- Anonymous(25-29)+1 y
Then you should be fine remaining single forever because you did say you don't want kids or anything in the future. I think similar, I really don't need to nor do I really care about having a traditional family with kids.
You don't have to or need to give oral sex if you do not want to, but just don't make any demands for a guy to go down on you and give you oral sex either when you're together in a relationship. Unless they are okay about giving you oral sex and never getting any blowjobs in return throughout the entire time you two are together.
I think it's become something they commonly desire, because they want to experience it and know how it feels and because it looks good to them and if other guys are receiving blowjobs from girls, then they also want it to. See something they like, thus they want to try it too, especially if they haven't experienced it before.
There are guys that would love to find a girl that is willing to give really good head and swallow his load when he cums as it's not easy or common to find many girls that are willing to swallow they cum.20 Reply
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- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
Nah, I actually am no fan of bjs. They're cool, but they're not necessary.
Don't be talked into giving one. Don't let society, socially program you and peer pressure you into sexual tasks you don't want to perform, but decide to "for your man". Hate when girls say that.17 Reply- Asker+1 y
Omg thank you that's what I've been saying!!! I don't get why people do things they don't wanna do and use the excuses "for your man" I mean if your man knows you don't like to and forces you to do it well for me at least he wojdlnt he my man anymore because that shows that he doesn't give a shit about me and he just only wants sexual things. It's good to know there's still good guys like you out there!
- Opinion Owner+1 y
Thank you, thank you!! It's even better to know there are girls out there that don't allow themselves to be persuaded by guys like you said... that put there own sexual needs above there girls. It's should be equal and not about where he wants to put his dick all the time, and girls doing it for there man.
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Thanks! Hopefully I meet a guy that thinks like you do in the future lol but yeah it definitely should be equal! Otherwise if he wants to put his sexual needs about you and try's to make you do that he only sees you as a sex toy or something and the girls that do it just for there man even tho they don't want to are not really respecting themselves like you never see guys saying "just doing it for my girl" (doing something they hate just because there girl wants to)
- Opinion Owner+1 y
You will, just don't settle for a selfish douche bag lol. And Haha exactly, exactly!! I've not once seen a guy "do it for his girl", not once.
- Asker+1 y
lol yeah I definitely don't settle which is why I've only had 1 boyfriend ever lol and hahah yeah same I haven't seen a guy say that before ever not even once like you said so I don't get why some girls do lol but then they'd be like "oh if you don't do it he will cheat because another girl will" well if he cheats and does it with another girl she can keep him I don't want him
- Opinion Owner+1 y
Haha, I truly didn't think any girls had this style of mindset anymore, this is refreshing to see you think this way haha. It's crazy because I've seen like you said so many times, girls find any reason to put themselves 2nd to there man.
I've seen that too, girls doing it because if not he'll go to someone who will. It's like you said, by all means, let him and tell him not to come crawling back after he's gotten with a girl with little self respect that does things to please someone other than herself lol. - Asker+1 y
Lol yeah people who do that don't really know there self worth or something and don't have a lot of self respect for themselves because a relationship should be where both people are equal and haha it's nice to see someone like you who thinks that way because most guys want you to put yourlsff second and do everything they want even if you don't want to just because they're so used to from other girls doing that but for me nah I won't, I have self respect and I want things to be equal if he doesn't want that I'll hold the door open for him lol
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I never fully understood women who thought blowjobs were gross - it's really no more gross than getting splooge all over your hands, or eating before washing your hands, or having sex in general. If you're okay with it being INSIDE your body then what's the difference if it's in your mouth?
Either way, there are SOME people who would be okay with it, but they're the minority. Oral sex is a beautiful thing in my opinion and a lot of people (myself included) wouldn't be interested in dating somebody that is that sexually closed off. However there's someone out there for everyone.42 Reply- +1 y
- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
I also never want to give head, but when Im married, I'll give it a go. If I dont like it, then we'll find other ways to pleasure each other. Dont let a boy whos not ever going to commit to you pressure you into sucking him off. If he forces you, you have the right to bite his shit as hard as you can ;-)
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Every guy is different many of friends boyfriends doesn't do oral
My boyfriend never asked me do it either. Some guys thinks it's degrading. You will find a guy that doesn't care about it.22 Reply- +1 y
I'm a virgin and I want to wait, so it was hard finding a guy, but I never gave up.
- Asker+1 y
Good for you for finding a guy that that waited for you! I agree I think it's degrading too








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+1 yHonestly, I could take them, or leave them. I wouldn't consider it a deal breaker, if a woman never wanted to give oral. In fact, I actually dated a girl like that, and it was never a problem.
I don't really get much out of them, anyway, to be completely honest. I very, very rarely ever orgasm from one, so I've always considered them foreplay, anyway.
I wouldn't turn one down, if offered, because of the sensual nature of them, rather than the actual feeling, but I never ask for one.
You might have trouble finding a guy that won't mind, but they're out there.20 Reply2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. yeah, some guys aren't into them. Sexual compatibility is tricky because it's not something you can easily discuss upon first meeting, but it's a topic that will come up eventually, after you've already become attached. Then things get complicated. This, I think, is one of the main benefits to online dating - you can list your sexual preferences and restrictions as part of your profile/match questions, and you can get that information out there without saying it.
Personally, I like blowjobs, but anal is more important. If I found a girl who refused to give blowjobs, but asked for anal every day, that wouldn't be ideal, but it would certainly be more than sufficient.10 Reply- +1 y
Don't ever do anything you're not comfortable with. If there's some line you don't want to cross, that's perfectly okay and you should find someone who respects that.
Understand that means finding someone you're compatible with. There are guys out there who don't really care much for stuff like that. Other guys shouldn't try to change you, but remember that you can't change other guys either.
I like to give and receive oral sex and I couldn't be with someone who doesn't. Lots of guys feel the same way, but there are lots of guys who don't. You should find someone who can make you happy and who you can make happy.
It's just like the thing you said about not wanting kids; you need to find someone who also doesn't want kids, not just keep dating guys who want them and hope they'll change their minds.
I want a family, and if my girlfriend didn't, we wouldn't be together right now.00 Reply Most girls , especially virgin girls will offer this as an alternative instead , although most guys will not ask you to perform knowing your position. It just depends on your guy friend. Then again , there's a big difference between boys and older men.
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I'd rather have sex than a bj as long as it's safe sex and it's not with just anyone
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don't make your life decisions based on impressions you get from this website
there are plenty of guys who are fine with never having oral in their relationship. there are plenty of guys who don't like oral at all24 Reply- Asker+1 y
It's just that those guys I've dated wanted a bj or something too and after I said no we just ended the date becsuxe they wanted to leave and we never spoke again
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i hear ya. it just means that you have to keep looking for guys with similar sexual interests as you
have you ever tried oral? - Asker+1 y
Yeah I tried but I just couldn't do it it didn't feel right
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gotcha... well not saying you have to do it, because no one she feel they have to. but perhaps it just would take time and practice for you to feel comfortable
but that aside there are guys out there who would be fine with no oral sex in a relationship. so i wouldn't give up
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I think at some point when you meet the right guy, you'll attempt it and either love the experience, love his reaction or both, and subsequently open up and say aah again. Lol.
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Just read your update. Some guys are pigs. They used to be happy with a kiss at the end of a first date. But like I said, things may change when you meet the right guy.
FYI I've read posts and questions from gals on this site wondering why their boyfriends don't want blowjobs.
Has anyone every given YOU oral sex? Did you enjoy it? I don't think you're obligated to give BJs, but one aspect of sex is giving pleasure and happiness to the other person. Perhaps you might think about trying it - slowly, gently, maybe just a little bit at first - and seeing if it really as gross as you had imagined. And learning to enjoy being on the receiving end too.20 Reply- Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 y
There are some guys who aren't into them, but not many, so you'll likely have to find 5 guys you're compatible with to find 1 who is fine with it.
A higher proportion would be okay with 'very rarely'. If you're just dating for a while, whatever fun you have is great. But long term, even if something isn't your favorite, if you kind of want it, and feel like everyone else does it, and your partner could do it, but refuses to do it -ever- it can end up gnawing at things.30 Reply - Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 y
You'll never have to worry about having kids if you do oral sex but believe it or not they're actually are a rare few that don't actually like getting it, you just need to find one of those guys so I guess you need to talk about those things in the beginning , no need to be single just because of other people's preferences since there are so many different types of people
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Yeah those are things you will need to bring up since you will lose most guys once you tell them that unless it's just a hook up, I myself would never be in a relationship who would never do that since most will, what if the guy says ok but likes rimming or anal? Would you do that? Some guys may always want that if you are not giving them oral
- Asker+1 y
No I would definitely NOT do anal either only regular/normal sex
- Opinion Owner+1 y
Yeah that's what I consider gross too but that's another thing some guys want so be aware, but I can't believe some guys were expecting a bj on the first date though
- Asker+1 y
From my experience it seems like all guys only want sex and nothing more than that, maybe I should stop online dating, guys in real life never appexh me either too but I personally would never be with a guy who wanted that it's so gross more gross than bj I don't know why it's so hard to find a decent guy these days?
- Opinion Owner+1 y
Decent guys still want oral but not right away and will wait for sex when the time is right , I never expect anything right away, I like to get to know them for awhile and be in a relationship first
- Anonymous(36-45)+1 y
Nope and if they get mad at you and leave after saying no to a bj then obviously you know what they were doing with you in the first place and they did you a solid by letting you know what kind of person you are early on. If your going to be with someone they have to care about your wants, needs and are comfortable with too... if someone walks away because of a BJ then good riddance, I'd send them a thankyou note!
20 Reply 384 opinions shared on Dating topic. " it seems like most of them can't live without it".
Thats new to me and im certain thats bullshit.
Its normal for young girls or virgins to not be fond of oral sex. Trust me when i tell you thats going to change when you become older.
It goes for guys too.00 Reply2.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Well, fine let's skip the blowjob!. But you will have to let me eat that Pussy!.. Otherwise it's a deal breaker!..
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I wojdlnt mind if the guy did that altho I wouldn't expect him to
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I've heard of people having sex this way: He goes down on her till she gets off, she goes down on him just until he's hard or not at all, and he cums from sex. It's common apparently.
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If he leaves after no bj then that's all he wanted.
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This popped up in the feed and I saw your update. If he leaves after no bj, he didn't want you anyway asker. It was just a date. It's funny guys can do this, and don't say anything about going down on her! Only some guys are like this though, I don't think it's most.
Ouch! 😲
No bj? That is sad. But leaving you for that reason is crazy , girl don't worry about people like that. You will find someone who will accept you as you are. And stop talking nonsense about being single for life time 😒😒 cheer up !!! 😁20 ReplyOf course not. Everybody has its favorites and sex should be enjoyable for both partners. There are many other ways to stimulate each other and enjoy.
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I don't think you should feel like you'll be single forever. I'm sure there are guys who wouldn't feel like you're sexually incompatible because you won't do oral.
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I find BJ gross too. well just be honest and tell your guy that you dont like it
30 Reply I mean you do you girl, you shouldn't be forced into anything, and I wouldn't leave a girl over that reason lol.
But I'm curious, if you're okay with sex, how are you not okay with oral? I'd understand if the guy hasn't washed his dick or whatever, but assuming it's clean, what's disgusting about it lol?00 Replyevery guys wants his d**k sucked so you will need to learn
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I don't. I'm not that into it.
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No reason to be single. Many people don't have oral sex
20 Reply I've had sex with three women and none of them have given me oral. I did not break up with them for that reason
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That's not being selfish at all and its not even being a bitch at all lmao sheesh don't you know the definition of those things? I don't expect the guy to do it either if I expected him to do it to me then that would be selfish
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to answer your question
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every guy expects to have his d**k sucked regularly. I dislike chicks that are really precious about their throats. you need to get practising!!
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Nooo I'll never do that especially if they're demanding just the way you said. Hopefully it's not every guy and if it is I'd rather be single forever becsixe I'm not gonna let my dignity down since it's degrading I'm not a sex toy.
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I would never go out with a girl that refuses to deepthroat
- Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 y
probably single for ever if you're not willing to go down on him/her
00 Reply - Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
Yeah, you should probably be single forever. My motto is, if she doesn't blow, she has gotta go.
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Hopefully not all guys are disrespectful as you girls as not sex toys. And clearly it seems like that's what you want from your "motto"
- Anonymous(30-35)+1 y
no u shouldn't
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