It's all about stability. Both of you have to make sure the reason you're moving in together isn't because of any type of dependency. If you find it is and you guys are really trying to make it last, start couples counseling. Trust me, moving in is great and terrible no matter what timing. There's a shit storm right after the honey moon period but that'll be the worse one. Just remember to learn from every interaction in the good and bad times, no matter what. It will show the other you respect their space but you'll also be able to assert a sort of dominance over what should be part yours since you two have moved in together. It will also show you how to handle each other better. Reciprocating the care and love the original owner showed for the home or setting an example of how to take care of your new home will show in the first few months if not weeks. The first test should be wether or not they would be willing to set time aside to write the guide lines , rules, and function (s) as well as what color (s) and furniture you'd like in each room. If they aren't invested in developing the home, they aren't ready to develop the relationship into moving into that home.
In the two relationships where I've moved in with someone, I knew them as friends for a little while before we started dating and moved in together somewhere between 18 months to a little over 2 years after meeting (which would be 12-18 months after starting to date).
I think what matters more than time though is how solid your relationship is.
I moved in with him after 2 weeks of dating. We connected really fast and at the time I was looking for a place to live and he needed a roommate. So it made since. I wouldn't advise it tho. Although we made it through the horrible arguements and have been together for 3 years now I wonder if things would have been easier if we got to know each other more.
My boyfriend and I were 5 months when I moved to his place. But he said from our first day together that he wanted me to move in. He is 29 and im 19 so I get he would be serious about it. So far so good we haven't gotten in a fight in fact we have a great time together. We have been living together for 7 months now and everything is just amaziing..
Last partner we dated for a year and were officially dating for a couple months before we moved in together. I wouldn’t recommend that lol. I would definitely talk about finances together before making that decision.
1 month! Usually it's taken longer with exes. But were crazy for each other. He's honestly the best and easiest guy to live with. I love him to bits!
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I feel the problem with our generation is that we rush EVERYTHING. I know people who, after a few months of knowing each other, either:
-Have a kid
-Get married
-Move into together
What's the rush? If you rush things, you could potentially derail your relationship. I'm not talking about you, but just in general.
With my girlfriend, I take my time with everything. For example:
-All my friends fucked their girlfriend after a couple dates. I waited 8 months before my girlfriend and I had sex. We got to know each other well, went on many dates together, became good friends, got tested and then had sex 8 months later.
-A lot of my friends moved in with their girlfriend after a few months of dating. Not me. My girlfriend has her own apartment and I have mine. On the weekends, I either stay at her place the entire weekend or she stays at mine. I told her we will talk about moving in a few years from now.
-Same thing with marriage. A lot of my friends got married after a year of being together. Not me. Lol. I'm 27 and my girlfriend is 22. I would say a good marriage cap is 5-7 years. But... to each his or her own. I have one friend who had been with his girlfriend for 9 years and they aren't even engaged yet.
Butttt to answer your question... this answer varies. Lol. However, I wouldn't move in after a year. I'd wait another year or 2 if I were you.
About 2 years, and now we have lived together for ten years and have three children. Two boys - ages 7 and 6 - and a little girl, age 4. All ours. No we are not married and don't want to be.
16mths. before moving in.
Been living together for the past three years.
Getting married this coming November.
My boyfriend and i have been dating two years. We're looking to move in together in about another year or two. We're both students and honestly living at home is the best financial option for us even though we are working.
boyfriend asked me to live together after 3 months. I didn't agree at the time cause i wasn't ready. Felt it was too early. Now were dating for 2 years. I asked him to live together, now he is the one who doesn't want to.
1yr3mo. When we met i was literally ALWAYS there& sleeping over anyways.
We sort of lived together from day one but we got our own place after 12 months...
We moved in together at 17 when he graduated, we had been together for a year but best friends for three years
Well seeing that the girl I’m talking to now is my former roommate that’s gonna be a fun question to answer in the future.
Was with my last girlfriend for over 2 years. Never seriously thought/talked about moving in together. Then again we both still live with our parents
We are together for 2 years now. But we will move together in about 3 other years. So after 5 years of dating.
2 years (just less than) currently in thr process of mpving in
1.5 years. Then we lived together almost 3 years before we got married.
We were together for a year before before we moved in
Officially... same day but had known her as a fuck buddy for three months
2 weeks and it fucked up real quick, I'd wait at least a year if it were me, maybe 2 probs 3 at most
Three years, then we not only moved in together, but moved to another state as well
I have only had 2 live in relationships myself. The first one we moved in together after about a year however the srcond was after about 3 years.
It depends, if you feel you function together you should move together. Spending days tohether will show you the best if you are ment to ne together.
I waited 5 months wish I waited tell I was married.
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