Why are some guys such creepers?

[Anonymous]

there's a guy at my job who talks nonstop with other guys about how horrible women are, spies when i talk to other people, has asked me out once & never tried to actually follow through ( i didn't say yes by the way, cause he never asked me directly he just hinted as if he expected me to then become a man and take the lead). Then he is always randomly angry at me and accuses me of doing stuff to him (and he gets in my personal space and talks down to me). And one time he got jealous after assuming i was texting someone. Wtf? I barely even talk to him and yes you may think i did stuff to provoke all this... i didn't. Before all this i actually thought he was the most handsome guy at work. Now i see how ugly he is.

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Yeah there are guys like this. He might feel intimidated by you which is why he is always talking down to you. He also might feel threatened because he thinks he has a right to be a part of your life. I would keep an eye on that one as this sounds like it is building up and he is a ticking time bomb.

[Asker]

there's no logic involved or self reflection its absurd to me

[dsgaboy]

Think about this... How much does it take to creep out a man coming from a woman? How much does it take for a man to creep out a woman? You see the difference? Of course you do. Real question is why? It comes down to logic vs emotional thinking. When a man is talking to a woman she is processing what he's saying emotionally because that's female nature. Men process what she is saying literally, directly and logically no emotion involved at all. A lot of men and a lot of women don't know this and often get skewed about the other gender.

[MotorcycleMan]

Faulty DNA. We just can't help being creepy.
Seriously though, this guy may have some serious issues. Steer clear as much as possible.
Also, start documenting everything, and I mean everything. If you decide to go to HR with it, you'll have it all there.

[Asker]

I get the sense he has NO self awareness and ability to reflect on his inner self, its not normal at all.

[MotorcycleMan]

Yeah, I'm thinking sociopath (1 in 20 are. They're everywhere!)

[G8f84b5odid]

Wow. Yeah. How do you deal with these types? For example ths guy comea after me for NO REASON. I never go out my way to talk to him or anything like that.

[G8f84b5odid]

(Im the asker by the way just on anther account)

[MotorcycleMan]

@G8f84b5odid I avoid them as much as possible, but like I said, document everything. Just record the facts.

[Anonymous]

Simplest solution. Report it. You want good proof. Next time he's spying on you talking to others just say "how can I help you so&so cause you keep doing X behaviour".

As for his behaviour it sounds like he's awkward, maybe with a bit of mental issues, and as you say he's rather attractive used to easier girls (/sluts) who do "take the lead". As you haven't he's at a loss

[Shaggy_KW]

Dude I don't know, some of my friends have done borderline creepy stuff which is usually corrected after everyone in the group calls them out. We beat up anyone that assaults someone or says some creepy shit. Guys are just weird, especially from highschool to like early thirties

[Shengning]

Maybe you hurt his self-esteem, so the follow behavior is just the evidence of him trying to revenge you or defense for his own pride even you didn't do anything. He may feel he's been ignored underestimated because you are not like other women you didn't show anything for him

[JohnRB]

You need to make a complaint to management, or at least raise your concerns in case things get out of hand. This will help provide support later if you need it.
Also, it will help any others who have informed management of any problem with him.
Do it now because you may have cause later to regret not having done so.

[dsgaboy]

Men are wired differently, we can't have female friends because we want to bang them, we are not wired to be in the friend zone. Women can't wrap their minds around this because they're wired differently! We aren't creepy we just want sex duh!!

[BakedBeanieBabie]

Patriarchy enables the behaviour as being normal and often villainizes women who oppose it.

[Luckycharms12]

Don't know tbh to much time on there hands not sure

[Asker]

Yup he needs a hobby

[Turrorrr]

loneliness, depression and the most probably - sexual frustration, especially if it is persistent from younger age.

[Asker]

I have thosethings and i dont treat men that way

[IAMNathanael]

Yeah, that bros weird. How do all your coworkers react to him, guys and ladies? Everyone else see how weird he is?

[Asker]

He's kinda popular and I've never seen him act this way to anyone else male or female. One guy who saw one if his outbursts said he was surprised cause he never acts like that and he always seems calm. So i think either he has done this stuff to other girl (s) who didn't make a scene (like me) or they no longer work here or something cause otherwise if he acted like this to other people i doubt people would be his friend.

[Asker]

He flirts with other girls but i still never seen him get so emotional with them. Idgi.

[Asker]

Emotional/hostile/aggressive*

[_no_one_]

Desperation, mentality, mental stability, lonliness, lack of social manners and behavior knowledge.

[yucychan]

Report the incident to HR or your supervisor about it.
Don't keep silent on his bullying.

[EnglishEuropean]

It sounds like he has a personality disorder such as Borderline Personality Disorder.

[dpy87]

Might be a lack of social skills. I think also get a kick out of being creepy. They like going after someone like they're prey.

[KrakenAttackin]

He doesn't have enough sense to avoid women completely at work.

[Anonymous]

Because they have psychological issues

[NightHawk99]

One reason is mental illness.

[collie22]

well God did give us free will

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

I don't think coworkers should date anyway