How soon would you move in with a partner? And would you stay in your place, theirs, or together buy a new one?

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I used to say after at least a year but I don't know what the timeframe would be now. I just know in general that  I personally wouldn’t live with someone until we’re at least engaged.  As for who’s place we’d stay in, I’d prefer a new place altogether. The only way I’m certain to pick my place is if i have custombuilt a home before meeting him. Other than that, a new place sounds like a fresh start for us both. #FeelFreeToList #WhoSaysYouCantGoHome

Kabluie · Accepted Answer

We were dating about a year until she moved in. She initially felt engagement was going to be the precursor but she knew it was coming anyway In a way were acting like a unit already, sharing a credit card, our cars, and what not. Being my home I built wasn't an issue. There was already future thoughts of moving across the country and building a new one together. Like I can move anywhere for my job. It's really about being on the same page and looking further ahead that matters.

whiskeyontherocks · Accepted Answer

Moved in my girlfriend house and rented out mine. I think we should have moved in on equal ground I feel like a unwelcomed guest at this point my space is our space and her space is hers. Yet when she moved in with me for a couple of months I moved my furniture bought frames did whatever it took to make her feel at home. I feel betrayed at this point

Lliam · Answer

I think two people can start living together as soon as they want to. But I advise people to keep their own residences until they are married. They can still live together without committing to shared rent and expenses. To get a place together can make it very difficult to disentangle if they wind up separating, because they are financially dependent. I've heard horror stories from women who became financially trapped that way.

I once made the mistake of moving out of my condo and renting a house with a woman. Things were great for a while, but her genuine mental problems eventually started to surface.
One day, when I got home from work, she had cleared out all her stuff and some of mine, including $500 that I had set aside for rent. She was the only girlfriend I ever had who was a horror. Moving in together had been a huge mistake.

My next girlfriend was renting a house. I had a wonderful apartment. We wound up in the most wonderful relationship. I lived at her place but she slept at my place sometimes, too. It was a really great arrangement.

Once two people are married, they share their resources and build a life and future together. But, until that time, I would keep finances separate.

NathanDavis · Answer

the shortest I've done is two months, but that was a very specific situation, she was looking for a place and possibilities before we met, and once we met and got to know each other very well, well... it was the best option, and it was actually a possible option

while at a previous relationship, she wasn't looking for a place as she had her own but, since we were in a relationship, things did progress and went that way after six to eight months or so, and she moved in with me, while she sold her place

and at my earlier relationships, it only happened after two years or so

AviatorTom · Answer

In my relationships in which we lived together (4 of them, including my 20-year marriage), I have always moved in to her place. A woman seems to be more comfortable with that... if the relationship ends, she just tells me to leave.

On a more practical note, a guy almost always has much less to move than the girl does, so it makes sense to stay at her place. Buying a place only happens after marriage, where each partner has a legal claim to the house should the relationship ends. When we got divorced, we sold our house and shared the proceeds.

Twalli · Answer

I am different. I won't propose to anyone until we've been living together for close to a year. Typically when you date, you are not at your worst. Therefore your SO never sees you at your lows or when you're sick or otherwise not in a good place. They will if you two get married. I want to know if I can deal with that before deciding I want to marry that person. If I see them day in and day out every day for a year I will probably see the "worst of times" that will take place when we're married, at least from them. I would prefer to wait at least a year before moving in, but we can start talking about it 6 months in.

hinaaaaaa · Answer

I think a year plus. It definitely depends on who my boyfriend is as a person, have we discussed finances, and expectations.

I made the mistake of moving into a place with a boyfriend too earlier and got burned so never again until there's trust and all communication in place.

I agree with you on a new place. New beginnings and a fresh start to a new chapter would be great if it's possible. It'll be easier to include both people decoration preferences

RobT312 · Answer

I was never one to quickly move in together, but also never felt the need to wait for marriage.
we dated for 2 years before moving in together, at that point we felt like we’d be getting married at some point.
it worked out well, I had just bought a house so she moved in with me

slatyb · Answer

My wife moved in with me a couple of months after we met because she needed a place to stay. That was some years ago, so it worked out.

My advice to young women is this: if you want to be married, don't move in without setting a decision date. By that date either you are planning a wedding or moving out. Otherwise they may end up like all the women on GaG asking "Why hasn't he proposed?"

exitseven · Answer

It depends on how good the relationship was going. When I met my wife we figured on gettigng married after a few months, She was living with her parents and her mother was driving her nuts. We were dating for less than a year and I suggested we get a place together.

CaptainLegal · Answer

My girlfriend moved in with me because I already have a house and she's still in university, I was living alone and because she has 2 little sisters, it was too noisy for her to study at home, if I remember correctly she moved in the first 2 months. It worked preety good I think.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

After a year and a half, two? I mean, I would only move in when I was sure it was serious since I wouldn't like to rush into anything.

About the place, I think it's something we both should talk about and see what option is the best for us. 😊

the_sinner · Answer

If we’re mostly compatible and comfortable for moving in together then within a year of being together I’d be willing to move in. I’m comfortable with all three options provided in the question but I’d prefer the first two as buying a house together is a bit risky.

MTC29 · Answer

It took four months for me to convince her to move in, and 7 years (and her turning down my two marriage proposals) for me to throw her out.  Never again.

beebella · Answer

I guess it depends on how soon I start spending the night at their place and how often I'm there. I don't think I'd want to move into a new place together unless/until we actually need to find a new place to live.

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband asked me to move in with him when we we're dating. I refused. Then he asked me to marry him. 😇 We didn't live together until we returned from our honeymoon.

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

I am in his place. Few days after we got back together. Meaning, we were together before, but we broke up, for some time. (Writing that, for those who do not know, DizzyDesii knows)

kinggeorge007 · Answer

It depends on many factors. It should be chosen though a real discussion between you two. Both need to have the desire, money, time, and other factors like other human relationships with friends, family and co-workers.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Don't know if I ever will be ready for that.  But think it would be around or after the two-year mark.

libsaretards · Answer

I would not move in with a woman until we are at least engaged, but more than likely only when married. I would prefer it if we move into a new place together with BOTH names on the Deed.

Anpu23 · Answer

I've moved her in after a couple of months if the chemistry is right. I've done all three bought a house together, move in together and have her move in with me.

melanieeeB · Answer

If I should meet someone, where everything fits and all, I would move in pretty quickly I guess and definitely my apartment, unless his is better

t-8900 · Answer

When you know you know. I don't believe in a set time. Just let it come naturally  For me it was around 4-5 months

Nigjt · Answer

Well for one she could move in with me.
To find another place that's a possibility.
No I do not think I'd move into her place so there for she would have to come to mine or we could find something together.
God Bless

Phoenix98 · Answer

If I were to do that It’d just depend on my finical situation and where we were at in the relationship.  No real set time limit to it.

belle_kai · Answer

I think minimum 18 months if we are staying at each others places. Buying a new house together i would say 4 years minimum

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Hmm, no exact time but At least after 6 months IF we married so early.

Pink2000 · Answer

Yeah I wouldn’t live with anyone until we are engaged. I love my own space. I’d have to have my own bedroom still…

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

We need to be married first. I'm not compromising my morals for some man. If I move in with him before marriage then what is the point of not having sex before marriage? That breaks the code

TheAfrikan · Answer

Under one condition that we are now able. To stay as one. Meaning it depends on how we both are able to handle conversations and how we behave around each other.
Basically it lol depends on the special bonding we have.

Agape93 · Answer

When I trust them.  They can move in with me, not vice versa. I learned my lesson.

Blackcupcake · Answer

soon as I feel the desire to… could be as soon as a month or as late as years, who knows lol

Guy__ · Answer

I want to magically meet the perfect person I'll lose virginity to and move in instantly.

talka20 · Answer

After marriage... mine or new... here we have less culture of movin out

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't believe in moving in until the deal is sealed. Dating is just that: dating. There is no "deal" yet. Don't make it too serious too quickly!

Valso · Answer

I don't know, I've never gotten this far with any of my partners, not even with my first male love with whom we were together for 3 years.

ALewis30 · Answer

It depends on the situation. If we love each other enough to live together, we'll do it. Other wise, it's best to live by myself until things get serious.

lucas262 · Answer

I wouldn't let them in, tell where I live or move in with them.

historectomy · Answer

i've had them move in after a month more for convenience than anything

anton_dee · Answer

I will give it time. Moving in, get a place, all that hassle and then few months later we separated and bang, moving out hassles...

Mark987 · Answer

At least 9 months to a year... I know people that moved into fast and it was disastrous

Cubus · Answer

After a long time I guess. I'm not very trusting. I would have to be sure I could trust her

Guido · Answer

I moved into her place after 5 months and in 4 more months we bought a house together.

Slim57 · Answer

8 months to a year, maybe a year plus, doesn't matter any of those is good, unless they live far away

pastuser · Answer

Maybe i year or longer i would wait to move in. Or is that too long what do you recommend

sheikalana · Answer

One year seems reasonable to me.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

it would be dependant on multiple variables.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think I’ll ever live with a woman again.

fireforeffect · Answer

Right after the Wedding!

itsalyssaagain · Answer

After marriage.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Years

EaterPeter · Answer

After 1 year,

SignedAutographs · Answer

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