How can I get a date?

[DylanXBailly]

I'm a nerdy guy I've never been in a relationship before, I've tried to find a date on apps but haven't had any luck, any advice for a shy guy

[CarrieBlossum]

You may do all these things already, but they can help anyone in the dating marketplace:

1. Get a good job. Not because women are all gold diggers. That's nonsense. But because it shows that you are disciplined, ambitious, and independent.

2. Wear clothes that are neat and show a sense on confidence, taste, and style. Obviously they should be context appropriate.

3. Go to exercise classes. Not only is this a good way to improve your health and appearance, but it's also a great way to meet people.

[DylanXBailly]

Sounds fair, I'll keep that in mind

[msss98]

Strictly dating? Get out there try joining a class or a club of some sorts. If u wana become more "desirable" try losing some weight u have quite nice features i think underneath it 😅

[DylanXBailly]

Thanks for the advice I'll try working out more

[msss98]

Dating is very superficial if ur trying to approach people u don't know, it sucks but it is what it is, keep at it ❤️

[Tyler131]

Really, so girls only go for hot guys?

[DylanXBailly]

Yeah, don't you do the same, well except going for women

[Tyler131]

Nope, I like ugly girls too

[SuperManiac]

Do you have nerdy interests or just academically gifted? That is sort of my complex. I am a software engineer but I don't like so much nerdy interests. I am not interested in going to conventions, for example.

But if your interests are also nerdy you might go to conventions. But maybe stop being shy. Stop doing that. You want a girl, talk to a girl. Simple. Yes, bad things can happen. It happens to everyone. But maybe good things will happen. No need to be afraid. No risk, no-win. Then you are good.

Stop doing dating apps if you can't ever get in conversation with a girl in person. You are a beginner if you don't mind me saying. Level 1 now. Level up. Gain experience points. You have to grind a bit. Get to level 10 then you can do dating apps. Go talk to girls -- cashier is okay. "How are you? What level are you in World of Warcraft?" You know, like that. And be proud of yourself just for asking regardless of how she answers.

[SuperManiac]

If you have powerful nerd intellect I recommend to try to channel it to people. Nerd intellect usually channels it to things. People are also fascinating. There is more data with one person than you can collect in a lifetime. You take an interest, and lose the fear of "research", and you will be good. People are interesting. Even those jocks who look down at nerds. They are interesting -- even the frat boy beer-guzzling, arm-wrestling types. They are not as simple as they seem. There is a complexity to them. There's endless "data" there.

[DylanXBailly]

Sounds fair, I'll try it but it's not like I don't want to be confident

[SuperManiac]

You know, a good way I think for confidence, and I think it makes sense to a most rational mind... is not to define it in terms of belief in self, self-worth, that sort of thing. It's to lose the fear of failure. It's the guy who gets back up when he's knocked to his feet, not the guy who complains and finds reasons to stay down. It's the one who performs on stage, not thinking she's the best singer in the world, but not afraid if she's heckled... and if she is heckled she doesn't break down and cry and retreat off-stage. She is prepared for it. That is a type of confidence that even the most analytical type can probably appreciate. It is defined by a lack of fear of failure, or at least not be crippled by it. That's the one you can achieve most in my opinion. You can ask a supermodel out not because you think she will say "yes", but because you aren't afraid if she says "no". You master this and maybe I meet you next time and you are like a pimp surrounded by girls. Then I have to remind you of love and monogamy and stuff.

[DylanXBailly]

Sounds fair

[Pistolpete90]

Get out in public and start having random conversations with strangers (men and women) as the more you do it, the more confidence it builds. Or better yet, get a job in hospitality or customer service to build your social skills.
A man that has charisma and can hold a conversation can light up a room and attract a lot of attention.

[moststrangestguy]

Best advice *push your chin down with you hand and use your jaw to lift your hand up basically doing a workout on you're jaw keep going until you have a tired and attractive jaw the. Workout your body and groom well then learn how to make girls feel good and laugh finally learn hot to sext like a god be witty do all this and you will socre but jus remember all females are fucking Evil... There a reason men hit there wife's they all deserve it its a fact

[moststrangestguy]

Along as you do all this you should be fine

[Liz_thorne]

If you're using dating apps you could maybe improve your chances by using different pictures

[loveamanda000000]

Looking for someone your mind chose a woman that is compatible with what you are looking for in her

[Avicenna]

Find a girl with similar interests

[Avicenna]

Approach Asuan women

[Mega96]

Obviously, but his question was "how" 😂

[DylanXBailly]

Is there someone else replying or are you talking to yourself

[DylanXBailly]

Nevermind just had same profile pics

[Mega96]

No problem mate. I'd go with finding a job and becoming stable (women are usually not gold diggers, but they do enjoy seeing you have the gold), being disciplined and confident, working out and having some social contact (where you are comfortable at). For example you might volunteer for some activities you like (if you believe in got, church would be a perfect place). Also try asking friends to set you up with someone who shares interest with you.

[Lilolme99]

Try acting confident but not rudely confident.