What's up with my brother dating a Mexican girl?

[Anonymous]

My brother (tall, attractive white guy doing his medical practices) has other girls to select and his girlfriend of 6 months had to be an indigenous Mexican girl.

Ok so she's a legal resident and her English is understandable but honestly, he had better options. In addition, the girl's family struggle with bills and they believe in pathetic saints and religion; LMAO. Lets just say they're not at our social level.

I couldn't help it but privately makes jokes about them with my friend. That mediocre family invited us for lunch once. I made a joke about one of their saints and excused myself from laughing. To make matters worse, my brother now can't stand me and keeps saying he's ashamed to have me as a sister. What's up with him that's dating leftovers?

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Honestly, she's not that pretty. She looks similar to these Mexican girls:
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/424675439831775452/

[JackPreacher]

My opinion is that as a sister you have the right to worry about your brother and you want what you think is best for him, if she treats him right and keeps him happy and everything is fine well great, then!
Now you sound like you are comparing to your brother woman as if you were to compete with her for your brothers affection and love (the weird thing is that you competing as a woman with your brothers woman..) Money and social status will be affecting your brother in the future due to his decisions but that is something he will have to deal with on his own how old are you? If you want love sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and if you want to stay with in your race and your status should be respected as well. Blessings and love your brother, he is your family be there for him I am almost sure he will be there for you too...

[blutwolfe]

love has no bounds, Mexican women are pretty traditional, if he's got a great career, maybe having a traditional women is in his best interest, he wants the best for his kids. White women aren't traditional at all.

Like I said before though, love is limitless and no bounds, he thought you were his sister but realized you're just a superficial materialistic basic white girl, I feel bad for him because of that.

[Asker]

I was trying to help him, well in my way. I was trying to make him understand how easier it would be choosing someone with similar social status, background, likes, etc. I always thought like attracts like. They are very different that sometimes I find myself somewhat impressed they can get along so fine. I've never seen him that happy before. He never smiled at my jokes... I could never get him to laugh.

[blutwolfe]

well they sound like good hearted people, maybe that's what he's after, not everyone cares about social status or money. Maybe he wants a family or to be apart of something.

Most people with rich upbringings tend to be incapable of love, so I don't blame him for looking elsewhere

[Asker]

You're right on the family part. He wants a family and the girl is a traditional ''waiting till marriage'' type.

I think I'm capable of loving. I just never found it yet. Going out on a bunch of casual dates and getting hit on a lot can be exciting at first but it become turns into emptyness. In a way that's like having everything in life but nothing at the same time.
If that's what he wants and he's happy to have found love, ok then good for him. I can't find love.

[blutwolfe]

yeah it's a hookup culture, finding the one is near impossible, especially in a rich background, there's no need because money is used for everything. Some people throw away everything just for the chance. Love is really a beautiful thing to experience. After my ex I'm running into the same problem, probably won't find a woman capable of love again, it's a really rare thing these days, all you can do is hold on and hope it lasts forever.

[yucychan]

What's wrong with Mexican girls?
Anyway, it's your brother's life and his choice. Who do you think you are to disagree on the girl he loves?
You are not only racist, you are also rude and selfish. Your brother is right, anyone should be ashamed to be associated with you. I pity the guy or the future guy who is with you for you have no redeeming qualities nor any sense of humility. You think that your brother's girlfriend is ugly and don't deserve your brother when actually you are the ugly and worthless one.

[DumbLlama]

I don't think any of that matters, if your brother is happy you should be happy. If she is a good person who loves your brother and makes him the happiest person on earth, you, as his sister, should accept that and support him because all that matters is his happiness which should make you happy. Try looking at the bigger picture, is she a good person? Does she love your brother? Does she make him happy? And aren't you happy when your brother is happy?

[Asker]

I'll admit that I've never seen my brother that happy before. He barely seemed to enjoy quality time with me.

I just thought it would be easier if he found a girl that's similar in social status. I guess not. If that's what he likes ok. It's just that they're so different. I thought people attract similarities more than differences.

[DumbLlama]

It depends on the people, sometimes for people falling in love is like finding their other half the half that makes them a better person, and sometimes differences help balance out a person

[JanaTalks]

Really? Pathetic saints and religion? Fuck off honestly. I’m not religious but everyone has a right to believe in what they want. Your brother is right about feeling upset about your actions. Have some respect. I’m not one to point figures and call names but you just sound either xenophobic or racist or even both. I hope you change the way you view things. It’ll give you less problems. I’m glad your brother found someone to love that also has some kick ass culture :) it’ll spice him up 😎 Viva latinos!! 💪🏽

[deadman69]

I agree with you lmao. Well put lady👌👌👏👏👏

[JanaTalks]

@deadman69 thanks! Maybe she isn’t either of those and just came off that way on accident but if she really is then that’s just messed up and gross + needs help

[deadman69]

Yup totally

[Asker]

Part of me is impressed he found love. Sometimes I spend several minutes staring out the window at them together, all happy and in love.
Yet, I can't help it but wonder how two people of different social backgrounds, likes and traditions can get along so well. I thought like attracts like more often.

[deadman69]

Love has no boundaries. Always remember that miss. Color race money. That's nothing. If you love someone. Nothing else matters. Trust me. You'll know when you fall in love.

[spartan55]

I like how the asker is basically copy/pasting the same responses to opinions.

[RasmusAiken]

He loves her and it's quite likely she could be your future sis-in-law. Start learning some Spanish. Read up on Mexican family structure and church. Ask yourself just why you wouldn't be friends with someone of a different nationality/faith/social status.

[Grande_Beefy_Swirl]

Boy. You're kind of disgusting.

I hope they don't invite you to the wedding. It would suck to have such an elitist piece of shit sucking the life out of the room while everyone else is trying to have a good time.

Luckily, when you die, no one will remember you ever existed and your molecules will blend into those of the earth around you, including every poor person, homeless person and Mexican who ever lived before you. You'll become one with them all as the universe approaches it's inevitable heat-death and everything we ever were decays into nothingness.

Doesn't really matter who was rich/poor/white/brown or whatever when reality is dissolving away.

[abc3643]

Frankly, young lady... In a few years, you're going to be the leftover because men very quickly learn to detect bitches and want nothing to do with them.

[Asker]

I have more useful qualities than that Mexican girl:
- I drive my own car
- I'm a 5'7, white girl and prettier than her
- I just got promoted to supervision position recently and in the future, I'll be a manager
- I'm in my 2nd year of college, majoring in biology

That girl has none of those qualities.

[abc3643]

She's not bitchy and that's a big plus for men.

[October808]

Asker, you're already poor. Your character is worthless on the social market. Your car is foreign made. You sunburn easily and look like a crab afterward. Your dream is to be a manager of someone else's company that you don't own. Sounds like you're just another rat in a cage, despite all the rage. The world's full of biologists, a dime a dozen. Let's see you go the full standard 4 years of college and then some.

I don't mean to crush your dreams, but you had no problem wanting to crush someone else's.

[abc3643]

@October808
" you're just another rat in a cage, despite all the rage"

I get that... ;)

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

You've gotta be a troll. If you're actually serious, then you're a POS and he's right to be ashamed of you. Try not being a trash human who hates on others coz of their ethnicity. Oh and Mexican girls tend to be very beautiful and feminine and know how to excite and entice a man. Sounds like you could learn a thing or two

[crmoore]

I very easily could be wrong but this just sounds off to me. I don't believe you are who you say you are. It kind of sounds like you're pretending to be someone to either push an agenda or troll. I don't think someone who felt the way you do would throw in "my brothers ashamed of me." I think someone like this would just disregard or dismiss that and continue with their perspective.

[Asker]

That's why there is the anonymous option.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Sounds like you are the problem and there is nothing wrong
with Mexicans i love them all like they are my Brothers & Sisters
i love all people of all Race , Culture, Religion. We don't judge here

[Asker]

They get along so fine that sometimes I find myself impressed. I've never seen him that happy before ever. I can never get my brother to enjoy quality time with me.
Alright so I might have everything in life (even beauty too) but there is something they already have (so do most of my friends) while I don't: they found love.

[deadman69]

Well you should understand the fact that your brother likes her. Money isn't everything. You can't judge anyone on the basis of their religion or financial status. If you have money you're lucky. But that does not give you a right to make fun of those who are not that privileged. Also. A prince could love a beggar because love has no restrictions.

[Asker]

I understand money isn't everything but it helps out a lot. I have never been poor ever and hopefully never will.

[deadman69]

Just start accepting her. Your brother chose her for a reason. Look beyond her financial status. At her personality. And treat her like you'd treat any other person

[AlmondSoup]

Sounds like you are the problem. It is not up to you in anyway who your brother dates. Get over it or continue creating your own self drama and family troubles.

[Asker]

While it's true I can't select the girl for him, I was trying to help him in a way by making him understand all the potential he has and that it would be easier if he dated a girl with similar social status.

[AlmondSoup]

He's probably not gonna marry this girl! He's probably gonna date many girls. Just let this one run its course. It's nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

He's already dated a lot of girls in the past and seems to be interested in forming a family. It does seems their relationship is getting serious.

[AlmondSoup]

Either way, still none of your concern. Don't mess with it or else you will just push him away and mess with your own family. He's not gonna dump a girl because you don't like her. If anything it will push him more towards her. Just let it run it's course and go get your own relationship to worry about.

[Anonymous]

I'm a mexican, half slavic girl dating with a midwest dude. I don't know how indigenous families work because that's not my case. But i know from my boyfriend that American guys loves latina girls because we give them love in a new level. You should be happy for your brother insted of being racist ✌️

[Anonymous]

Well that's pretty damn racist.
What's good would any of the other girls be if their just as shitty as you?
You should be happy that he's found someone who makes him happy instead of being an asshole, if you continue being so bitchy it wouldn't surprise me if your brother stops talking to you.

[oldguyincanada]

What's up with his sister being racist, classist, and displaying all round boorish behaviour.

At some level you know this or you would not have cowardly posted anonymously.

[Asker]

I must admit to being impressed the way they get along so well. Sometimes I spend some minutes staring out the window and seeing my brother so happy.

[wankiam]

this question woud have made more sense if it read, 'am i racist?' your brother obviously likes the girls and its u to him who he dates

[Twalli]

He obviously loves her and finds her attractive. Your inability to see that makes you shallow. My sister dated guys who were barely making enough money to get by, she's gone ro college for nearly 10 years and has $0 in college debt. She was clearly better off than them. My girlfriend's entire house is probably the size of one of our floors. It's difficult to describe our house because it's a split level on a hill. So we have 3 floors but they're like 1/2 floors rather than a full one.

[txbiker636]

Wow, I honestly can't believe what I just read. If you think for a second that you have the right to judge then you would be sadly mistaken. Your brother loves her and that doesn't mean you have to but it does mean you should have enough respect for him to keep your hateful mouth shut and keep your opinions to your damn self. I happen to think Hispanics are very beautiful.

[thegirlfromthething]

Based on what you’ve revealed about yourself in this question, one of the primary white female figures in his life has left him with a negative impression of white women.

[simplyvisual2014]

I'm sorry I don't see the problem here. If he's into her, then why make it your issue? You're not the one in a relationship with her and you're not in control of who your brother is attracted to. So I guess don't worry about it.

[October808]

You should have a wall built completely around you. Maybe a gag for your mouth as well.

[zagor]

I hope this is fake, but if not, he probably knew he didn't have better options once they met his sister.

[Avicenna]

Well, she must be doing something right to get and keep him. Looks aren't everything.