Guys, how do you feel when a girl says "I love you" first?

[Anonymous]

Or that she thinks she on her way to falling in love with you?

[MaxFox210]

Just 4 days ago a girl did that to me i won't lie it felt so good it made me happy but the problem is i like someone else , when i told her that she got hurt. It's really okay to say that to a guy but try to know first if he likes someone else or if he wants to be in a relationship if he likes U kinda the same how U like him. but again it's really okay :) .

[winterfox10]

I feel warm and fuzzy when that happens. Women usually pick the best times to say stuff like that too, so it's all romantic and stuff.

[Asker]

Do you say it back immediately or would you rather take your time?

[winterfox10]

Not right that same second, but I would definitely say it within 5-10 minutes! You want physically show the person how they make you feel, and then you want to whisper it in her ear like you're telling her your most precious secret.

[Asker]

Makes sense. I haven't really said those words to my man yet. But we were texting today, and the conversation led us in that direction. He kept asking so I said "I think I'm heading there where I can say I'm in love". He didn't reciprocate my thought, but he appreciated my honesty and took it pretty well..

[winterfox10]

You're gonna have to let him chew on that then. Don't rush anything. Don't say the words yet. Just give him a couple weeks to process what you're telling him, and then actually say it. Say it to his face too. Don't expect anything in return. Just say it really gently "Before you go, I just want you to know that I love you."

[Asker]

True! That's great advice, thank you!! I am not expecting him to reciprocate and am willing to give him time and space to think things through.. It's best when things evolve at their natural pace. :)

[winterfox10]

best of luck!

[Asker]

Thank you!

[ksoma]

I freak out.
I know if I don't reply in kind, I could greatly upset her. But I also know that if I haven't said those words yet, that I am not sure of my feelings. I never want to lead anyone on, but at the same time, a declaration like that is a huge deal, and I want to be certain I unconditionally mean it, before I say it.

[parttimelover]

I was happy when it first happened to me. Coz it meant sex. Sorry to be crude i was a teenager then. didn't knock that one up though. I cared about her enough not to do that.
Plus if he knows you trully love him chances are he'll want to look after you and your future

[1995ALEX1995]

I have confidence issues, so a girl saying that to me first is a bit of relief and reassurance. I try to meter my expectations and stay reserved until I know for sure my feelings and affection will be reciprocated. If she says it first, it's a point to relax and express myself more freely.

[Anonymous]

Well a woman, I was dating, said it once, and I replied with: "OMG, I love me too! The love of me is what holds this relationship together!" She got angry and flipped out.. I think most men take it pretty seriously, and would be humbled by a woman saying it first.

[sidvt]

I will be shocked take little time check compatability is it a joke or not m finally If everything goes well I accept her but no girl generally proposes first it's very very rare

[Asker]

Not even if you have been dating for over 2 months?

[sidvt]

If I am dating her then I will feel more happy n accept her with a joy n try to have her luv as much as I can

[Asker]

Makes sense. Thank you for explaining it :)

[sidvt]

If I m just dating her n she surprises me same thing as mentioned above will be shocked etc etx

[Asker]

Oh ok.. Thanks!

[DeeJayKitten]

Every guy will react differently to it just as girls will to when a guy says it first. If this happened to me I'd feel amazing and most likely say it back!

[Asker]

That's true! Thank you, what you said makes sense :)

[wickedone619]

I welcome it. You know where she is in the relationship

[Asker]

Even if you're not there yet? Like it doesn't bother you does it?

[wickedone619]

If he's not wait till your sure

[Asker]

I haven't said it yet. But we were texting today, and the conversation sort of went in that direction. He kept asking so I said "I think I'm heading there where I can say I'm in love". He didn't reciprocate my thought, but he appreciated my honesty and took it well..

[wickedone619]

Say it in person means more

[Nahid1234]

Depends on when she tells me, it shouldn’t be too early.

[Asker]

Is 2 and a half months into dating good enough?

[Nahid1234]

Let me have a think 😐

[Asker]

Haha sure!

[Nahid1234]

Ok I think. Recently, I told a girl, the words “I love you” four months after I met her, met her on August, told her the words, two days ago?

She didn’t expect me to say.

We aren’t dating.

Was that good Time to say?

[Asker]

You said you loved her and you guys weren't dating?

[Nahid1234]

You can tell a person you love them for who they are, can’t you?😅 through a phone call.

[Asker]

That doesn't make sense :/

[Nahid1234]

Nvm.

[Shadow55151]

I hate those old fashioned gender roles so i really would like it. Still waiting for the day...

[markscott]

I've always said it first, but it would be ok if she said it first.

[Kenneth14621]

I think the better thing to say before you say it is say "What would you say if I told you I love you?" And kind of dance around the question first.

[BradA]

Rushed. I feel like we should both be on the same page. I don't want to be pushed into saying it too early.

[ledfoot1964]

i love it my wife told me she loved me first and i felt warm that a woman loved me for me and not things or money

[aryan321]

It's feels like "oh i don't know i also have little looks with good heart"
The most lucky person in the world 😂

[NguyenMinhTinh]

That's cute. But be sure that guy at least doesn't hate you. Then try to make he feels you care about him

[GrPrince]

the point is that she must mean it not just said first...

[Nic9218]

I will feel very touch and feeling of appreciation from her

[rapfan107]

Happy to know she feels that way about me my last girlfriend used to drop them L bombs all the time

[patu_surti]

I want to hear those 3 words only from my wife, so I don't like if any girl says I love you to me.

[davad_it]

I feel scared to be honest I don't want that responsibility