Now, I feel like more commonly, a more attractive woman will date a less attractive man, and no one thinks too much of it, assuming the man makes a lot of money or is really funny, at LEAST.
But in my situation... I met this guy at the gym a few months ago - 6'3, tan, built, big, white teeth, big, green eyes, good hair, and a jaw you could cut glass on. Frankly, the kind of man who turns every head in every room he enters. Stunning.
And I'm... well... quirky. We first started noticing each other (and I guess noticing each other noticing each other) about 4 months ago, and now we're exclusive, and I gotta be honest, I'm having trouble feeling secure about it because he's miles out of my league.
Don't get me wrong, I work out. I show up every day at the gym, I'm strong, dedicated to self improvement, and I look better in workout pants than basically anything else, so it probably helps that he met me in my element.
Also, he's 40, and I'm 29, so maybe that gives me some stock? But I recently read that tall, very masculine men tend to cheat more often than anyone - I guess because they know they can have anyone, so there's less incentive to be faithful, maybe, and I'm so afraid to fall victim to the statistics.
I guess I want to know, especially in mismatch situations like mine where the man is more attractive, why did you choose the less attractive woman, and how did things turn out for you?
I have dated girls who are less attractive than me, and it was because they were sexy, like they had strong girl game. Sometimes the prettiest girls are not the most exciting in bed.
I think his age may have something to do with it. For guys, timing has a lot to do with when we get married. I know for me, I am not going to get married anytime soon. I know myself well enough to know it would be a disaster. Not to sound conceited, but I have too many options and too high a sex drive to be able to maintain loyalty to one woman right now. But I would like to get married at some point. I plan on keeping myself fit and muscular and building a life I love. Then I want to find a younger woman who wants to have a family when the time is right in my life. A physically fit, healthy, virile 40 year-old guy has a lot of options, as you can attest. He may look at you and see his future wife, the kind of thoughtful, intelligent woman he wants mothering his children. I know this: I don't want some airhead raising my children.
I would suggest that you stop making forever a requirement and enjoy the time you share with him.
Then you dont need to be insecure you can just enjoy your luck.
Or if you dont want to get involved at all on those terms then dont.
Frankly I dont have any faith of longevity in any relationship so what I am suggesting to you isn't some sort of special treatment, this has become my expectation now and I wouldn't want it another way anyway.
How could i claim to care for someone while trapping them in a situation they didn't want to be in and why would I want to be with someone who didn't want to be with me?
If someone is choosing to spend their time with you and you are enjoying your time with them, thats great, well done you are totally winning, enjoy it because life is short.
I don't think it's true that only attractive women date less attractive men. I see a lot of hot guys with average girls, especially without good makeup.
I think guys date less attractive girls for a lot of reasons. Think of this really hot guys life... do you think he's been deprived of sex? No, probably not. He's probably had lots of girls and isn't looking to sew his wild oats. Maybe he's done all that and wants to meet someone he likes on a person level. And don't sell yourself short. You may have more going for yourself than you even realize. Too many girls downgrade themselves needlessly.
You are what he wants at least right now and maybe for the long term. Being good looking himself he knows the problems that can go along with that and he’s probably had experiences with conventionally attractive women that put him off. Also you could just genuinely be his type. You kinda have a sexy librarian look going and maybe he really likes that.
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The only thing I see in this picture that is unattractive is your glasses. You are an attractive lady and you should make no apologies for your appearance. Also, you are younger and, if he does not have children, the fact that you are young enough to have children may be a big plus in his eyes. Finally, may attractive people do not have confidence about their appearance and you may make him feel more confident about himself.
Ok, you're a sexy nerd girl, have you ever stopped to consider that there are a LOT of guys that are into that? You're his type, you're young, you share working out, and probably other things in common like bodily fluids. He probably wants to make a litter of babies with you, strong like him, and nerdy like you. Men who can have their pick of women tend to pick nerdy girls, or at least I do. y'all are independent, have good careers generally, if not smarter, than more mature and wiser than your peers, and you have interesting hobbies. Smart, strong babies with a stable mom. The lizard brain knows its work, and you seem like a catch from the clues I've got. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
If u can answer this question I will answer your question ok so,,,, you are sitting in a room the door opens. And in comes. The most beautiful girl in the world. Sits down the door opens again I come walking in some one holding my are they sit me in a chair and leave I tell u both I'm blind ,, so can u tell me now being blind what going to make me choose her over you or you over her I for me it's who u are on the inside
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Well to be honest, men who go for younger women usually find themselves being ditched after a while. So if he sees you as less attractive he likely sees you as a safer insurance against leaving him too. I can’t say this for sure obviously, not it is a thought that springs to mind from your question.
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Ima be honest rn, you're a gem cause the age gap, and being the less attractive one, he knows you won't cheat/leave. You also have a great personality/dedication. Boils down to past experiences/insecurities.
Being less attractive one doesn't mean you're ugly either, you can still look good.
Everyone likes different taste, your not going to know if someone is unattractive if your attracted to them. Someone will look at the person your dating and will think they are unattractive or not my type while you absolutely adore the person.
Like I said it just depends on the persons view I don't believe there is such a thing as someone who is less attractive then you.
I dated someone quite less attractive me. I like his personality so much that I never thought of it (though people would remind me all the time). After they broke my heart I finally saw it. Now if I see pictures of them I think "why did ever think he was cute?" I was seeing through rose-colored glasses I guess.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and he probably thinks you are beautiful. My husband has told me that he thinks i am better looking than him but i think we are on the same wave length.
All women are better looking than me. I'm a man and can't compete with their beauty.
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Yeah he’d probably cheat on you. Like if he’s so ‘good looking,’ why would he go for you? You also seem to like a shallow woman. Doesn’t sound like there’s any true chemistry here. Enjoy your time with him, until he sticks his penis in another woman
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