How do you know you're in love?

[firefliesandsunshine]

How do you guys know for sure when you're in love? Or in the process of falling in love? What are your tell tale signs?

[Anonymous]

I've read a fact that if you have a crush on someone for over 10 months and that you can't get him/her off your mind, then you're definitely deep in love with him/her.

You can't control who or why you fall in love with a single person out of the crowd, you just get really attracted to this person, it's something you can't list the reasons. Really falling in love with a person usually comes internally instead of physically, meaning that when you're really in love and actually sees a future and vibrant life with this person, it's not because of their physical appearance, but their qualities as a human being. And being in love with this person makes you dare yourself to approach them in various ways, like asking them to hangout or on a date. As well as this person won't effect you in a way that you have to change yourself to impress them, you just naturally feel connected and comfortable around them.

It's addictive, the person i've have a huge crush on, lasts for almost two years and it's still going on right now. It makes you act and behave carefully in everyway not to offend or scare away this person, and this task is tiring, since sometimes we get too sensitive.
This crush also made me a heck more fearless and braver than i've ever been before, I've asked him to hang out and even asked him to prom, which he accepted my proposal and we had a great time at prom (nothing intimate, we were just getting to know eachother more)

[LittleRedKat]

I realized I was in love while talking to my bff about my man. She asked me "if (his name) found someone who made him truly unbelievably happy, more than you, what would you do" and I realized I'd support him being with her if that meant he could be happy, even though I wouldn't be. At that moment I realized he was the only person in the world I truly love and am in love with. He's the only person I am truly selfless with and I think that when someone's happiness is more important than your own and that you would do anything for them, then you love them.

[whyisitso]

I get very thoughtful and dreamy. In everything I find something that reminds me of him. I smile when I talk about him. I talk about him a lot. Even to people who do not know him. I dream about him at night.
That's when I know I am falling for someone.

[Bjorn526]

I think it’s really easy and understandable to confuse infatuation with love, maybe even more for girls, than guys... it goes both ways equally.
When you are in this “heightened state of love” it’s not because you know the other person, to understand the most important word in “I love YOU” because you don’t yet know, who YOU is?
You only know how he/she makes you feel and the impressions you have, which likely are mutated by what you want to believe and feel. That has nothing to do with them (him/her), and it only has to do with you, and how they offer what you want, to feel as you want. That is a huge difference than being in love

Being in love is when the other person has disproved all your preconceived ideas and feeling, you know all their flaws, you see them as imperfect and human, and now, redirected, to now investing in them, to support them, and love them as they are, not who you hoped they would be

[Bjorn526]

It shouldn’t be difficult for any parent to understand the difference, or anyone who has been in a committed relationship for a period of time, or even someone who adopts of pet, not because it was the pet they wanted, but it was that pets struggle or story, that made you want to adopt it.
Love is not about, how someone makes you feel, it’s about how you want to provide both romantic and tough love, out of necessity, because it’s required, to care for someone else. I think too many people only understand the first chapter

[firefliesandsunshine]

This is the best and most correct answer yet. Well done for explaining it so well, I've never been able to haha

[coachTanthony]

My uncle told me a long time ago... You can't help who you love.. you just do. MEANING when your in love it's hard to stop being in love... especially if the person is bad for you.

[Lgmswolf024]

So that's why its hard for me to leave this specific person?

[Sonoflife]

Number one is. Heart beats faster by hearing her name. Or knowing she is around.

See The brain clings to her mention. Search for anything that reminds you of her. Feeling happy after exchanging words with her. And over thinking the conversation or the situation.
...
That's what I know about love. it is a biochemical the nervous system gets addicted to. Just like nicoten.

I don't think I can have this nice innocent love anymore. From this age. Real love for me will only mean. Wanting to give my future partner something. The desire and the need to make her happy. Sacrificing, Dedicating my soul and my neck for her.

(Note! I have a belly though. And sometimes I look funny. so don't think of me as superman)

[Zefram]

Well, losing my virginity to her sure helped but I'm pretty sure that was just bliss, which is exactly what she said.

Honestly? I don't know. And I highly doubt you'll be able to find a real answer on the internet no matter how many people you ask, it's part of being Human, ask 50 people you'll get 100 different answers. All I know is when I look at her my heart starts beating faster my breathing heavier and I just wanna have her back in my arms again and when I'm apart from her for five minutes I start thinking about her again, and that tells me something. How do I know I'm in love with her? I dunno. I just know I am.

[ThoughtCleric]

When he hugs you does he squeeze you or is it the light friend let go fast kind of hug. If he says I love you, does he look into your eyes deeply or does he say it and then look away. Believe it or not the deep look might be his way of trying to see if you believe his lie and the look away would be the retreat because you may not reciprocate. I dont want to mislead you. The best most universal way is to break up with him and if he starts crying then yes he loved you but you just hurt him too. If I were you in this situation just play it by ear and hope for the best. Or go to the Audible app and listen to what experts would have to say. I might be 47 but i am far from an expert and a bit of a freak too. I have been out of the loop for quite a while. You might have better luck asking the clown from steven kings the thing than take my advise on this subject. Audible would be your best bet.

[Anonymous]

I can't speak for all guys, I think I'm more emotional than the average guy...

It's a process, this girl makes you happy, you like to talk to her, and everytime you see her she puts a smile on your face... Even if she is just talking about her day, you start remembering every little thing she says and start asking more personal questions

And you just get happier each time you see her and as things progress...

Finally you find yourself thinking about her a lot, even all day...

Until a Love Song comes on the radio, and you fantasize about you and her as the song plays...

And you feel on top of the world, you are super happy, everyday... Nothing can bring you down...

You exert an energy you have never had before...

It's an amazing feeling... The Best in the World...

But with love... You will know when it happens...

[cherryphi82]

When the thought of them getting hurt or never seeing them again makes you sob uncontrollably, if you want to give up everything for them, if you have both sexual chemistry and platonic attraction, if they inspire you to completely change who you are, if you can read their thoughts and feelings, if they make you become selfless and in awe of everything around you... the list could go on, but these are a few examples.

[LifeEqualsLove]

I've never been in love, but at the time I thought I was because I told myself I was gonna marry him.

Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference, especially in the beginning because you think of the person a lot and everything is sweet, but when stuff starts getting real and you still feel all lovey dovey, that's when you know it's real!

[Investigator]

The love fairy walks up to your door and rings the doorbell. Then, when you answer, it beats you over the head with a heart-shaped hammer. That's why love hurts. To make matters worse, it then shows you a picture of your love interest while slowly and sneakily pulling the door mat from underneath your feet, causing you to fall head over heels flat on your ass.

The more you know

[ipecaclust]

Lmao the more you know. Those episodes always sucked

[aicarg]

When I'm constantly thinking about him when he's not around.

When time passes so fast when spending time together cause each others company means the world to you.

When I start talking about him to my friends and family.

When little things remind me of him, that I instantly care to share it with him. Eg. An inside joke, a song...

When I start seeing him as a means of influencing my life in a positive way.

[ThoughtCleric]

She wants to know his tells not her own.

[Bliss-taylor]

When he pisses you off but you still want to spend your life with him and only him. Lol
I can't explain it as just a feeling, because the feeling that makes people say i love you is the "honey moon" stage. Its more than the emotions. Its making it through the rough stages and still thriving with that person. Thats when you know you're In Love, real love. People say i love you all the time and dont make it a year. Thats not love.

[Ak1rA]

Well nothings special. We want to see your eyes a lot, we try to find excuses to be very close to you (probably to find a good opening to kiss you), we always have time for you and we want to have more time with you. Oh and we try to see you more frequently as well. And maybe a gift that we hope you like. It seems we have more indicatprs than I thought in the first place. 😊

[Mluckydwyer]

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” - Dr. Suess

[CaffeinatedCactus]

Well I dont know about love but when I want to be with someone I will want to always see them, and whenever I'm away I only think about seeing them again. It sounds obsessive but really its just that they make me happy. I dont want to be away from that feeling of being complete.

[jss123]

Good question. The first time I had no idea I was in love. I started thinking about her when she wasn't around. I kept thinking.. Wow, she's so cute and beautiful. It wasn't infatuation because I has known her for quite a while. A friend of mine said to me what it was as I was speaking about her a lot without realizing it. I then realized she was right..

[tammyjean]

Well there's a big difference I just recently discovered lol I've always loved but at the age 52 I learned there's a depper unconditional (really unconditional) what was God thinking it you'd told me that a few years ago I'd laughed my ass off but real , deep love is home, peace, unconditional never walking away since of belonging to something that finally makes sense

[niDaye]

Very true

[nathanzie]

Well, personally, with my specific morales and principles i believe that you truly love someone when you desire no one else on this planet except that one person, not their body, but their heart. Falling under "true love" will become obvious when you see someone growing old with you.

[Anonymous]

I know I’m in love when all I want is for that person to be happy. When I know I could never possibly dream of hurting them in any way, and the mere thought of losing them kills me (even if I’m certain we aren’t meant to be together - but, I’m still in love). I know I’m in love where even the thought of another man repulses me.

[Anonymous]

As a daughter of conservative strict parents, to me it is when I know that I'm prepared to handle any kind of abuse that I might face of they ever get to know about my relationship. Even the thought of being locked in or kicked out doesn't scare me. My parents aren't that much violent but they are still strict and I might still face huge problems just in case...

[Ljd213]

Here is what I use to thought:

I knew that I was in love with a girl when I known her for months and she kept telling me her deepest feelings of pain and allowing me to comfort her and trying to cheer her up.

But then I realized I was friend zoned after girls are always kissing on some other dudes that they met within a couple of days.

[HereIbe]

Take a mild dose of codeine. The effect is identical. That is all that "in love is". The opioid receptors in the brain have been stimulated. It's nothing more, nothing less. It's just an animal, chemical response. It is an extremely STUPID thing to use to plan ones future.

[ipecaclust]

Best answer right here

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

Damn romantic 🙄😂

[HereIbe]

@SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ, wasssamattababy? Did I pop your delusional little bubble. Go read up on the reality. Stop wallowing in delusion.

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

You sound like an angsty old man who has never been married

[HereIbe]

@SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ, sorry to burst another delusional bubble. I'm married to a wonderful woman who has all my heart, but I know the difference between deep and abiding CONJUGAL love and that silly drug-induced mini-coma called "being in love".

[den1219]

When you feel high around the person.
When you can't stop thinking about the person.
When small things remind me of the person.
When you can't stop smiling at the person.
When you make things to work for the person.
When your heart rate matches their heart rate.
When you feel happy falling asleep next to the person.
When everything about the person is beautiful.

[HereIbe]

When you are obviously on an opioid binge...