Why can't I get women 😭 Am I ugly idk?

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Answer 1

btbc92 | 4.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Its simple.

1. You don't initiate your wants and desires.
2. You have nothing to offer in a relationship.
3. You probably don't even know WHY you want to date in the first place that have 0 to do with sex or keeping up with the jones.
4. You don't know what type of woman your looking for.
5. Biggest problem? Your seeking WOMEN not a WOMAN.
6. Your desperate.
7. Have you tried dating your friends that also believes in dating friends?

And taking a picture of your body and face is not going to help you in the long run. You'll just get people to judge your body and appearance and still feel like crap even if they do think your unattractive. You need to focus on yourself and stop worrying about your looks.

zeineboyy

1 y
GOOD ADVICE, I'll admit half of these do apply to me.
I mean though at 18 what am I gonna offer to a women a don't even have my own car. also how the hell am I supposed to persue women and not look desperate? I don't know I'm confused with half of these.
zeineboyy

1 y
I'm looking for a girl who's into dorky things and who is funny and can take a joke more of a cutie than a hotie,

why I want a relationship because I'm looking to improve both myself and someone else and by motivating each and other a long term relationship.

Lmao that's all I got 😂
btbc92

1 y
The point is again as I told another guy. WHY are you DATING? Because some want to get married, have children and few like me believes in waiting till marriage to have sex. At the same time, having a stable place to live and showing you're a leader of your own right as a man is very important. It's not so much of having a car. But that you can get these things without having to use your material possessions to get a woman. As I also pointed out, WHAT type of woman are you looking for? You have those who desire to marry young as you are of age to get married. And you have those who just want to fool around sexually unmarried, whether with you or not. You also have to prepare for the consequences of a premarital sexual relationship. Because there is a reason why sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. And that is because God made sex to be a spiritual and blood contract. Without knowing these things, your making yourself not only gullible and naive but showing others your incapable of doing what is right for yourself and possibly others. You must showcase your worth by not trying to be like other men. Be your OWN MAN.

You're going to school right? Good. Focus on college and getting a good job. You can always get a car once you have the finances to do so.
You don't need sex or a woman at this point in time. You need to build yourself up as a man.
In the meantime, learn to make some friends, and form proper relationships. When you mingle, be friendly and show your happy single, you start attracting good people in your life. As well as the bad. But the main thing is that you keep your eyes on the future. Becoming a man of ambition is important to any woman and female. But not everybody you meet is compatible with you. So focus less on looks. And more about what makes you happy as a person. You like games, go for it. Your music? Do it. Art, perfect it. Sports, get to it! Writing? Get better at it. Good writing skills leads to good oral skills.
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zeineboyy

1 y
by the way I don't. Have many friends let alone female friends I was a big geek in highschool pretty much the weirdo who the stairs to avoid people although I have changed my awkward shy ways.
btbc92

1 y
Well, personality type wise. I say for you is INFP, ISFJ, ISFP, ESFP, ESFJ, ENFPs and maybe healthier INFJs and ENFJs. But you most want from what you're saying outgoing I's and Es with feeling traits. So stick with those who are ISFJ, ISFP, ESFJ. Most sensors are your type. As most Judgers like me and Thinker types aren't going to feel too happy being around a jokester all the time. So if you encounter somebody who is less of a feeler and is a judger, remember that they need consistency. And too much 'games' will turn us off.
btbc92

1 y
Learn to make friends. But don't call everybody your friend. It's okay to be shy. Just let people like you for you. Not a robot version.
zeineboyy

1 y
That was beautiful,

Your a 100% right I'm not in it just for a quick good night

I want something long term like obviously marriage is the end goal. although it's tuff on men because of divorce laws.

But your definitely right, im trying to fit in to what people expectations are instead about worrying about myself.

It's just that when your 18 year old male you have all these hormones it's messes with your brain and makes it so you can't think straight.

But yeah im always happy doing the things I love doing, working out playing videogames.

I guess the thing is in highschool I seen all my friends and people having sex and doing these love dovy thing with there partners and I just feel like I'm missing out on that opportunity and experience, even though i know it will come with time.
There's always a though in my head telling me if I don't hurry this up I will loose my chance and be single and alone for the rest of my life

Thanks a lot sir/ma'am.

by the way do you have a YouTube channel?
I like meditation and spiritual stuff of that nature maybe it can help me out a little.
btbc92

1 y
No I don't have a YouTube channel. But I do recommend looking up Mark Gungor as he is a marriage speaker and author. You can borrow or purchase his books and listen to his matieral online. and Dr Myles Munroe. He was a pastor that died a few years ago. But they're still wanted to people that put up his material on YouTube. He gets very deep concerning about marriage, bonds, sex, Etc.
btbc92

1 y
Your very welcome. I am a woman and never dated or had sex either. I'm not worried about being alone forever if my values and my heart isn't wanted. I have my own reasons for it. And even I'm not in a healthier place for that myself. So I'm only telling you what I've been through too. It's not easy being alone but it does get easier with time IF you allow it.
btbc92

1 y
Both have YouTube channels.

Answer 2

zeineboyy

GOOD ADVICE, I'll admit half of these do apply to me.
I mean though at 18 what am I gonna offer to a women a don't even have my own car. also how the hell am I supposed to persue women and not look desperate? I don't know I'm confused with half of these.

Answer 3

zeineboyy

I'm looking for a girl who's into dorky things and who is funny and can take a joke more of a cutie than a hotie,

why I want a relationship because I'm looking to improve both myself and someone else and by motivating each and other a long term relationship.

Lmao that's all I got 😂

Answer 4

btbc92

The point is again as I told another guy. WHY are you DATING? Because some want to get married, have children and few like me believes in waiting till marriage to have sex. At the same time, having a stable place to live and showing you're a leader of your own right as a man is very important. It's not so much of having a car. But that you can get these things without having to use your material possessions to get a woman. As I also pointed out, WHAT type of woman are you looking for? You have those who desire to marry young as you are of age to get married. And you have those who just want to fool around sexually unmarried, whether with you or not. You also have to prepare for the consequences of a premarital sexual relationship. Because there is a reason why sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. And that is because God made sex to be a spiritual and blood contract. Without knowing these things, your making yourself not only gullible and naive but showing others your incapable of doing what is right for yourself and possibly others. You must showcase your worth by not trying to be like other men. Be your OWN MAN.

You're going to school right? Good. Focus on college and getting a good job. You can always get a car once you have the finances to do so.
You don't need sex or a woman at this point in time. You need to build yourself up as a man.
In the meantime, learn to make some friends, and form proper relationships. When you mingle, be friendly and show your happy single, you start attracting good people in your life. As well as the bad. But the main thing is that you keep your eyes on the future. Becoming a man of ambition is important to any woman and female. But not everybody you meet is compatible with you. So focus less on looks. And more about what makes you happy as a person. You like games, go for it. Your music? Do it. Art, perfect it. Sports, get to it! Writing? Get better at it. Good writing skills leads to good oral skills.

Answer 5

zeineboyy

by the way I don't. Have many friends let alone female friends I was a big geek in highschool pretty much the weirdo who the stairs to avoid people although I have changed my awkward shy ways.

Answer 6

btbc92

Well, personality type wise. I say for you is INFP, ISFJ, ISFP, ESFP, ESFJ, ENFPs and maybe healthier INFJs and ENFJs. But you most want from what you're saying outgoing I's and Es with feeling traits. So stick with those who are ISFJ, ISFP, ESFJ. Most sensors are your type. As most Judgers like me and Thinker types aren't going to feel too happy being around a jokester all the time. So if you encounter somebody who is less of a feeler and is a judger, remember that they need consistency. And too much 'games' will turn us off.

Answer 7

btbc92

Learn to make friends. But don't call everybody your friend. It's okay to be shy. Just let people like you for you. Not a robot version.

Answer 8

zeineboyy

That was beautiful,

Your a 100% right I'm not in it just for a quick good night

I want something long term like obviously marriage is the end goal. although it's tuff on men because of divorce laws.

But your definitely right, im trying to fit in to what people expectations are instead about worrying about myself.

It's just that when your 18 year old male you have all these hormones it's messes with your brain and makes it so you can't think straight.

But yeah im always happy doing the things I love doing, working out playing videogames.

I guess the thing is in highschool I seen all my friends and people having sex and doing these love dovy thing with there partners and I just feel like I'm missing out on that opportunity and experience, even though i know it will come with time.
There's always a though in my head telling me if I don't hurry this up I will loose my chance and be single and alone for the rest of my life

Thanks a lot sir/ma'am.

by the way do you have a YouTube channel?
I like meditation and spiritual stuff of that nature maybe it can help me out a little.

Answer 9

btbc92

No I don't have a YouTube channel. But I do recommend looking up Mark Gungor as he is a marriage speaker and author. You can borrow or purchase his books and listen to his matieral online. and Dr Myles Munroe. He was a pastor that died a few years ago. But they're still wanted to people that put up his material on YouTube. He gets very deep concerning about marriage, bonds, sex, Etc.

Answer 10

btbc92

Your very welcome. I am a woman and never dated or had sex either. I'm not worried about being alone forever if my values and my heart isn't wanted. I have my own reasons for it. And even I'm not in a healthier place for that myself. So I'm only telling you what I've been through too. It's not easy being alone but it does get easier with time IF you allow it.

Answer 11

btbc92

Both have YouTube channels.

Answer 12

GigiMary

Xper 5

You look just fine. I imagine you just need to get out there more.

zeineboyy

1 y
I live in a small city I rarely see a girl my age that I find attractive.

And even then she doesn't look at me.

I've tried online dating I get like 10 matches and two reply for and hour than they ghost me.
GigiMary

1 y
Just try asking a girl out that you find somewhat attractive. If she says no, try again with someone else. You shouldn't let a couple rejections or ghosting's get you down.

You'll find someone, don't worry. Just try to be nice, sweet, kind, and brave. Good luck!
zeineboyy

1 y
Alright, well I'm a stubborn cat so giving up was never part of my plan.

But yeah I'll definitely try asking more girl out thanks for the advice Gigi 🙏

Answer 13

zeineboyy

I live in a small city I rarely see a girl my age that I find attractive.

And even then she doesn't look at me.

I've tried online dating I get like 10 matches and two reply for and hour than they ghost me.

Answer 14

GigiMary

Just try asking a girl out that you find somewhat attractive. If she says no, try again with someone else. You shouldn't let a couple rejections or ghosting's get you down.

You'll find someone, don't worry. Just try to be nice, sweet, kind, and brave. Good luck!

Answer 15

zeineboyy

Alright, well I'm a stubborn cat so giving up was never part of my plan.

But yeah I'll definitely try asking more girl out thanks for the advice Gigi 🙏

Answer 16

Anonymous

Are you an asshole? Because I honestly can't see another reason

zeineboyy

1 y
No I'm not an asshole 😒, lol don't girls love assholes anyways.

Ik my photos look douche but I was tryna emphasize that I take care of myself.

Any constructive criticism will be appreciated

Answer 17

zeineboyy

No I'm not an asshole 😒, lol don't girls love assholes anyways.

Ik my photos look douche but I was tryna emphasize that I take care of myself.

Any constructive criticism will be appreciated

Answer 18

kayaleyla285

Xper 6

You look fine but can always groom your appearance and personality.

Answer 19

ladyflair87

Xper 3

You are not ugly. Some women have a preference on what they like 🤷🏾‍♀️

zeineboyy

1 y
Yeah but you would think I would find a girl out of the thousands I talked to who prefer me but that hasn't happened. I don't know lol my sister call me ugly

Answer 20

zeineboyy

Yeah but you would think I would find a girl out of the thousands I talked to who prefer me but that hasn't happened. I don't know lol my sister call me ugly

Answer 21

Anonymous

maybe it’s about your personality I don't know

zeineboyy

1 y
Well I mean how is a girl supposed to see my personality via photos

Answer 22

zeineboyy

Well I mean how is a girl supposed to see my personality via photos

Answer 23

apple24 | 5.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Yup your gross

zeineboyy

1 y
Can you expand on the reason I look gross.

I just Wana know if it's
something I can work on.

I've always had terrible skin acne and oily skin that's why
I recently bought tiege.

Any constructive criticism is welcomed.
apple24

1 y
You look like my half brother. Its not that your ugly its that I would;t date someone that look like my sibling. Even guys that I have thought were ugly and short had pretty girlfriend. Its all about how you treat yourself.
zeineboyy

1 y
Oh that's interesting self care is definitely important your right.
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apple24

1 y
I don't even me. A girl almost 300 lbs had guys who liked her. lol
zeineboyy

1 y
Well thing is the sexual market place is different for both men and women.

But hey don't give up you'll loose the weight if you try.

Answer 24

zeineboyy

Can you expand on the reason I look gross.

I just Wana know if it's
something I can work on.

I've always had terrible skin acne and oily skin that's why
I recently bought tiege.

Any constructive criticism is welcomed.

Answer 25

apple24

You look like my half brother. Its not that your ugly its that I would;t date someone that look like my sibling. Even guys that I have thought were ugly and short had pretty girlfriend. Its all about how you treat yourself.

Answer 26

zeineboyy

Oh that's interesting self care is definitely important your right.

Answer 27

apple24

I don't even me. A girl almost 300 lbs had guys who liked her. lol

Answer 28

zeineboyy

Well thing is the sexual market place is different for both men and women.

But hey don't give up you'll loose the weight if you try.

Why can't I get women 😭 Am I ugly idk?

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