What is the meaning of his texts? Does HE want a commitment?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this guy for less than 2 months, but during that time we spent like 2 weeks together on vacations (he paid for it), he bought me a bunch of things and gave me 2000euro. We also spent my birthday together. Now we haven't seen each other for 2 weeks because he is moving to a new apartment, buying furniture etc, but he calls me and we text every day, and when everything is done, he wants me to visit him. But we aren't officially in a relationship. What is the meaning of these messages? 😂😂😂

[scaredlion]

I see so many wrongs things in your q and his behaviour as well. First off, no guy who wishes to have a forever partner pays them 2k euro especially when it's not official. And even if you were in a relationship, unless you were in a dire situation you shouldn't have accepted them. And it's not nice to go on vacation and not contribute in anything (expenses). You show that you enjoy to get presents and have fun, and shows you don't care about commitment. But as for him, oh my god!!! He pays a person as if he wanted a sugarbabe and then creepily tells you he will forever love you? That is creepy, naive, stalker-like thinking. For two months of dating so many red flags were raised from both of you. If you have your own reasons for doing this , by all means go for it. But he seriously shows obsession. And if you don't like him the way he does, you should have a real talk. no emotes, no neutral answers just to let them hanging but real brutal talk that give a breakdown of your feelings and ambitions.

Hope it works out for you in any way

[Asker]

I really appreciate your opinion 😊 I do like him, I'm madly in love, and even though I never talk about emotions, he can probably see I feel something. Last time when we were saying goodbye I was crying and he was holding me in his arms and when my driver arrived at 4 am, he went outside to the cold in slippers and shorts and kissed me million times.

[scaredlion]

I'm glad you are in love. Then that means that your action were not taken to hurt or use anyone. Maybe you were a bit naive, but you'll learn if you look at somethings from another perspective. Also I'm sorry but for some reason the app won't show me your full reply.. Cuts off unexpectedly at "slippers". Which is a pretty normal move. He needs to check if you got in the cab safely. But you both need to stop using money in your relationship. Split the expenses for vacation if you like it, and don't give expensive presents or money as presents. It's good to show that your relationship's all about emotion. No matter how cheesy it might sound

[shadow_Crusade]

I think it's more of he's invested so much into her and it kinda just hit him he needs to know how far this will go and if u will stay with him or are you just along for the ride and leave him when it seems convenient

[scaredlion]

Hmmm I live in Greece and things like that'ss possible but don't apply to everyone. Mostly people don't invest crazy amounts

[Asker]

... slippers and shorts and kissed me a million times. And then he sent me a bunch of texts about missing me and not being able to sleep without me 😂😂😂

[Asker]

Γειά σου, Ελληνίδα 😊 Our cultures differ a bit. In our part of Europe it's normal for a guy to pay for everything. But he is giving me a lot extra stuff which I really love and I'm not planning to give up on it. He is 12 years older than me and pretty much sorted his life out, so now he says he wants to do everything for people he cares about.

[Asker]

... wants to do everything for people he cares about

[Asker]

@shadow_Crusade that makes sense, too

[That1tallguy]

That's what I was thinking definite red flag of being needy. like who t. f pays for the whole vacation and gives 2000 euros ( I'm guessing that's a lot) he sounds like a sugar daddy. I wouldn't even do that if I was wealthy

[scaredlion]

Thanks for showing me the rest of the message. Hmm we are in different countries, and let's say it's ok for guys to pay for everything by themselves, but these extras still seem ridiculously too much. I think it's not healthy as I mentioned before in both ways. You accepting it might make you greedy in the future with him or other partners. And from his side he won't ever learn to hold back. If he has a family one day and has kids they might end up spoiled and totally have different values in case of family and relationships. It's a line I think you need to work on to.

[Kenni]

Can you answer him seriously? It just seemed like you take everything he says and turn it into something funny.
It's simple what he's asking, do you like him enough to have a relationship with him yes or no. Don't blow all that ' we never know what's gonna happen in the future' smoke.

[Anonymous]

You sound like me, scared to see what might happen. I’ve missed a lot of opportunities guarding my heart like you are.

He sounds genuine. He sounds like he wants more, so let him in, I hope it works out for youZ

[Deformate]

3 possibilities. 1. You have become friends with benefits. 2. You are just a bit of fun he can string along with smooth talk. 3. He wants to take things slowly and build a foundation before committing himself. Best bet, stop dancing around the subject. If you want to be with him I sugfest being direct and telling him, not throwing out hypatheticals about the potential future. Men tend to think in straight lines. Tell us one thing and thats how it is for us. Tell us something else later and it changes to that. You start throwing out forks in the road and our sat nav melts down.

[Asker]

I didn't ask him anything. He started this conversation.

[Deformate]

In which case Im reading things from the wrong person lol.

[Deformate]

Sounds like he wants more and you have some thinking to do if you ask me.

[Asker]

Haha thanks 😊

[lord_chilled]

He was asking wether or not you are interested in a committment. And you kinda ruined it.

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂

[lord_chilled]

How are things now?

[Coldwater]

Girl what are you doing? First of all meet this man and get to know him before even thinking about any further step. If you end up liking him, let him know & show it and if you don’t then let him know, don’t drag the poor man.

[TsunamiLove]

Don't miss out on love! If you are really interested in him, stop beating around and get your man honey! Give it a try, why not, he likes you and you like him amirite? go go go!

[SarahsSummer]

Seems pretty obvious that he wants a relationship with you. What are you confused about?

[Anonymous]

He definitely wants a relationship and is asking if you want the same. Either go for it or walk away now before things get deeper for him. Don't string him along.

[Sumantmahajan]

Ya... he wants to be in relationship with u 😊👌😝

[Insanyx12]

Try things out ig