Why can I only get ugly girls?

[NathanStrat]

The hot ones always “friendzone” me. I've gotten fit and lost 30lb, girls love to hang with me, but im always “the funny friend”. Ill even take average, but only morbidly obese are willing to date me. Im fit now, so why do fit girls not like me?

[Anonymous]

Be patient. Personally, I think you looked fine both ways. My current boyfriend is like you now, lookswise, although opposite. I think he looks hot now, but he’s shown me pictures of when he was in his prime, and he was pretty hot then too, but in a different way. The key though, is personality. If you’re a kind, chivalrous guy, it may take some time. Girls are taught to go after assholes that are “hot” and sometimes dictate their own value and attractiveness around that. In a weird way though? Sometimes that makes it easier for girls like me. We want those kind guys, because we know those will make for the best marriages, and if we’re lucky to meet one? You bet your ass we’re going to try our best not to cause things to mess up. I am with that kind of amazing guy now. I hope we go the distance. For guys and girls, sometimes we have to go through a lot of crap before we find the right one. It sounds cliche, but sometimes that really is how it happens.

[NathanStrat]

True, do you think girls go after bad boys because of the myth that bad boys are better in bed? Or do they just enjoy having black eyes?

[Opinion Owner]

Depends on the girl. Also I didn’t notice you said before in your post that you don’t want to attract “ugly” girls, and that changes my answer a little. Not exactly a nice mindset to have. Not saying people have to subject themselves to just anything, but if you have previously experienced being classified that way, I don’t really think it’s fair to apply that same logic onto others in reverse, just because you have worked on yourself? Might be better to focus on what you want to attract, and project that. I think people tend to attract what they put out. If you project a negative mindset of people, you’re probably not only going to attract people who are unattractive to you physically, but also in personality. Looks aren’t everything, and it does go both ways. I think people have a set limit to how much of a crummy personality they’ll take depending on attractiveness, and once that limit is hit, unless there’s a personality change in the positive direction, looks won’t salvage it.

[lol44]

Congratulations on your new look! Your hard work really worth it. Now... I don't know why you attract only women you're not attracted to. There is something about your personality and no one can tell you what do you do that is wrong and make women get you in the friend zone. But you can totally escape friend zone, that is for sure. I put my fiancé in the friend zone in the first months after we met. I was even trying to get another guy, actually. But I don't know how, he made out of that zone and made me fall in love with him completely. If you want girls just for fun and sex, okay, you are in trouble for not finding an attractive one. But if you want them for a relationship and maybe more, then a certain girl you'll find attractive and you'll love definitely will worth the struggle if she's putting you in the friend zone.

[NancySk9m]

My neck hurts😫 Why are your photos upside-down😖 Ok, anyways, I don't want to sound too harsh, but your not that attractive, you have a face type that needs much more fit body, maybe do body building and build more muscle and then see how girls react. You lost 30lbs? Gain 30lbs, but muscles. Have some hobbies, most girls like when a guy has some kind of hobby, is active, smells good and just stop being that funny friend y'know, find a job, maybe you're too concentrated on having a girlfriend, just forget it for some time and work for your goals and THEN work for getting a girl. Hope I helped xx

[Jmcmanning]

I go by a guys personality after I've met them. Yes, looks are the first noticable thing, but it's everything else that matters. Have you asked your friends that have put you in the friendzone why or their suggestions to help you since they know you whereas we don't?

[FaceGlitter]

Hey, looks of girls don't matter. What really matters is how she takes care of herself and the way she treats others. So my advice to you is to not look for beauty or attractiveness first but to look for personality and good qualities! : )

[blissinanarchy12]

Confidence. All about confidence. Keep up with trends, be yourself but don't be weird af (Doing shit most people wouldn't do, not as in being unique) have some story to you dude. Act like you get girls, not a douchebag but more like a "I'm used to it" vibe. Make sure you're an Alpha. Being an Alpha is not being an asshole. Get a dog. Get some hobbies. Take risks with who you talk to. Everyone gets rejected. Get over it. I got rejected dozens of times. Does it mean I'm ugly? I get catcalled and I'm a dude. So no. Does it mean women hate me? The women that rejected me don't speak for the other several billion. Get out there keep your head up dude!

[NathanStrat]

Best reply! Thanks man, thats true, i do better on those confident days, ill do that. It is hard to keep it balanced so ya dont come off as arrogant. But ill keep it up, thanks so much man!

[blissinanarchy12]

Always glad to help !

[Jaybournexx]

My advice is, don’t be shallow. “Ugly” girls have feelings too. Maybe you’re missing out on a quality girl because you’re too concerned with looks? Not sure. But first be confident in who you are and make sure you don’t have any friends who are girls. Once you get one, they all just start swarming the friend zone for some reason. Hang out with guys only, or be a loner. That’s my advice.

[NathanStrat]

Ok but you shouldn't date someone you're not attracted to in order to prove your not shallow. Thats more hurtful. And both will be sex deprived.

[Jaybournexx]

This is true

[lostgirl_searching]

It's possible that the hot girls doesn't really see you as attractive? But give it some time. You're only 21. Maybe one day you will have yourself a hot girlfriend.

[NathanStrat]

Age is typo and GAG won't let me edit it, im 31. Blah.

[lostgirl_searching]

31 is still young.

[azzntittiz]

Because you post your pictures upside down, stop it.

[NathanStrat]

Thats GAG not me, no angle would upload right.

[KareFree22]

I don’t know, you’re not ugly but do looks really matter? It should be how someone treats you not how they look.

[BipBipLeddus]

Hot girls are intimidated by your ability to defy gravity

[NathanStrat]

Lol these pics were all upright when uploaded but GAG won't let me edit on phone and no matter what angle i upload them they won't upload right. I dont know if its the iPhone or GAG that’s screwed up.

[thottiana]

you're not that cute, chill out grandpa. if you were actually interesting maybe a pretty girl like you.

[NathanStrat]

I know im not, but other average guys have better luck than me, am i not even average?

[thottiana]

People are not that shallow, its probably he pwrsonalitt

[NathanStrat]

Its not my personality, i have lots of female friends that hang out with me and i make them laugh a lot, but they all have friendzoned me. Im always “like a brother” to a girl.

[thottiana]

That means they r not interested in you, maybe that’s not the kind of personality they desire. Why does it matter how they look anyway, just find someone who makes you happy

[Anonymous]

I'm too lazy to flip the laptop upside down but based on your last pic, I'd say you need to be more fit. have six pack.

[NathanStrat]

Lots of guys get girls without a 6, 4 isn't enough? Good grief!

[Opinion Owner]

Like the other girl have said, you have a face type that needs a six pack. I don't think you're not attractive by the way. Just fit body is all you need.

[NathanStrat]

Thanks, 6 packs are hard to get but I’ll keep trying LOL

[Dxk007]

Well, you're fit but, you're not fit enough. Maybe, you can improve yourself.

[NathanStrat]

Its never good enough for women, they always want a little more, if you're 5,10” they want 6ft, if you have a 4pack they want 6pack. If you got a car they want a truck, etc etc.

[research_mars_unit]

My friend do attractive women intimidate you? Are you like a open book? Do u tell a girl all about yourself In you first meeting?

[NathanStrat]

No i know they hate desperation

[research_mars_unit]

No no that doesn't show your desperate. They just get plain bored. Or turns them off.

[thatsmrmack]

You can't land hot girls because you're not hot, stop trying to punch above your weight class

[Anonymous]

Because you have moobs. Fit girls don't wanna date guys whose moobs are bigger than their boobs.

[NathanStrat]

I dont have moobs anymore. Actually got really strong broad chest now.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure thing mate lol

[NathanStrat]

🙄🙄🙄

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

I don't know probably your personality... also the second pic is scary

[lulugirl55]

Are you really that superficial? Its not all about looks, ya know.

Also, seeking validation on the internet is never a good idea.

[CrazyFranz]

Nothing to complain about
at least you can get female friends
I would be more than happy with that

[NathanStrat]

No you wouldn't, trust me, its like smelling a pizza you're never allowed to have. Women aren't food but you get the analogy of taunting.

[CrazyFranz]

Yess i would
I need female friends
Then later i can think about relationship if there is chance

[NathanStrat]

Well I've been on both sides, always being the buddy is very annoying.

[CrazyFranz]

Still better than not having female friends and not knowing how to interact with females at all

[NathanStrat]

Start with a beer and karaoke, great ice breaker, sing silly if you can't sing and be chill. Pick a funny song people love

[CrazyFranz]

Not that easy when you are shy and have anxiety
Seems impossible at time like heart will leap out of my chest

[Anonymous]

Personality issues
I'm ugly and I get all the hot ones

[Anonymous]

Because you have a purse

[JayLiche]

You probably use the word ugly too loosely

[Anonymous]

I think the personality is the issue here. 😊

[NathanStrat]

Uh no. Im laid back, open doors for girls, make them laugh, they even ask me for relationship advice. But i always end up being more like a brother to them.

[Opinion Owner]

That's the point where they friendzone you, asking you relationship advice.

[NathanStrat]

Thats my point that its not my personality because they enjoy my company

[AlexDelux]

Try to turn the picture around