Would you remove a tattoo if your partner asked you to?

[Anonymous]

I'm kind of going through this right now & what to see what you guys think. Yes or no & explain your opinion

[LesterJester]

No... Frig. What kind of psycho idiot would you be with to tell you to remove a tattoo from your body?

They're permanent, not so easily removed and for most people, they hold meaning and are a part of who you are.

Are they going to shell out the money for getting it lasered off or do they expect you to pay for it?

Are you willing to go through the pain and scarring of getting it removed?

If you went through with spending a bunch of money, went through the pain and the scarring to get it removed, and then later on you guys broke up (for whatever reason) how are you going to feel losing this tattoo and now have a big scar patch on your body to forever remind you of them?

Your partner either accepts you for who you are and what you got on your skin, or you can tell them to go get fk'd.

You're 18-24 and in your age bracket and relationships in general at that age group, there are a lot of people, boys and girls, who step waaaay the hell out of line and act like they should have authority over you and your life that they have zero justification for.

People in your age bracket go into relationships with someone they have some interest in and kind of like, but have issues with other things... So they try and change you into what they want rather than accepting you for who you are. And because you're young and ignorant (it's OK, I was too) you think this is just normal and a relationship involves you making changes to accommodate the other.

But more often than not, it's usually one sided where one person in the relationship makes all the changes and the other doesn't or changes little. In the end, you're no longer the person you want to be and you're forcing the relationship to keep going by pretending you're something you're not. You end up miserable and manipulated and eventually the relationship ends and you've wasted months or perhaps years like I have on some bitch of an ass hat.

If you want to remove or cover up a tattoo for yourself for your own reasons, then by all means, but nobody, not even your own parents, have the right to tell you, a grown adult, what you should and shouldn't do with your body.

If your partner is telling you to do this, they are way the fk out of line and that's a huge red flag. Don't put up with that manipulative and controlling bullshit. They either accept you for who you are, warts and all, or kick them to the damn curb.

If you bend on this and actually go through with lasering your skin to remove a tattoo just because they don't like it, it won't be the last thing they try and pressure you to do that you don't like.

My wife and I married each other because not only did we have things in common, but neither one of us pressured or forced the other to change who we are. We accepted each other for who we are.

My past gfs always tried to make me into what they wanted. Don't even entertain the idea of going down that path. Stay true to who you are and what you like and the right one will come when you least expect it.

This ass hat isn't the one. Even suggesting the idea is justified grounds of being dumped on the spot.

[nathanp97]

So if your girl friend had a tattoo of one of her ex's you wouldn't ask her to get it removed or covered up with another tattoo?

[LesterJester]

@nathanp97 nope. I'd never put someone's name on me as a tattoo, but it's not my body that it is on and I'm not going to ask my partner to scar up her body over a name.

That's up to her to decide. If it bothered me that much, I wouldn't be with her.

Me telling her to laser her skin or cover it up with another tattoo makes me just as bad as the person who's name is on her. The name is because of the other guy. The scarring or tattoo to cover it up is because of me. Either way, her body starts to become some sort of property that isn't hers.

I wouldn't want someone telling me what to do with my body, so I wouldn't do that to others.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well I don't have tattoos but if I did it would depend entirely on the tattoo. If it was some other girls name I use to date (which is a tattoo I would never get because now your stuck with some ones name on you that can up and leave you at any time), sure I can see that being reasonable (if I was dating her for a significant amount of time. If it was under a year then I don't think she really has that much authority to make that request), but if it was something else probably not.

[Hidden_P]

It would really depend on the tattoo and why they were asking it to be gone.

Eg. My ex’s name? Sure, I fully understand that and tbh it’s a dumb thing to do. I’d remove it.
If that ex was dead, I would really have to think before doing so. What I would likely do is have it reworked so it still secretly had meaning to me but not others.

If I had a tattoo for a dead family member, friend, pet, etc absolutely not. I would have had that tattoo to represent them.

If I had a tattoo and they just didn’t like them, absolutely not. I got the tattoo for a reason before the new partner came along. If they want that control over me, meet me as a baby and stalk me for life. After all, they have no problem to control me now!

[Daniela1982]

Tattoo removal is not recommended depending on the tattoo. Some extensive tats are going to cost an arm and a leg to remove and your skin will never be the same color as your other skin so it will always be noticeable as it will be a lot lighter color. You see this a lot in girls who have had a playboy bunny removed from down low and you see the bunny still because it is a lighter shade. Why did you get a tattoo only to have it removed? Maybe it would be cheaper to lose the guy. For instance, these tats would be hell to remove and nearly impossible as well as very expensive.

[Desconhecida]

I wouldn't have as a partner someone who doesn't accept my body or my mind. I'd not remove the tattoo, I'd remove my partner

[loveisbeautiful]

I personally don't have any tattoos but I have a lot of cousins that do and an Uncle. Here's the thing getting a tattoo removed (from what I've heard), is very expensive. So, it's a lot to ask somebody to spend a ton of money to have something removed that they actually like or simply can't afford to have removed especially if you're just dating. I mean, having a tattoo removed is a big deal to some people and to ask them to do that when you don't even know if you'll still be a couple tomorrow, is unfair. Personally, I'd just learn to live with it. There's worse things for a person to do, then have a tattoo you don't like.

[btbc92]

I don't agree with tattoos in the first place, therefore would not date somebody who has them. However, if I had that kind of lifestyle I would have it removed regardless if they asked or not. I only say do so when your prepared to go under the precedure just to remove it. I heard it can be very painful to have it done and it will mess up the skin if done wrong for the most part. This person BETTER be somebody you want to marry. Otherwise, you may not like it if its not what you equally want.

[Asker]

I see what you're saying but I think it's such a personal decision. You choose not to have tattoos but someone else can get something that's very meaningful to them. I don't think it's fair for a partner to ask you to remove something that defines you and has become a part of who you are. I take it as them not fully accepting you & that's the opposite of what a relationship should be :)

[btbc92]

That's why I said that I would not date a person who does have them. But if you want to marry a person you got to decide if they're worth having and needing in your life. A relationship is not always unconditional, it has its conditions. Or else you will lose that person romantically. You can't force a person to be sexually attracted to something about or on your body.

[Alistar88]

If they were willing to pay for it... maybe. its painful to remove a tattoo and can cause scarring damage on the skin. What I would tell them is if they pay for it, I'll get a tattoo put over it to cover up the old one. What does it even say that bothers them so much to risk damaging your body?

[YetiG]

If it has meaning behind it then he can suck it up
It's your body, you can do with it what you want
Even if it doesn't have special meaning and you just like it.
That's akin to someone saying 'your nose is too big. Fix it because I don't like the way it looks' which is obviously a shitty thing to say

[lovinandfightin]

I honestly wouldn't go through the pain of taking a tattoo off my body unless it emotionally hurt my partner. I know that my boyfriends have had tattoos and I've found them hot! if its for you and you truly believe you should get it removed, then you should. but, if you are being pressured into taking it off your body because your SO doesn't like it, SCREW THEM. you are your own woman, do as you please!!

[Gstacy1989]

I don’t have any tattoos at all so that wouldn’t be an issue for me... also your partner need to love u and accept u for whom u are... if u love tattoos then date someone who also loves them... don’t date someone who hates tattoos or things that u like...

[mortonc57]

No, I absolutely would not remove my tattoos for my partner. Although every single partner has asked me to, or even cover them up.

Even if removal was cheap (it's not), fast (it takes many months), painless (it's very painful... I've had one session) and complete (some ink will always remain).
At this point I just love having Playboy bunnies tattooed on my arms !

If she can't deal with it, then she can move on.

[Izumiblu]

If I had a tattoo and my partner asked me then yeah probably

My partner has tattoos and honestly he has some that I don’t like and I think are stupid. I’ve never suggested he get rid of them but I have told him I thought these particular ones were maybe not ideal. He , on his own , is looking at getting them removed and I’d be happy if he did but it’s nit something that makes a material difference in our relationship so I don’t give it much thought.

[pepper1993]

i don't think i would but i wouldn't fault someone for doing so. it would depend on the tattoo itself and location obviously. i think getting it covered up or re-purposed into another tattoo would be the best bet in my opinion.

[whiskeyprincessxx]

No. They need to accept you as you are. I would consider if it was an exs name tatted on you, but again that's circumstantial. Tattoos are a part of your past, present and future. And I don't think many people got them without thinking about that.

[JimboGB]

This question a side... My friends literally call me, TheWhiskeyKing 🤴

[whiskeyprincessxx]

Haha our nicknames are pretty sameies

[Sevenpointfive]

i've dated 2 girls with them and if they were a problem i wouldn't have dated them in the first place. you don't go into a relationship knowing that you want that person to change for you from the start.

[PrinceVEGETA64l3]

Sure if it was the name of an ex or something which it's not a great idea to put your other half's name on you.
But seriously tho I'm less it's the name of an ex fuck no.

[some_dude1738]

Well it depends, i would yes if we were having kids and i would want to set a goof example especially if the tat is something that isn't kid friendly, but if it was something i loved and was a meaningful tat then no i wouldn't

[MajesticTwelve]

I don't have any but if I did... it would depend what it was. If it was like a stupid butterfly or something then yeah sure.
If it had a deep meaning to me, like someones birth/death/significant life changing moment, then heck no.

[KaylaRae8913]

Nope I love my tattoo and if my boyfriend cares about me he’d respect the fact it’s my body and that I like it... it’s not like having a tattoo is gonna kill him

[DFitswell]

it's funny that picture says Stephanie because that's the one asking me to remove a tattoo that says Monica... and no I will not I put it on there for a reason knowing it was going to be there for life. if someone wants me to forget that part of my life they also want me to forget that part of my personality. and that part of my life and that part of my personality made me who I am today and if they don't love me for who I am today they don't love me. so if you love me you love my tattoos

[Kwikkwekkwak]

No not a chance I will remove any.
I have several tatts. But I have one rule for my name. Never one single letter or number will be on my body.
So I can never have a tattoo with the name of an ex.

[GlitterDragon]

No. I’d only ever remove something if I no longer liked it. Because who knows how long the relationship will last 🤷🏽‍♀️

[PondyPand]

I'd say no because my tattoo (and any I plan to have) have meaning to me.
If it was some trashy ink then I probably would.