about height", multiple times. If you could do me the favor of actually reading properly, that would be great.

This conversation is about guys looking at *appearance*. Your boyfriend dates you, because he thinks you're attractive. Or am I wrong? He thinks you're ugly, but looked past your physical ugliness to find the golden shimmer of your personality? Because that would be the only way what you're saying even comes close to relevancy. Otherwise, you are making 0 sense.

[Asker]

I want to find someone who does not think like that. It seems looks are very important for you but I hope it is not importany for all.
Would you prefer a tall bitch over a short girl who have perfect personality? Is looks vwry important for you?

[Rawrzz]

Yes. There might be some exceptions, but the vast majority of males will not sacrifice looks for personality. They only will if they have no other better options, and they're desperate. Maybe you'll be able to find someone who would be the exception, but you'd probably have better luck trying any way to increase your attractiveness.

Tall and short, like most things, are relative. I told you at least 2 times, maybe 3. Guys don't care about height. As long as she wasn't taller than me or a dwarf, I wouldn't care.

Yes. Looks are very important, to me.

[Morriganhell]

"He thinks you're ugly, but looked past your physical ugliness to find the golden shimmer of your personality" well, he and öy other ex bfs complained about my short height and said ı was too short to be attractive to them. But again, attractiveness is not only the physical thing. They said they are attrached to my craziness (hihi) and my funny jokes. So I can say that some traits may compensanete some demanding traits.
But that is my experience.

[Rawrzz]

@Morriganhell I really doubt they "complained". Unless you're like 4'8 or less, guys don't care about height. And you know it's very common to see a very tiny woman with a very large man.

This is something different between men and women. You will often hear women say that the better a man's personality, the better looking they are. This doesn't happen with males. We do not adjust our perceptions of how hot a woman is based on her personality.

So, if guys are dating you, it's because they find you physically attractive. Everything else is just icing on the cake, like your jokes and your craziness. They will not make you appear more *physically* attractive to men. They can make men *like* you more. But it won't change how they perceive your attractiveness.

[Morriganhell]

I am 159cm, think it is between 5'2 to 5'3. Well I dont know. What you said make me think now. All guys I have been together with, said they are only interested tall leggy girls like 5'8"+ but they are short themselves too. They said they are interested in my personality and just ignore my height. I thought they say truth but... I dont know
However, height is one of the unchangeable things so whining over it makes no sense. I think OP can try girls instead. As a bi girl, I dont give any sht about girls height ;)

[Asker]

Unfortunatelly you say truth Raws. I hate you all superficial guys who like giraffles. What counts more is personality, not looks.

[Rawrzz]

There we go. If you hate guys so much, then go with Morrigan and just become bi or gay. Maybe women will accept your personality.

[Morriganhell]

you are a bitter little woman, asker
why do you call tall girls as "giraffle" because of jelaousing them? Yes, they are more attractive to guys and not bitter as you :P
Dont be so creepy bitter, find a short guy who accepts your height. I can say in China, average height for woman is around 5'2".

[Asker]

I will. Guys are EXTREMELLY height obsessed.

[Pac-Man]

I love you for who you are! Message me baby <3 , this is me.

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[PizzaPrincess]

Damn bby hmu

[Asker]

why do you post this guys as you think he is ugly? I would gladly be together with him if he accepts me for WHO am I.

[Pac-Man]

@PizzaPrincess kill me with your killer boobs bby

[Anonymous]

sweetie.
dont let superficial people to let you down. you dont deserve that.
yes, most people are superficial. they claim looks matter, beauty matter, height matter. But guess what, you dont need them.
I am 5'2", short. And if somebody does not want to know me because of it, then its his lost. I am sure, there will be ONE WHO can able to see behind your body.
Just be patient and strong.

[Anonymous]

I am only 5'1 myself and I have never had a problem getting whatever man I wanted... and I am old now baby and I can still get their attention if I want to. It is called confidence and it needs to be in your soul, your smile, the way you carry yourself. Take a bath in some confidence and watch them come flocking. xoxo

[amphet11]

For women confidence doesn't matter, only looks do

[Asker]

@amphet11 you make me sad now.
Why only looks? What about personality? Would you prefer a tall bitch over a short girl with a perfect personality?

[amphet11]

I don't like tall girls, so no, 5'3 is the perfect height, personality does matter in a long term relationship, but to men it doesn't matter nearly as much as personality matters to women.

[Anonymous]

Stop whining. Tall girls have it WAY worse. My roommate is 4'10 and every guy is into her.

I'm 5'9 and I have an extremely hard time finding guys taller than me. MAJORITY of guys prefer shorter women so your question makes no fucking sense.

[Asker]

Are you joking or troll? If you read answers in my question, you can see all guys want tall girls.
I have never met any guy who like short girls. Never.

[Asker]

5'9" is perfect height for a girl, I would kill to be in that height.
And I would prefer to have a troll face with that height than having a most beautifull face with 5'1". Face can become beautifull with operations. Height can not be solved
You are very lucky sister. Take care!

[Opinion Owner]

Hayden Panettiere, Eva Longoria, Vanessa Hudgens, Lady Gaga, Reese Witherspoon, Kristen Bell, Ariana Grande, and Avril Lavigne are all between 4'11-5'2 and they are all sex symbols loved by every guy

[Asker]

I have never heard from any guy that these are sex symbols. Do you want to hear who are sex symbols intead? Adriana Lima, Kate Upton, Barbara Palvin.. These are all above 5'9". You can read answers I get in this question. You will see very few guys want a 5'1" girl. Think the majority want girls to be above 5'4" at least

[Opinion Owner]

That is simply untrue. I know a lot of guys who prefer petite women.. A LOT of guys

[Asker]

Did you read the answers i get?

[PizzaPrincess]

Well.. looks ARE important, but not everything. You have to at least be attracted to the person you're with, but it shouldn't be the only reason you're with them.

[Asker]

so? I want it to be completely unimportant :(

[enis_Penvy]

Looks aren't the only think but they are a THING.
Usually what will attract a man to a woman first is her appearance. But what will make her fall in love sign her is her personality , intelligence, and charisma. Her beauty may change with time but those other things make an intention on his heart that lasts a lifetime

[enis_Penvy]

*"what will make HIM fall in love with her" - sorry

[amphet11]

If you don't give a fuck about appearance... then how can you even consider yourself heterosexual? if you don't need gender specific traits like looks, you aren't straight! I personally wouldn't date a girl like you, i need the girl to at least be attracted to me physically to some degree.

[Asker]

Do you only date with girls above a certain height?

[amphet11]

ILL answer if you answer my question about considering yourself straight

[Asker]

I am not straight then. I dont care about looks.

[amphet11]

Then why don't you date women? they are more likely to not care about looks and like you for your personality. Ill date girls anywhere from i suppose 5'1 to 5'8

[Asker]

it seems that will happen. Guys are extremely heightist

[amphet11]

A lot of men would date a girl who is your height though, and since you don't really have a sexual orientation and don't care about looks, then try date some fat and/or ugly guy, he will probably jump at the opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Height seriously isn't that much of an issue. You're more concerned about this than you should be. The real problem is probably something else, such as being overweight or not social. Both of those can be solved rather easily.

As for caring about looks, I am happy that we do. Otherwise we would have a lot of unhappy girls in relationships who felt unattractive and unwanted. The way things are now you can pretty much assume your partner desires you.

[Asker]

isn't height much of an issue? I just assume that most guys think short in unattractive and undesirable

[Opinion Owner]

Not really. More about being proportionate than tall/short.

[Anonymous]

Wtf.

Being in a relationship isn't just being close friends. It means passion and lust and desire as well. And I wouldn't want to date you if you weren't turned on by my appearance.

But the weirdest part about all of this is you complaining about your height. Guys are divided on height and most don't care that much... But I know more guys who find 5'1" a turn on than turn off.

[Asker]

Is passion and desire is only about looks? What about other factors?

[Opinion Owner]

Passion and desire is about looks, sexual response and sexual compatibility. Period.

Compatibility and caring are based on a whole host of other things. but those other things don't make me want to have sex with them.

[Asker]

So, how short girls or other girls who have undesirable looks can find boyfriend? Does everybody think same about that or there are someone who dont care about looks?

[Opinion Owner]

Very few people don't care about looks.

In North America being a short woman is an advantage for dating.

[Opinion Owner]

Here's data from an American dating site on messages per week vs height.

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[Asker]

Very few is also a number. That made me happier. Thanks.
I know majority care looks and then I dont have a chance with them but all I want is finding someone who dont care it at all.

[Opinion Owner]

From your description of your body it should be a huge advantage.

[Asker]

What should be a huge advantage?

[Opinion Owner]

Height 5'1"
Weight: 115lbs
Boobsize: C cup
Eye color: brown
Hair color: blond
Body type: curvy
Do you have nice ass: quite big but trained
Age: 22

Those are good stats.

As I said in North America men are more likely to prefer short to tall. You don't need a man to overlook your height. The majority of men prefer your height. A minority prefer tall

[Asker]

in which countries it is opposite?

[Opinion Owner]

Anecdotally I've heard that in some parts of asia, tallness is viewed more positively for women, and simultaneously a smaller differential between a male and female partner is viewed as ideal. I've personally run into more Asian woman than other ethnicities who thought I was 'too tall'. Some loved it, but not all.

I've also anecdotally heard of northern Europe and perhaps eastern Europe having more of a preference for tall women as ideal.

[Asker]

from where? this site?

[Opinion Owner]

Scandinavia specifically this site, but I think i'd heard it about some parts of say Netherlands/Germany and east of there by people I know from there.

Asia... I think partly from people I knew from there, and at one point I read something about height and human attractiveness.

[Asker]

wow. german guys like tall girls too?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know. I think maybe someone claimed that here, I'm not sure.

[NC2016]

I will accept you for who you are. Tell me about yourself. Height? Weight? Boob size? Eye color? Hair color? Body type? Do you have a nice ass? Age? Own any pets? Do you like sports? How many guys have you been with? Want me to eat your booty like groceries? What's your race? How old are you?

[NC2016]

I asked for age twice. What's your favorite food? Are you flexible? What type of panties do you wear? Do you have Instagram. Facebook, Twitter, etc? Do you workout? What's your name? What's your dad's name?

[Asker]

Height 5'1"
Weight: 115lbs
Boobsize: C cup
Eye color: brown
Hair color: blond
Body type: curvy
Do you have nice ass: quite big but trained
Age: 22
Own any pets: no
Do you like sports: yes!
How many guys have you been with: none
Want me yo eat your booty like groceries: huh? Well. I don't know.
What is your race: white
Favorite food: pizza
Are you flexible: hmm yes i guess
What kind of panties do you weat: high waisted and jean, generally
Instagram?: yes
Facebook: nope
twitter: nope
Do you workout: yes
What is your name: A...
What is your dads name: Don

[NC2016]

Marry me?

[Asker]

Haha you dont know me :D

[NC2016]

I love you

[Kraftmuppen]

Because guys are more visual. We like to look at girls. But hating your height isn't going to help you. Guys love short cute girls by the way so you've probably just met some rude dudes haha. There are a shitload of people woh love short girls.

[Asker]

is there any guy WHO dont care about looks and height?

[Kraftmuppen]

Well all guys care to an extent but we have different standards lol. Honestly, I think most guys who are somewhat socially acceptable have pretty low standards. And guys don't care that much about height. Most people say my country is famous for liking tall girls but really, your height does not make you unattractive!

[Asker]

isn't it? I also heard guys in Sweden reject girls under a certain height :D even worse than UK :D

[Kraftmuppen]

Look I've been talking to people about this several times. Some girls have been complaining on here that guys write stuff in their tinder profiles like "she has to be this tall" or whatever. I've never searched for guys on tinder so I wouldn't know. But I do have female friends on there and I've never heard complaints from them sooo. Also, in my friends group there isn't really a preference for short or tall girls. We just look at a girl and we're like: Yup She's attractive. We don't consciously look at how tall/short they are and give a rating based on that.

[Asker]

Even 5'1" is not a problem in Sweden? thought it is very short in there

[Kraftmuppen]

It is short. Not a problem though. Short = feminine. Feminine = good trait for girls. Also, short guys will love you since they feel like shit around tall girls lmao

[Asker]

Hope that is a fat rumor that short girls have problem in sweden. in uk, guys trim short girls you know

[LifeEqualsLove]

Attraction is really important idc what anyone says.

You wouldn't date a hobbit looking fellow cus he had a nice personality.. would you?

[Asker]

I would. Why wouldn't I?

[G-Daz]

I don't get the context but everyone is to some degree superficial. I like short girls but that isn't a rule

[Asker]

Some degree. They may acceptable but rejecting someone due to very little flaws like height or weight is extremely superficial.

[G-Daz]

yeah, but for example i prefer between 5ft to 5'7 but would not reject others. if she is 4'10 or 5'10. But I would not date taller. I am 6ft. digits that determine weight don't matter to me. i don't even care for muscular looking girls

[Hopefuldreamer8]

Guys don't care about height. You're projecting your own insecurities.

[Asker]

But they all say looks and height are important at here.
Is it really important at outside? I mean I think looks should be important

[Hopefuldreamer8]

If you're attractive they won't care if you're short.

[WhiteSteve]

"5'1 makes a girl COMPLETELY undateable!"
-No One, Ever

[Asker]

So why guys here say looks and height are much important?

[heavenlyhannah]

Imao looks attract and then they get to know the personality, that's how I am also.

[Asker]

@heavenlyhannah I am not that kind of person and I want someone who like me :(

[heavenlyhannah]

I'm sure someone does and will!

[WhiteSteve]

Best advice I could give you on here is to not think that the dudes on here are at all representative of average dudes everywhere😂

[heavenlyhannah]

Yeah!

[Asker]

I hope you are right because guys on here are extremely superficial and height obsessed.

[heavenlyhannah]

Guys on here tend to be horny, trolls, or catfish, not all tho.

[WhiteSteve]

The more bitter or judgmental that they sound, the less seriously you should take them👍

[heavenlyhannah]

EXACTLY

[Cosytoasty]

Why do most women care about money?
Why do most women care about height?

Shall i hand you a broom for those generalisations?

[Morriganhell]

this is a superficial assumption.
I am 5'2" and dont care about Money and height.

[Cosytoasty]

@Morriganhell Yes, I suppose the sarcasm was too subtle 😋

[jacquesvol]

5'1 You can't change it, thus just accept it. It's OK in my opinion
Your height is OK. My wife is like 4'9

[redeyemindtricks]

whoah... 4'9"? so, she's between 1.44 and 1.45 meters?

Here in the US, height below 4'10" is actually considered a disability. A 4'9" person can get handicap placards (for priority car parking)... special scholarships for college/university... and more.

how tall are you?

[jacquesvol]

@redeyemindtricks 1m46 or 1.47

[jacquesvol]

nothing special in Belgium, France or Italy.

[jacquesvol]

Yes, she has a problem to find adult shoes her size.

[redeyemindtricks]

1.46 is almost exactly 4'9.5"... 1.47 is closer to 4'10". Still... yeah that's pretty short.

I have trouble finding MY size of shoes, too (41.5 or 42 in euro sizes... US 11.5-12).
I'm just lucky that lots of top designers actually go up to size 42 -- because, when I *do* find my size, it's very often on BIG discounts, at outlets, etc. I have one pair of boots that was originally marked at US$3,795 that I got for about $400. (:

If I were a size bigger, there would really be almost nothing out there, unless I got things custom-made.

[jacquesvol]

@redeyemindtricks My wife wears a 35 (Euro size)

[Asker]

I am OK with it I wish there are some guys who are ready to OK with it.

[redeyemindtricks]

Oh, 35 isn't a freaky size. Almost every top designer's shoe lines start with size 35.

Even better -- sizes 35/35.5/36 (and 41/41.5/42) tend to actually make it to the sale period, and/or go to outlets... versus the sizes in the middle, which tend to sell out at full price for the most desirable models.

I mean... I don't know about yr country, but, if you went to the designer outlets at Cabazon (California) or Woodbury (NY) here in the states, yr wife would find LOTS of designer shoes in her size, at *amazing* prices.
She would almost certainly find lots of good stuff here, too:
www.themall.it/en/outlet-italy/homepage.html

She'd pay even less for the Italian brands there, since those outlets are actually in Italy. If she likes Gucci shoes in particular, there are TONS there, since that's the outlet for Florence (which is Gucci's home city).

[jacquesvol]

@redeyemindtricks
top designer's shoe lines are REALLY expensive.

[redeyemindtricks]

Normally yeah... but, at outlets, not necessarily.

I have an obscene number of pairs of designer shoes, but, I've gotten *most* of them for approximately the same prices my "normal"-sized girlfriends would pay for shoes at mall/high-street stores.
Like... the outlets normally price them at ≈50% off the original retail price... but, when the outlets themselves have sales (usually around certain holidays here in the US, or during the "soldes"/"soldi"/"rebajas"/"rebaixes" period in Europe), they can be had for 75%, 80%, even 90% off original retail.

[jacquesvol]

@redeyemindtricks In Italy or France she finds shoes at wish. In Belgium, sizes start at 36 even 37. Dutch and German influence.
Buying soes on the internet without trying them? Even if the vendor has an easy return policy, it remains difficult. And buying outside the EU is 'importing': a problem with Customs and Tax services.

[redeyemindtricks]

Yeah, makes sense. If you bought a couple pairs on a *trip* abroad, and then just removed the tags (and wore them once or twice), you could avoid the import taxes by just claiming that they're already yours... but obviously that's not possible if you're ordering from abroad and having the goods shipped.

Interesting, I didn't think the Belgian market would differ so much from the French market.

[jacquesvol]

@redeyemindtricks BENELUX ties with Germany

[redeyemindtricks]

Makes sense, thanks.

[HaveNoName]

There is nothing wrong with that height. As long as you stay in good shape, not too fat not too thin, you can be very desirable for many guys. Take care and feel good.

[HaveNoName]

What was that trick with the three dots (...) ? :)

[sp33d]

Looks was always important. People have different tastes, though. Regardless, mere appearance is never enough.

[Asker]

I am too sad about that fact. I hope I will be able to find who dont give any fck to my height

[heavenlyhannah]

Most guys love short girls imao so what are you talking about? I'm 5'7 by the way.

[Asker]

Joking? I have never met a guy who like short girls?

[heavenlyhannah]

That's surprising

[Negrodamuss]

Give me a break. Girls care waaaaaaay more about height than men ever will

[Anonymous]

Short girls hate being short, tall girls hate being tall... WTF?

I don't really care about a girls height...

[Asker]

why tall girls hate being tall? all guys want tall girls?

[Opinion Owner]

Because they are scared that they will be taller than their boy friend.

Guys don't care about height, some guys only care about being taller than their girlfriend.

Me personally I love short petite girls :)

[Asker]

well as a 5'1 girl I would want to be 6'

[Opinion Owner]

Why?

[Asker]

because in my country, being tall is equavalent of being beautifull.

[Opinion Owner]

What country is this?

[Opinion Owner]

Men do care about personality... It seems like you are just very insecure about your height

[Kantana]

I'm 6'3 so I don't know how well 5'1 will work out.

[Asker]

Nobody wants a 5'1 girl trust me

[AirForceOne]

How tall are you? Short guys might have a small man complex so to speak.

[AirForceOne]

So, you wish you were taller then. I'm 6'4". I've dated shorter women consistently. (I will say the shortest was about 5'2".) I also dated two girls that were right around 6'.

They were both psychos, so I'm sticking to short girls until proven otherwise lol.

[Anonymous]

because it is the first thing that grabs attention before knowing the person.