Taking a big step. After how long did you move in with your partner?

[Anonymous]

After how long did you move in with your partner?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I had a sort of special situation. We moved in together as a friends with benefits situation and then became a couple shortly after moving in together.

I'd say don't overthink it. Make a decision about how much you trust eachother. How much they trust you is equally important.

And communicate expectations. Our conversations took place informally as single concerns. Like for example she probably said something like

"how do you like to keep the bathroom"

"if there's a drop of water on the floor, it really bothers me, so I use a floor towel but I hang it on the curtain rail so it drys and I also think a rug in the bathroom is gross"

"I have a lot of products I use they could take up a lot of space"

"as long as everything I touch doesn't get something on my hands, I can live with that"

Or I might have asked

"do you consider yourself a neat freak?"

"sometimes I rush out of the house after breakfast but I make sure I finish cleaning it up when I get home"

"Ok, I'm the same way but I'm very conscious about bugs so we have to make sure we keep plenty of paper plates because I don't want the thought of having to wash a plate to stop one of us from using one."

"I don't mind vaccuming it's actually kind of relaxing I just hate taking out the trash"

And then right before we moved in, we had a formal conversation where we kind of waxed over everything one more time. We basically voiced what mattered to us and committed ourselves to respecting each other's wishes, we kept it practical and honestly never really had a problem.

Just make sure the money is never a problem. The overestimate costs, under estimate income and expect that someone's going to want a vacation, somebodies going to lose their job and be out of work for a few weeks, somebodies car is going to break down. You gotta have an "oh shit!" budget

Oh yea and make sure you have lots of toilet paper. Like an over abundance.

[shortster]

I wouldn't move in with someone until we get engaged or married.

[Asker]

You can’t engage someone before you know how it’ll be if you stay with them. I think y’all should test the relationship first by staying together and see if it’s going to progress or fail. Don’t you think?

[shortster]

There are other ways to test a relationship without moving in. Plus an engagement can be called off if there are problems.

[itsannalee]

1 and half years, I moved to his country. I met him in the foreigner country. And after about a year he had problems so he counted stay. So when he was about to leave asked me if i want to go with him? I said yes.

[sheikalana]

We moved in together after seven months. We're married now.

[JacobJordan]

5 or 6 months I think. She had gone to a family event and the landlord canceled her lease when she came back so I invited her to stay with me at my house.

[Asker]

Are y’all still staying together? Did staying together progress or ruin the relationship?

[JacobJordan]

We are married. This was almost 20 years ago

[NathanDavis]

no less than two months... but those were two months of pretty much spending together all day, every day

[electromagnetic]

2.5 years. We spent weeks at each others houses but never officially moved in together before then.

[TacosRAwesome]

With my ex it was like 8 months in which I now think is insane.

[Fireguy17]

Maybe a couple 2 or 3 years.

[DishLady]

Until after I married him.