Why are guys on online dating so f*ing creepy?

[Anonymous]

Here are just a few of the guys who try to contact me through an online dating site. I'm 30, decently attractive, well educated, with a successful career. WTF do these type of men think I would be attracted to them? These are the type of men that turn women off online dating!

[Comawhite666]

There are creepy guys on any site you use, paid or not. This is the reason I was really sceptical of online dating myself but I found sucess with OKcupid. You can filter out the age ranges/relationship type you want and look up interests and shows % matches~ my boyfriend and I were 87% compatible on there :)

I used my profile pic here on the dating site and got a lot of genuine attention as I didn't show off my body/cleavage or try to look sexy~ no filters either. A few guys said that I stood out a lot. If you're using a sexual style picture then you will probably get any and every mans attention. If a guy keeps messaging you and harassing you then just block them, it's not a huge deal if you ignore them and just block.

[Asker]

Yeah, Zoosk is just pathetic. You'd think if you pay for a service, you would at least have control over who contacts you, but no. It's a waste of money. Thanks for the suggestion though; I may check out OKCupid.

[Anonymous]

It’s not nice to post people’s photos and roast them. Did they do anything except view your profile?

[Being_a_good_Indian]

This is my story.

Most of people on this site are blaming Guys are Creepy and Perverted. As most of people might be aware that I post answers in Sexual Behaviour and Sexual Health topic to help people.

I had posted legitimate opinion.

That girl is sending me this message to Finger her Pussy and to do Sexting.

Now I am asking you people.

Why you Girls blame Guys that we are Creepy and Perverted?

From my point of view the reason are the girls who create different account every night to do their ritual

This is my personal opinion.

[Asker]

That's clearly a fake account made by an escort in order to solicit men for money.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

I had received that message.
Based on my experience on this site I came to conclusion that Most of girls are creating different accounts for sexting with strangers.

Yeah, I can understand your concern.

You are not alone who is receiving such messages.

If you've ever signed up for Tinder or OkCupid, chances are you've received a raunchy message at least once.

These are men whose weak social mores are bolstered by their desperation to get laid. (There are real criminal creeps out there, but that's a different story.)

For detailed understanding Read this articles.

www.cosmopolitan.com.au/.../why-men-are-weirder-online-2410

www.cosmopolitan.com/.../

[HGG3805]

I hear that most dating sites are full of male turkeys. That the nice guys are the minority. Pretty sad.
One lady I was talking to recently showed me the list of "winks" she had received on her cell phone as being a new member on this dating site. There were 100+ recent contacts from guys. No kidding.

[Asker]

This site in particular has no form of quality control. You'd think if you pay for a service, that you would at least have the option of filtering who can contact you based on your preferences.

[HGG3805]

Totally agree. Perhaps you need to find a different site.

[SteveSmith1985]

Honestly... this just made me feel a whole lot better.

I'm really sorry that this is what you're having to wade-through... but... I'm glad that's what I'm competing with. Wow... I really can't remember the last time someones question made me feel better like this. I... know that doesn't really help you... and I'm sorrry about that.

You don't happen to live in Toronto, and might be open to going out for a coffee with me?

No? Well, now I'm out of ideas.

Don't worry... there are other guys out there. There... definitely are. Maybe try a different dating site? Just... hang-in-there. It always seems hopeless until the moment you meet the right guy. 🙂

[TheSimFans]

is also happen to me lot on disabled dating sites and they are lot older then me. I'm 24 year old and got a baby face. i did put age range in my profiled when i did use disabled dating sites but they knew is was wrong but still end up trying to messaging me. the common one i see one on disabled dating that age is just number and is was also on freedating. co. uk that happen onces but i can used the blocked feature on freedating. co. uk but i can't used on disabled dating since the creep can still messing me. that why i two dating sites and one app. the dating sites is facebook dating and app is badoo you can filter age out for both facebook dating and badoo.

[Levin]

Those guys should be sorry for even daring to glance at you, your majesty ;)

Are they actually messaging you or just browsing your profile? I mean, desperate people exist. Maybe you should have more compassion if they're not actually bothering you? Just use better filters. Something like tinder only allows people to message you if you match.

[Asker]

There are no filters on this site whatsoever, so anyone can message you. It's a colossal waste of money if you ask me.

[Levin]

Online dating is bad in general I think. Maybe cut your losses? Or join a different site? What about the hot guys?

[Asker]

They are few and far between on this site. I've complained to Zoosk that I am unhappy with their services (I mean, I could get the same service for free through POF). I'm ready to cut my losses and call it quits.

[TheSimFans]

yep they even on disabled dating sites too where you can't not control anything. that i like badoo and some facebook dating since show you more in common interested and pass by it the creeps. then lot older then me. i'm 24 year old and got baby face. the facebook dating is younger 18-30+ are only one that i seen since i also can filter age on both facebook dating and badoo is very good with lot of safety feature chat requst before you can accept it or delete. if you don't like the person. facebook dating has be done through facebok social media then see loveheat on 3 lines and said dating on it.

[TheSimFans]

loveheart meant

[Edouard_X]

I was on a dating site not long ago. You might be surprised by the look of some of the women who contacted me. 75% of the women who contacted me lied about themselves, either about their age or their look (posting 10 year-old pictures). How many women have I accepted to meet, because I thought they were cute, only to realize that they were overweight (I'm slim and I expect the same). So much so that I adoted a policy by which I would not meet a woman if she only uploaded close-up pictures of her face; I wanted to see the whole body. Online dating is the paradise of liars, both men and women. But at the end, I finally met a really nice lady, who's a real head turner - my friends are very jealous ;)

[Mexicoman101]

At least the second to last guy was attempting a smile.

If you really don't want them to peep your profile, try showing them some of your personality.

[Asker]

Unfortunately there is no way of stopping them from viewing my profile or from contacting me.

[Mexicoman101]

Good.

[brocklee]

It is no better for us. Appearances aside, I used to get hit up by women that had absolutely nothing in common with the profile I posted. Then I would get these nasty messages when I ignored their contact.

[Smegskull]

So you are offended that these men (who you see as obviously and clearly beneath you) have the audacity to tell you they find you attractive?
And you think you deserve to find happiness?

[Asker]

Why do they think I would be interested in them? I'm paying for the service, so I expect to be shown quality men who match my preferences. And most of them are WAY older than they claim to be.

[Smegskull]

What do you mean buy quality? What are you offering that a 25 year old isn't offering for a decade longer?

[Asker]

Why should I get messages from every guy on that site? I'm paying for a service, and all it is doing is allowing all other members to contact me. I'm looking for men around my age, who share the same interests as me.

[Smegskull]

Well I can't see what their interests are but 2 of them look to be around your age. What is wrong with those 2?

[Robsinsf53]

Wow, you've got quite a selection to choose from, lmfao! Is that all that contacted you? That is like picking between slim and none.

[Asker]

Lol, no, there are many more normal guys, but there are quite a few of these.

[Robsinsf53]

I was quite sure you had normal too, lmao! But on a dead serious note, is that like the best picture, clothes and just overall photo someone could take?🤔

[Asker]

Yeah, I'm wondering that too. If that's their best, I'd hate to see their worse, lol

[Robsinsf53]

I know, they haven't figured out how to use filters yet... I'm going to stop, they might be on here, lol😅.

[Robsinsf53]

I just caught up reading and a lot of people don't seem to get the fact that you're paying ur 💰 money for their service and it's like any other. I've never used a paid service but, do you remember a couple years back Tinder had some problems. Anyway I'm going to chop this novel into a short story. I texted, chatted with a woman and meeting on Friday night. Picture was pretty so I get there. I'm looking at this woman who appears to be locked in on me. Different color and cut of hair, not 5'8 but 5'1 and not 135lbs but 180lbs. I'm going to end it here... I wasn't in the best of moods...

[TheSimFans]

@Robsinsf53 I had the same problem with disabled dating sites that didn't any flitter that didn't work and did put age range on my profile and yet still got men that too older then me try to messing me even knew they were were bit wrong.

[ohshee]

You need to find a new online dating site quick LOL

[Asker]

Seriously. Never ever use Zoosk. Lol

[ohshee]

Yah im not on that one and I work so much it's hard to even get on them but they can be fun and interesting

[Kranjec]

To be brutaly honest, good guys and the attractive ones will go for younger girls, this is why you have these people on dating sites and not in clubs tapping the youth.

[kbharadwaj3125]

Bad idea. Online dating never works. And girls who roam in bunches never give a chance to talk to them.. For a shy guy. They will probably die alone.

[N1ghts]

Believe it or not some 'decently attactive girls' do go out with guys like 'that' i mean im never one to judge but it means if sometimes it works there gonna keep trying

[N1ghts]

Not to mention they are probably on the site to look for girls i mean like you i guess. Im not saying that directly but they show that with there actions. If you think your better than them they probably are looking for someone.

[TheSimFans]

@N1ghts is happen to any youngers women or younger girl and also has happen to me since i looked younger then my age and yet get flirted on by these older age men that shouldn't be live if they creep

[sHiNii]

37 years old.. Looks like he was born in the 50's... Seems legit

[hindril]

I don't think I'm creepy looking. So, wanna try? lol. I was curious about online dating and saw your post in the search. Is it their looks that makes them creepy?

[Teyes7]

Well then go hit on only Channing Tatum and Morris Chestnut's profiles then...

[Sublime45]

The fact you judge them on their looks makes you a bigget.

[Asker]

Why not? I'm paying for a service to find men I am attracted to. It's my right if I don't want these type of guys contacting me.

[colin_3half]

I'm just relieved my photo isn't on there 😊😂 ok I don't use dating sites - probably a good thing haha

[genericname85]

they don't look creepy to me lol xD just old and ugly.

[TheSimFans]

some older men are creep when they flirting with very younger women if they pass the age of 70 or 80 . these of type of men that i got lot on disabled dating sites and one on disabled dating was about 40 but was also creep.

[genericname85]

youg girls flirting with guys that old are not creepy then?

[genericname85]

@TheSimFans like the way you're framing it, it's always the men that initiate it.

[TheSimFans]

@genericname85 I never once flirting with any older ass men. they one that kept doing it over and over and you also older then me to. this why that why lot of women complaint more about creepy men and yet you don't see.

[genericname85]

@TheSimFans the fact that "you" never did that doesn't matter.

[genericname85]

@TheSimFans this conversation isn't about "you".

[TheSimFans]

yet i'm still a women like the other women and i never seen any other women flirting with any older men when they are very youngers so what you point you just don't care about women like all the bad boys then been one then.

[genericname85]

@TheSimFans your personal annekdotal experience is representative of nothing. age doesn't care for attractiveness. if you're young, you're more likely attractive. that's just the reality of it. and the other reality of it is that younger girls like older men. and just cause you never did it doesn't mean that it's a rare occurence that young girls initiate flirting with old men.

[genericname85]

@TheSimFans you being disgusted by it just means you're butthurt cause you're now at an age, where younger girls than you are more attractive to men than you. that's a tough pill to swallow but it is what it is.

[TheSimFans]

I'm still am younger women and men still get tons' of fucking attention. with having a stupid baby face. i look like a teen age girl. yet i get tons of fukcing ass men that i don't even fucking want they all die.

[TheSimFans]

older fucking men that want them they all die

[Anonymous]

What makes them creepy? Have they sent you a message which is unpleasant? If you don’t find them attractive, that’s not the same as creepy.

[Burak-Ucan]

I guess by their looks, they don't know how to interact with women. I respect them and all, but I still don't get anything back.

[Hunter2802]

Are U sure that they aren't 80 years old lonely perverted grandpa's using their grandsons Pic?

[Anonymous]

Dating is supposed to be making connections, not making transactions 😔

[Anonymous]

Why do men on here, GAG, use fake profile photos, pretending to be HOT women

@Kellibarbie

[Anonymous]

Or you're just attracting them. I find some hot cute guys around my age pretty often regardless of what dating app I'm using

[Asker]

Your point being?

[Opinion Owner]

That's the type of men you're attracting.

[Asker]

That has nothing to do with it. It's a dating site. I have appropriate profile photos and a very detailed bio. There is nothing I am doing to attract them.

[Opinion Owner]

Still you're attracting them to go see your shit lol I can't cure denial just yet. Good luck with your guys baby have fun.

[Anonymous]

They’re creepy because of the photo you see?

[Franitz]

I don't anything wrong with second and last guy.

[es20490446e]

Have you seen women?

[sportyy]

Well , just say no , if u dont like them.

[bxbongo]

😂😂