Guys, what do you look for in a girl?

Question

I have never had a boyfriend, I’m quite shy (I know it’s bad) but I really want to get out there and find someone.
I am online dating but when it comes to the crunch I’m shy to meet them because I’m scared they won’t like me and because I’m not a slim girl. I’m not obese😂more curvy.
What should I work/focus on to find a boyfriend?

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

Personally,

Physical- hair shoulder length or longer, no visible tattoos or facial piercings. Doesn't have to have the body of an athlete or a model, but shouldn't be fat. Has good fashion sense, doesn't make me question whether she takes pride in her appearance.

Personality- confident, witty, and intelligent, but not someone who goes out of her way to constantly be the center of attention. Independent and self-sufficient. Has hobbies she genuinely enjoys.

Now my advice:

Profile- Every woman in online dating that even fills one out says they like to work out, read, and travel. Have more to offer than that, or be more specific; stuff that can start a conversation. Make your intentions clear as well, because guys who are serious don't care about girls just looking for sex, and guys just looking for sex aren't interested in women looking to start a family.

Photos: main picture should have full view of your face, and should be you at your best. This is the one that will get guys interested, and if they don't like this photo, chances are nothing else is going to even matter. You should have at least one photo where most or all of your body is visible too. You should also have photos of you doing something you enjoy, ideally something you mentioned in your profile. Like to travel? Use a picture of yourself somewhere (recognizable) you've been.

Justlooking15 · Accepted Answer

First and foremost don’t rush into a relationship just because it’s time.

The things I look for in a woman are looks, personality and how she carries herself.
And so you know I mentioned looks. I don’t mean like a want a knock looking woman who is out of my league. Love is blind so if you can honestly have a conversation, have things in common with each other and are comfortable then that’s when it’s time to go for coffee or ice cream I drink if you want but just plain old meeting. If either of you have a pet go for a walk. Anything that is not going to give a sign reference if sex. You want, well I want pure good old laughing kidding and playing fun and from there when you get the right person, it’s amazing how life can be.
So with that said honestly, Thierry own decision making and for me no Facebook but that’s me.
I wish you the best and when you are questioning a relationship I would say to make a list of pros and cons and then see where each of you see each other in 5 years.
Employment and family background helps as well.

Just my opinion

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Honestly. The best thing you could do would be to try to work on your shynss. It's hard to get someone to fall for you... if you never show them who you are, and what you're all about!

It doesn't matter that you're not a slim girl. Just have a photo on your profile that shows what you look like (in terms of general body type). Unless guys are expecting something different than you've led them to believe based on your pictures... you're good!

If the guy wants to meet you... he's not EXPECTING you to be a slim girl. He knows you're curvy and he wants to meet you!

Seriously... what could you POSSIBLY work on (in terms of "what guys are looking for") that would make ANY difference if you're too shy to meet THE INTERESTED GUYS WHO WANT TO MEET YOU?

Guys are looking for a girl with a personality. I'm sure yours is lovely. If he never sees your personality... he might never know what he's missing... work on the shyness. That's your problem. :)

deryn · Answer

Must have

At least one arm.
At least two legs. Extra legs are welcomed.
Retain the ability to breath. Not essential to the job

Must know English to a basic level. Or less doesn't matter.
Must not be in a relationship. Only singles

Must be cute
Boobs or no boobs are okay
Some some genitals gender not important as we now have like 100?

Sub in the bedroom and willing to possibly stop me from trying to form a cult or secret society of pigeons and homeless people every now and then.

ohshee · Answer

First of all clear your head,,, don't worry if the guy doesn't like u that's ok because it's better than the guy that likes you for an hr he does his thing and leaves ,, never seeing him again ,, there are fifty million guys out there ok so just be you don't look at it as if he could be a boyfriend or a date look at it as if you just meant standing in a line some where and just start talking be confident and love you yourself for me I like quite and shy ,, that means once u have been dating for more than a few months u will always be talking lol don't worry how skinny or curvy u are let your eyes tell them who you are do u chat on line

DanDavid · Answer

Usually someone spontaneous and happy gets my attention quick. A genuine smile works like a charm.

On a more personal basis, if I get to know them, then it would be someone strong who has a stable life in general, a job they enjoy or working towards something they are passionate about while keeping healthy relationships...

In general someone who doesn't need me to get their life sorted out for them, and is mature enough to make their own choices without seeking for approval. Not really looking for a damsel in distress.

fueledbythc · Answer

what you should do is not focus on finding a boyfriend. focus on yourself. focus on improving yourself so when the right guy notices you, you will be ready.

focusing on finding a boyfriend will get you to find the worst people and setting yourself up for misery.

Matthew2222 · Answer

Be upfront with photos when doing online dating so there are no in person issues. Lots of guys like chubby/big girls and would much rather have a nice round girl than some borderline annorexic "model". You will get interest from guys that like you for who you are, which is great. And ignore the ass hat comments telling you to loose weight to get a guy, that is not the road to success. If you do not mind my asking, what is your height & weight?

Shiver · Answer

Don't worry about it, just say fuck it and go. That's the one thing holding you back probably. You gotta have the courage to just go for things.
If you're self conscious about your curves, work out. Improve your body and get it to a state that you like so you're confident. Confidence attracts.

nathanp97 · Answer

Don't use photo shop or filters in your photos, and make sure you have at least one face shot and full body shot, so they can tell how you look. If they match then obviously they like how you look.

You should probably try to work on your confidence a bit. Go to the gym, find a hobby you enjoy (could potentially meet a guy doing that too).

MrMilti · Answer

Someone once said:

"Do not choose a man you like to be with, choose the man, your children would pick as a father."

I really like this and that also applies to the women I choose to date.
I think of how I want my children to be raised and ask myself, if this is the right woman for this task.

MrTuxedo · Answer

I would advise you to not go online dating for your first time, or any time at all.
If you want a boyfriend, go out and find one. If you want, find courage and ask a guy out instead of him asking you. If don't, go to clubs or bars with friends and some guy may catch an eye.

Jjpayne · Answer

Some that's supportive, sweet, caring, can enjoy being relaxed in lounge pants but can rock a dress every once in a while. Show me what you have fun doing but also showcase what you think you and a guy could have fun doing like fishing, outdoor activity or watching sports for example.

Sonorous · Answer

Assuming I already find her physically attractive, I'll look to see if our personalities fundamentally align. I'd examine her pros and see if they outweigh her cons. Aka, "will she make my life better or worse." If I see that she could make my life better, I'll go for what I want.

Hal2002 · Answer

So basically you are wasting your time and other peoples time. You and others like you are why, I no longer bother with online dating.

You need to work on your confidence, not every man is attracted to a size 2, there are lots of men that are attracted to a curvy girl. So take a chance and go out and meet someone that shows interest, and stop leading guy on than that you have no intentions of meeting.

Liadon · Answer

What I look for in a girl likely wouldn't reflect majorly on what other guys look for in a girl.

But here's the things that come form the top of my head:

Cares about their own health
Quirky
Doesn't hate me or want me dead for my awful sense of humour
Openminded
Honest
Not a gold-digger or going to take advantage of me for full financial support

TheWeirdTaco2020 · Answer

I'm 17 don't know how hell it says 25, I look for personality... That is key... If she is pretty that's a plus but mostly kind sweet hearted.. a future motherly figure that could help and share my life with me... Someone to last year's till we die

elite665 · Answer

And you can’t make those curves any slimmer?
But anyway men def look at physical features first but that does not dictate dateable material that’s just if you want our attention from the get go any girl can be attractive if her personality is good and she is fun to be with

victtory · Answer

Try this...  When chatting with the guy you like, play Truth or Dare game with him.  I think the game will widen your social interactions and take away your shyness

boggboss · Answer

It's hard hun as you are what some guys would want but because you are shy it will be near impossible for anything to happen because shy people tend to push others away so Its somthing you have to work on

cicchis0 · Answer

Confidence. Don't be afraid to meet new people. It won't work out with most - you just have to accept that, just learn what you can from each meeting and keep trying. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

winterfox10 · Answer

Have hobbies, work on your social skills, learn how to tell stories well. I know that the biggest thing I look for in girls is the ability to simply go do things with her. There are so many boring women out there.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Men are EASY... be kind, gentle, supportive, FEMININE!!! Body shape is much less important than personality.

Men want a woman who is COMPLIMENTARY to them, no in COMPETITION with them. For some reason this is incredibly hard for most women to understand. I don't want to date a sarcasm queen, who is contrary about everything.

Tommy2017 · Answer

I don't care that much about looks. I want experienced, open-minded, patient and a quiet woman. And above all women who tell me what they want, their likes and dislikes and they don't expect me to read her mind. I hate those women. And women who don't expect me to act like the men they read about in their erotica and rom-coms

Nigjt · Answer

All any Women needs is a kind heart an love for a man.
Her looks really shouldn't matter to much her heart should do the job.
What I am saying is this looks are only 10 % of what a guy should be looking for the brain an the heart should be what he is concerned with.
If not then he is not for u.
God Bless an good luck

JackLatin · Answer

Being attractive is definitely the most important element for being considered as studies have shown. However being understanding and supportive of the guy is also important. Ultimately if your shy (guy or girl) the only solution is to hope someone comes to you. Otherwise you need confidence of your own socially to advance.

ynac-99 · Answer

I think just start chatting with a boy you like and ask him out. Boys don't really get hints so be straight forward. Holding hands is a good way to see how he feels about you.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

The more similarities we share the better. Similar political views  similar religion same height similar tastes in clothing  similar tastes in music same sexual kinks And the list goes on and on.

Thequiet21man · Answer

I want a girl who has a warm heart, is girly, talks about her feelings, doesn't lie, doesn't hide secrets, likes to have fun and most importantly is loyal.

Neroyamato2 · Answer

Every girl likes different things, but one thing many have in common is they all look for a man that can make them feel safe

Mjghost · Answer

most guys lie. . took me a long time to figure that most guys lie to girls.  But honestly men like young sexy girls.  Some like experienced some like me like innocent girls.

Therisinghero12 · Answer

Well to start you should work on yourself, find your confidence, take some chances, confront your insecurities, and if you can get the hang of those things you should be well on your way to finding that special someone.

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