Should I be single forever if I don't wanna do oral sex?

Question

So I've been seeing guys and casually dating them, I haven't had sex before which I don't mind doing if I meet a guy who actually really likes me for more than sex and if I meet a guy I really like but the thing is I don't wanna do oral sex (I mean I guess I don't mind hj but I NEVER wanna do bj I just find it really gross) but from the guys on here it seems like most of them can't live without it so should I just be single forever? (I never want kids or anything in the future btw)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Then you should be fine remaining single forever because you did say you don't want kids or anything in the future. I think similar, I really don't need to nor do I really care about having a traditional family with kids.

You don't have to or need to give oral sex if you do not want to, but just don't make any demands for a guy to go down on you and give you oral sex either when you're together in a relationship. Unless they are okay about giving you oral sex and never getting any blowjobs in return throughout the entire time you two are together.

I think it's become something they commonly desire, because they want to experience it and know how it feels and because it looks good to them and if other guys are receiving blowjobs from girls, then they also want it to. See something they like, thus they want to try it too, especially if they haven't experienced it before.

There are guys that would love to find a girl that is willing to give really good head and swallow his load when he cums as it's not easy or common to find many girls that are willing to swallow they cum.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nah, I actually am no fan of bjs. They're cool, but they're not necessary.

Don't be talked into giving one. Don't let society, socially program you and peer pressure you into sexual tasks you don't want to perform, but decide to "for your man". Hate when girls say that.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

I never fully understood women who thought blowjobs were gross - it's really no more gross than getting splooge all over your hands, or eating before washing your hands, or having sex in general. If you're okay with it being INSIDE your body then what's the difference if it's in your mouth?

Either way, there are SOME people who would be okay with it, but they're the minority. Oral sex is a beautiful thing in my opinion and a lot of people (myself included) wouldn't be interested in dating somebody that is that sexually closed off. However there's someone out there for everyone.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I also never want to give head, but when Im married, I'll give it a go. If I dont like it, then we'll find other ways to pleasure each other. Dont let a boy whos not ever going to commit to you pressure you into sucking him off. If he forces you, you have the right to bite his shit as hard as you can ;-)

lostgirl_searching · Accepted Answer

Every guy is different many of friends boyfriends doesn't do oral My boyfriend never asked me do it either. Some guys thinks it's degrading. You will find a guy that doesn't care about it.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Honestly, I could take them, or leave them. I wouldn't consider it a deal breaker, if a woman never wanted to give oral. In fact, I actually dated a girl like that, and it was never a problem.

I don't really get much out of them, anyway, to be completely honest. I very, very rarely ever orgasm from one, so I've always considered them foreplay, anyway.

I wouldn't turn one down, if offered, because of the sensual nature of them, rather than the actual feeling, but I never ask for one.

You might have trouble finding a guy that won't mind, but they're out there.

normalice · Answer

yeah, some guys aren't into them. Sexual compatibility is tricky because it's not something you can easily discuss upon first meeting, but it's a topic that will come up eventually, after you've already become attached. Then things get complicated. This, I think, is one of the main benefits to online dating - you can list your sexual preferences and restrictions as part of your profile/match questions, and you can get that information out there without saying it.

Personally, I like blowjobs, but anal is more important. If I found a girl who refused to give blowjobs, but asked for anal every day, that wouldn't be ideal, but it would certainly be more than sufficient.

MikeAndMolly · Answer

Don't ever do anything you're not comfortable with. If there's some line you don't want to cross, that's perfectly okay and you should find someone who respects that.

Understand that means finding someone you're compatible with. There are guys out there who don't really care much for stuff like that. Other guys shouldn't try to change you, but remember that you can't change other guys either.

I like to give and receive oral sex and I couldn't be with someone who doesn't. Lots of guys feel the same way, but there are lots of guys who don't. You should find someone who can make you happy and who you can make happy.

It's just like the thing you said about not wanting kids; you need to find someone who also doesn't want kids, not just keep dating guys who want them and hope they'll change their minds.

I want a family, and if my girlfriend didn't, we wouldn't be together right now.

Djaaaay · Answer

Most girls , especially virgin girls will offer this as an alternative instead , although most guys will not ask you to perform knowing your position. It just depends on your guy friend. Then again , there's a big difference between boys and older men.

madhatters4 · Answer

don't make your life decisions based on impressions you get from this website

there are plenty of guys who are fine with never having oral in their relationship. there are plenty of guys who don't like oral at all

SarahsSummer · Answer

I think at some point when you meet the right guy, you'll attempt it and either love the experience, love his reaction or both, and subsequently open up and say aah again. Lol.

McCurious · Answer

FYI I've read posts and questions from gals on this site wondering why their boyfriends don't want blowjobs.

Has anyone every given YOU oral sex? Did you enjoy it? I don't think you're obligated to give BJs, but one aspect of sex is giving pleasure and happiness to the other person. Perhaps you might think about trying it - slowly, gently, maybe just a little bit at first - and seeing if it really as gross as you had imagined. And learning to enjoy being on the receiving end too.

Anonymous · Answer

There are some guys who aren't into them, but not many, so you'll likely have to find 5 guys you're compatible with to find 1 who is fine with it.

A higher proportion would be okay with 'very rarely'. If you're just dating for a while, whatever fun you have is great. But long term, even if something isn't your favorite, if you kind of want it, and feel like everyone else does it, and your partner could do it, but refuses to do it -ever- it can end up gnawing at things.

Anonymous · Answer

You'll never have to worry about having kids if you do oral sex but believe it or not they're actually are a rare few that don't actually like getting it, you just need to find one of those guys so I guess you need to talk about those things in the beginning , no need to be single just because of other people's preferences since there are so many different types of people

Anonymous · Answer

Nope and if they get mad at you and leave after saying no to a bj then obviously you know what they were doing with you in the first place and they did you a solid by letting you know what kind of person you are early on. If your going to be with someone they have to care about your wants, needs and are comfortable with too... if someone walks away because of a BJ then good riddance, I'd send them a thankyou note!

SngBirdy · Answer

" it seems like most of them can't live without it".
Thats new to me and im certain thats bullshit.

Its normal for young girls or virgins to not be fond of oral sex. Trust me when i tell you thats going to change when you become older.
It goes for guys too.

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

I've heard of people having sex this way: He goes down on her till she gets off, she goes down on him just until he's hard or not at all, and he cums from sex. It's common apparently.

akiios · Answer

Ouch! 😲
No bj? That is sad. But leaving you for that reason is crazy , girl don't worry about people like that. You will find someone who will accept you as you are. And stop talking nonsense about being single for life time 😒😒 cheer up !!! 😁

Nik1hil · Answer

Well, fine let's skip the blowjob!. But you will have to let me eat that Pussy!.. Otherwise it's a deal breaker!..

Xfitchick · Answer

Of course not. Everybody has its favorites and sex should be enjoyable for both partners. There are many other ways to stimulate each other and enjoy.

TadCurious · Answer

I don't think you should feel like you'll be single forever. I'm sure there are guys who wouldn't feel like you're sexually incompatible because you won't do oral.

white_heart · Answer

I find BJ gross too. well just be honest and tell your guy that you dont like it

Moezan · Answer

I mean you do you girl, you shouldn't be forced into anything, and I wouldn't leave a girl over that reason lol.
But I'm curious, if you're okay with sex, how are you not okay with oral? I'd understand if the guy hasn't washed his dick or whatever, but assuming it's clean, what's disgusting about it lol?

neilsmart · Answer

every guys wants his d**k sucked so you will need to learn

Kachatterjee · Answer

No reason to be single. Many people don't have oral sex

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