If a guy talks for 2-3 hours a night on the phone with you, is he interested in you?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy for about 5 days. Of those 5 days, we have talked on the phone for 2-3 hours, three times... He has led a really remarkable life, so a lot of the conversation is me asking him questions, listening to his insane stories. I'm just wondering if this is going anywhere real. We met off of a dating site, but people don't necessarily have to date off of there. He asked for my number, he texts me throughout the day, he sends me pictures of his neighborhood, but he doesn't ask about me. He doesn't ask about the deep, personal stuff. Only I ask the probing questions. I've heard and read from multiple sources that if a man cares about you, he will want to know all about you. Also, he has seen pictures of me, I have seen pictures of him and being perfectly honest, zero humility, he is more attractive than me. Should I take all the evidence to mean he probably just isn't all that into me? And probably he's just... bored and happy to talk to someone outside of his normal life?

[natured]

It all depends, nobody will know for sure what's in his head, and please do me a favor, don't drive yourself crazy reading stupid blogs, because they will make you think and do the stupidest stuff ever, trust me I've been there i've done that and i never had a happy ending, just be yourself, if he doesn't ask about your life don't ask him either, and just keep a normal conversation, maybe try to tell him about your life without him asking, but don't run that much after him, he seems like a big mouth to me with lots of promises but no actions... at least i am seeing it that way... so my advice again : Be yourself, don't let yourself down, don't chase him and nobody else in this world, enjoy your life

[NyomiMcClinton]

From what you have shared, it sounds like the guy is into you. I can promise you, no guy will spend that much time on the phone with someone who they do not like or is not interested in. There are a lot of men who dont ask deep questions like we do as females do. They just dont. They doesn't mean that they aren't interested in you.

[Anonymous]

Since he isn't making an effort to get to know you and ask questions about you then I would just assume he's just looking for someone he can talk/brag to u. Seems more into himself than you

[AlienIshboo]

he's expending a lot of effort to talk to you, and texts you throughout the day. either he has nothing better to do all day than text random girls a lot in the hopes of getting laid... or he's got a job like any sensible adult and just can't resist texting you. if he didn't care, you'd get a lot of one word answers and hardly any attention.

don't worry if he doesn't probe you with questions... most of us forget to do that. sounds like he's happy you're taking an interest.

[Asker]

How do you forget to ask questions? Lol. Don't you want to know about who you're talking to? Don't you want to make sure you aren't wasting your time on someone who doesn't fit well woth you?

[AlienIshboo]

you're giving us too much credit... most of that doesn't even occur to us lol

[Asker]

Lmao. Great. Times like these I wish I wasn't into men.

[AlienIshboo]

take him for a spin! try a date! ;)

[Asker]

I can't, he's across the country from me lol.

[AlienIshboo]

ah. that i'does complicate things lol

[Asker]

Yeah lol. It'll probably die down in a few days as most things do.

[redxiii74]

that much intensity I have used that before in order to sleep with somebody and usually works within about a month or less.
Dropping your guard, sending b
back pix, telling sexrets, needing massages and booze or dancing and weed, art show and combine any of the above... bam! it passes the time, but eventuly guys do grow up... and then God punishes you and you get a daughter 😒😒😒

[Asker]

Lmao. I'm across the country from him so sleeping together is off the table.

[redxiii74]

lol never say never

[redxiii74]

I had a girl get on a ✈ I paid for from Florida to Texas.. whole whirl wind.. bam.. so just saying be careful

[Asker]

You did all that just to get laid? :(

[redxiii74]

I can afford it

[Asker]

But why not sleep with someone more local? Why did it have to be someone out of state? Or was it all about the chase and getting a girl to act irrationally?

[redxiii74]

The chase and her interest, 300$ rd trip nothing, you crunch on how much you might spend on local almost the same.. This way you show off your town and play tour guide

[Asker]

But did you want a relationship with her? Or just to have one special day?

[redxiii74]

from a rational perspective I gave some girl an awesome weekend and great sex and now she has a story "your welcome" lol

[Asker]

Lmao. Great. Juuuuust great.

[redxiii74]

its sorta a win/win. Never pay for your own flight! I knew a guy who would ask them to pay to come see him that's just Bad Karma

[redxiii74]

so the irony is I ended up marrying local having a kid and divorcing, now DTR is 9 and I watch her like a hawk stressing me the fuck out, but I'll try to get her to listen but learn on her own 😂😂

[Asker]

Lol! I would feel really guilty having my stuff paid for. It creates this dynamic where you owe the guy.

[redxiii74]

you could tell whether or not it's going to financially strapped someone or it costs them nothing

[Asker]

Still. Owing is owing!

[redxiii74]

no its relative, you owe a guy something for buying a 18$ martini or getting you a Mani gift card$ No. I played That out 4x in two years only slept with 2 lol playing odds. A real man will never hold any of those purchases against you

[Asker]

That's just awkward to me lol. An 18$ martini... what the hell was in it? Lmao. A real woman can pay for her own manicures :p

[redxiii74]

a real woman has the Grace to accept gifts... 😎
you seem sharp and perceptive , probably a closet romantic lol GL

[Asker]

You have a point there :)

I don't think of myself as a romantic at all. That would suck majorly. Romantics are absolutely hopeless :x

[redxiii74]

lol that's why I said "closet"

[Alfredgreene1]

he's interested. End of story. How can't he be interested with that much commitment.

Be open with him, and let him do his thing. Its not often a woman has the balls to ask the questions. Your a rare gem and im sure he sees it. Be up front

[kilowatt04]

Maybe he does not know how to ask deeply personal questions or is afraid it will be taken badly. I would certainly think he is into you talking that long.

[dolemite68]

he likes you, guys don't put in that much time on a girl they're not attracted to

[John_Doesnt]

He is probably gay/girl. No man should talk over the phone that long.

[Anonymous]

"You met off of a dating site, but people don't neccessarily have to date off of there." - what exactly does that mean?

[Asker]

You can check off what you're looking to get out of the site like dating or just friendship. It doesn't have to be romantic.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok. Well, why don't you just ask him straight up what he's looking for from you? And why do you think he's more attractive than you? Just because of the pictures?

[Asker]

He's not... normal. Lol. He's very gentlemanly and I don't want to scare him off by being super direct. I already poked his brain so much, I'm not sure I should keep poking... Also, I don't want to have to ask... It would feel more authentic coming from him naturally. As for attractiveness, yes, he just is better-looking in the pictures. He's more fit, more traditionally good-looking.

[lucky1234567]

He is surely interested in you, just try to flirt as much as you can.

[Anonymous]

it changes person to person , if you2re the only one he talks that long then yes he likes u

[Anonymous]

nah, he clearly hates you and doesn't want to hear from you

[RandomGuyAnswering]

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[FadedSkull]

yeah, he is most likely interested in you

[troychapman]

yeah he probably isn't into you

[Daniizaguy]

i would say extremely probable! extremely!!

[akadatank44]

Yeah definitely shows interest.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

Probably