Guys what qualities or things do you look for in a girl?

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(This question probably gets asked a lot by others but I just wanted to know😂)

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

I found some things changed over time but the most important stuff didn't.

In terms of looks, her eyes have always been the key. Looks can change in a heartbeat and it's crazy to base anything on looks.

The most important thing I look for is her heart. I found my wife accidentally online 16 years ago - when it actually WAS weird to meet someone worth meeting online. Either way.

I'm a Christian, which may not be applicable to you. I know these days some people see it as a sign of weakness to have Faith. I don't.

My wife, as it turned out, is a Christian as well.

When I was 18, I started seeing my first girlfriend. We dated for a year, lived together for a year, then split up because we were finally aware we had been incompatible from the start. We got together because we were convenient, and there was (and I gather is) massive peer pressure to pair off.

I didn't date again until I was 26 because I wanted to get it right.

I didn't. I got caught up in how she looked and despite meeting through church and sharing the same ideas, some of those ideas got put aside - which I regret. We were only together a few months, and I'll admit that physically she was stunning in any state of dress (or undress), but we hit a bump and it was obvious we weren't right for each other. I only saw it when she gave back the engagement ring.

Then just before I hit 30 I met the lady married. Online.

We had the chance to actually get to know each other because we were honest with each other from the start. We chatted by email, then by Microsoft Messenger then eventually on the phone. All that mattered by the time I met her in person was that she had been honest and I had.

But she has really beautiful eyes!

Strength of character and beautiful eyes. You can't go wrong with that combination.

piblo · Accepted Answer

It does get asked a lot but that's okay. There's so much stuff, I could type about it for a really long time, but the most important thing is that she is very sweet to me and enthusiastic about making me happy. i think it's very sexy for girls to be all over the guy and initiate stuff more. in my experience a lot of them wait around for the guy to do everything and it makes me wonder if they even like me. I wonder if they would be more excited to be all over some other guy if he's more handsome I don't know. It would be nice to have a girl who seemed excited to do stuff with me. not just sexual stuff, i mean like play games or watch movies. but maybe that sounds obvious I don't know.

fjh80 · Answer

I guess there's a lot...
Personally, and obviously the first thing is, "is she attractive?".
That sounds shallow, and it is, to a point. She doesn't have to be a super model, or a regular model, but if she's attractive, that usually means she takes care of herself.
You don't have to take that as an indication that you need to be "hot". Simply take care of yourself, and do it for the sake of being healthy. That usually results in being attractive. Don't confuse it with "magazine" attractive. That's just unreasonable.

Respect, I think a girl should respect herself. If she doesn't respect herself, how can she expect me to respect her? Also if she doesn't respect herself, how can I expect her to respect me?

Feminine. I find girls who are feminine to be attractive. My girlfriend is feminine, and I'm masculine, and we offset each other pretty well. It's like the ying and the yang.

A sense of humour is important. She should know what to take seriously, and what not to take seriously. She should be able to take a joke, but still be able to draw a line.

Honesty and loyalty are extremely important. If I ask her, "do you like this? or that?" she should tell the truth.
She should be loyal, meaning that other guys who are interested should know that she's not available, and not think they have a chance.

She should expect the same from me.

Being aware of my ego, is always a bonus. Let me open the door, or carry her luggage. I know she can do it herself, but it's just a small gesture, but don't ask me to carry her purse. That's where I draw the line.
I'll carry, a sofa, i'll carry TV, I'll carry a refridgerator, I'll even carry her, but I won't carry her purse. I know what she's trying to do, and I won't have any of it!

Tuxxy · Answer

Initially something attractive, this could be anything. My brain will find a small thing they like about said person and then all of a sudden you slowly start to love everything about them, the way they talk, act and you just enjoy being in their company.

If a girl is very confident however and she'll hit on me in a pretty blatant way then chances are still be interested even if I didn't necessarily get attracted to her. Attraction is very strange because you can like somebody and think they look good but not be full on attracted to them and to answer your question I physically can't. My brain picks random people to be attracted to so looks wise in terms of qualities I really couldn't answer as one person may find someone to not be as attractive as you.

Personality wise empathetic is a good one to have, funny and bubbly of course because who wants to spend time with low energy people who bring your vibe down? And girls who aren't afraid to be a little prude when girls seem uncomfortable talking about sex communication in the bedroom is so much harder. Finally I'd say they gotta have a somewhat decent sex drive, not overpowering (although not complaining) but preferably they gotta love sex as much as me if not more.

Takazaki · Answer

1. Hygiene

2. Having more then 1 personality trait ( like a stoner who only talks about getting high)

3. Chemistry ( really hard to be attracted to someone after we get out of bed and i just have no desire to be around them [ no chemistry to me is the same as bad chemistry])

4. Family relations ; i personally judge people by how they interact with their family.

5. Respect, i have pretty well defined do's and dont's in a relationship. Most are forgivable with warnings, but i have hard red flags that will make me drop someone without thinking twice

catfishakaamc · Answer

Oh goodness...

Personally, I like a sense of humor. She's gotta laugh at my jokes, for her sake and mine! I also like someone who engages me mentally. We don't have to agree on the topic, but having a really in depth conversation is a big plus. I also want a woman who's humble. Nobody likes an arrogant little bitch that's all into herself. Lastly, she has GOT to be attractive. I know it's cliche, but think about it. You wouldn't want to wake up next to a really ugly guy every day for the rest of your life. Neither to we. Attractiveness means different things and different traits in women for different guys, though.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

Christian

Conservative

Intelligent

Self-controlled

Not extremely emotional

Confidant

Cares about facts and data

Listens to my opinion

Doesn't get pissed easily

Not comparing herself to every other girl and not thinking that I'm comparing her (I couldn't have to explain to her that she's not fat, like geez, put down the Victoria's secret mag and instagram. Those chicks set a new BS beauty standard every week)
Then extra credit is the stereotypical beauty things
Like big boobs, butt, flawless face, etc. But I'd take an ugly conservative girl over a hot democrat so it's only extra credit to be hot

Lewis_Turner · Answer

To be perfectly honest, the thing that will make me go up to and girl and talk to her is if she is good looking. From there I guess I assess her personality! I’d like her to be funny, smart, sarcastic. I also love it when she has an aspiration. Does she want to be an artist, a singer, an actress!

Riggers · Answer

- What society would call ''Ugly'', Like. 1-3/10. I dont like ''pretty girls''.
- Intelligent
- Nice person
- Central right mentality.
- Introverted
- Weird.. Like.. I dont care in what way, Just.. weird. something different.. something unusual to look at it, something that stands out, anything, literally anything, I hate normality.
- (Also i really really really dislike tatoo's on women, Think they look so disgusting).

esparc · Answer

Mentally strong. Driven even.
A girl that can hold her own and doesn't make excuses.

Main strong point for me individually: A girl that Forces me to pay attention. (Noticing subtlety is not my strong point. It still isn't a sure-fire way to get me, but I only secluded myself because of multiple rejections.)

lernulo · Answer

Intelligence or at least curiosity
Generous
Flexibility
Independent
Dreamer
Normal- not soooooo fat body (I mean It doesn't matter a lot, but I like she can move by herself without taking a chair because of overweight) obviously I would have to negotiate but those are my most turn on

reventon4 · Answer

@Julia420 is intelligent, sweet, caring, easy to talk to. She has a beautiful face, curvaceous body, mesmorizing eyes, glossy raven hair, perfectly-balanced boobs and graceful voice.

That's all you can ask for from a woman really. She is the 10/10 definition of wife material.

Gedaria · Answer

You could say a gorgeous body , it would be nice I would like gorgeous body to offer. But what attracts me is a nice smile , glistening eye so you can see what she is like inside. As a proverb says beauty is fleating and soon passes but its the beauty of the soul is so enticing...

BirdFan360 · Answer

I'm a weirdo, My opinion isn't valid.

Now that I got that out of the way: someone who likes birds, first of all. Also a sense of humor. Maybe a gamer to some extent.

But to be honest, she's only gotta be loyal, caring, and loving.

ScaryCool · Answer

Caring Funny Smart Confidence Not afraid to disagree with the world or even me And I'd like to be physically attracted to them.

Theprinceofdarkness7 · Answer

She dosent have to be someone like me. Smarter than me. Can take care of her on her own. For as to see things as i see them (to avoid misreading of situations)

7asson · Answer

Good looking Nice/kind Smart Loyalty and honesty, also go along way. What do you look for a guy?

TheBigSoftie · Answer

Great personality, fair amount of tastes in common, intelligent, open minded, caring, generous, open about her feelings.

SC4321 · Answer

Physical: nice smile, beautiful eyes (prefer brown), in good shape Personality: kind, loyal, affectionate, honest, caring, loving

Matt57 · Answer

I want to fall in love with a sweet, caring, down to earth, smart, and family-oriented Country girl that has similar interests as me.

VoiceOfUnreason · Answer

Physically, hips and ass. Socially, someone not afraid to be honest. Mentally... Wit and humor.

ghost_leader07 · Answer

Nonjudgmental, Politeness Honesty, Understanding, Caring, Self-respect, Faithfulness. Appearance is a factor but not a goal you don't need to have the full package 'cause no one is perfect.

redskins52690 · Answer

Guys looking for a real relationship want the 3 pillars that are the foundation of a relationship. Honesty, trust, and faithfulness. Guys looking for a hook up look for slutty pics and a flirtatious female aka Easy booty!

Hardrock4U · Answer

Men tend to look for physical characteristics predominantly, but also pay attention to other characteristics that might make for a good mate. Women are more concerned with a man's ability to provide for her and her children, but they also notice looks.

valualty · Answer

Laid back, respectful, conservative, classy, supportive, understanding, educated, compromising, faithful, non attention seeker, strong minded, hygienic, active, patient, non gossiper

Roland1 · Answer

Someone who is really ok with just being with one man for the rest of her life. That means not flirting with other guys just to boost her fragile ego. Not turning every random comment by a male into some sort of double entendre sexual inuendo.

ritxi · Answer

- Good talker - Honest - Conservative - Good lover - Interested on improving - Good mother

Skullpool · Answer

Healthy lifestyle, a beautiful hair, funny personality, some tastes in common (like animals, movies, music, board games, kind of jokes, sports or whatever we both like to do), intelligence, open minded, live peaceful, and her face

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I look for a girl whose got a great personality and a loving heart.

Enigma69 · Answer

sincerity, a soft heart, a friend as well as a lover, just someone to hang out with. a cute ass helps too hehe, but thats not essential.

taleswapper · Answer

Joie de vivre. If she truly loves life, then that makes up for a LOT.

BatmanofGotham · Answer

Someone who isn’t afraid to call a guy out when hese being a dick

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