I found a bobby pin in his bed that wasn't mine?

[cherryxoxoxxx]

I am really upset because this is a guy I really like and we have been sleeping together but we are not exclusive yet.

He made it seem like I was the only girl so I don't understand...

what should i do?

[Wolf_D]

Open and honest is the best way to go and if he is willing to be that with you then know you may not always like the answer.
He maybe keeping that from you thinking it would hurt you but as you are not exclusive then he has the right. Alternatively, if he is actively hiding it even after you say something then that is a problem.
If you are thinking about changing the relationship talk to him and see if he is in the same place. He may or may not want to keep things open. Which means he may or may not already have others.

[JhonnyMA]

By not "exclusive yet" you mean that he is not your boyfriend? Ok I'll take tha he's not... you should talk with home and say how you're feeling, in a relationship we have to be open and talk about everything that you're feeling, it's the best way of solving problems...

[shhimsleeping]

I agree. This is something can be handled simply. It can be as simple as, "So, I know we haven't really established where we are in this relationship but, I feel like we could really be something. I know this is a little out of the blue but, do you feel the same?". I feel like this is an awkward topic to just bring up out of nowhere, but it's better than blowing up about it. If you say yourself, that it's not exclusive, as far as he is concerned, he isn't doing anything wrong. Just keeping his options open, in case you might not be feeling him. It's okay to be jealous and insecure about how he really feels right now, because it's not exclusive. From my understanding of the phrase, that means, nothing is for certain. You want certainty, you have to ask for it. Don't take this as a sign he doesn't like you, take it as a sign that you care enough to want to solidify this relationship.

[JhonnyMA]

Yeah, you're totally right, you expressed everything I was thinking when I answered it...

[shhimsleeping]

Lol.

[luvstoned4him]

I know you have fears but its just a bobby pin. Maybe if you see some lipstick stains or a pair of panties that aren't yours , We could get nervous. Besides those things are everywhere.

[mooky06]

Tell him how you feel and tell him how much you liked him. It's kind of a tricky topic because you guys aren't exclusive

[killerlady]

maybe its from his ex? i know a few guys who are so messy and never clean under their bed for example..

[cherryxoxoxxx]

it was IN his bed

[mellough1]

Tell him how you feel and that you found a bobby pin on his bed.

[Kaylyne]

I really don't see the problem, you're not exclusive, he's not your boyfriend, therefore you are both still free agents.

[Kaylyne]

Thank you for the MHO.

[SleepyChan]

Find someone else. If you were to become exclusive, what will stop him from cheating?

[Mattccc]

make it official or he'll think it's okay to sleep around

[cherryxoxoxxx]

Why would you want to sleep around if you actually like a girl? I feel like he obviously doesn't even like me if he wants to sleep around still

[Mattccc]

he wants to sleep around bc he likes to screw hot girls. Regardles of how he feels for you

[zagor]

Look at the bright side - maybe he is a masochist who likes inserting a bobby pin into his urethra.

[Nandor]

Aboww... you are not the only one. He betrayed you and you are just going to sit back? Wooww

[zombiebabe]

you have to ask him about it

[Joseph_Stalin]

ask him if he's got a woman in his lifeeee