Just the smallest bit, jokingly, and never mean or stepping across boundaries. We tease and prank each other a lot. But I'm cool with hanging out with just her and other women sometimes like at a female friend's party, just as I'm cool with her hanging out with me and just guys.
And so sometimes it's just me and her and a bunch of women and they get a bit flirty, probably because I'm the only guy or two in the room. And I never, ever flirt back. But you know, I might joke and flatter myself a bit in front of them for kicks and laughs, only to find my wife nudging me a bit. But then I tell them I adore my wife, you know, and hug her... and when we get home she's a little bit cranky, especially when they tell her things like, "You're so lucky to have him!" Then she's like, "Why am I the lucky one?" :-D And of course I reassure her that I'm so lucky to have her, she's the best thing I ever had in my life, yada-yada... but I do tend to finish with the final word that those girls at the party seem to think she's pretty lucky to have me.
In our case, we're the type of couple where I can tell my wife if I find a girl pretty, and she can tell me if she finds a guy handsome. We're not swingers or anything like that -- totally monogamous, closed relationship. But we're secure enough in each other's choice for each other that we can joke like that. Sometimes people do come up to us and say things to me like, "You shouldn't joke like that with your wife!" Or even to her with girls scolding her like, "You shouldn't joke like that with your husband!" But the reason we can joke this way and nudge each other a bit is due to an extraordinary amount of trust for each other -- and we both know where the lines are that should never be crossed.
She also has more sadistic humor than mine. It is not really malicious at all, just humor. But I've found due to the dynamic that I've developed arrogant defensive humor as a result. Like she'll say, "I'm married to an idiot!" Then I'll respond like, "It's just that I'm such a genius that my genius-level is beyond your comprehension. That's why I keep you around -- to handle the dumb stuff like my dumb secretary." Like that. That sounds way worse than it comes across in person. We're laughing at the end of the day. Well, most people don't get it. We tend to shock some people a bit.
We also both have a fondness for drinking. So sometimes we wake up hungover and there's a persuasion going on about who should go out and get some food/coffee. And I do my share of the time, but sometimes I goad her into it. Then she's like, "Can't you come with me? I feel lonely." [joking pouty face]. Then I'm like, "It's okay. No matter where you go, I'll always be with you in your heart. By the way, can you get me some sparkling water while your own the way?" You know, like that. It sounds mean but it's not. Most people don't get it. We got our inside humor.
Anyway, apologies for a particularly long answer but this is one that I find confuses lots and lots of people. There's not an actual mean fiber behind any of our actions. It's always with love. But we have a certain dynamic where we can share anything with each other, even things that people think couples should not share with each other.
No. She was the jealous one in the relationship, in fact, she was jealous of the start and at the same time, she was unable to give full emotional feedback.
I wasn't perfect but I really knew what I wanted, she had no clue.
Kids?: yes, no, yes, no... Her thoughts about my feelings for her? : true, false, true, false, true, etc.. Her goal in life?: I don't know, no idea. Sexual life (sexcam, sexting)?: yes, no, yes, no..."My parents are calling me for dinner".
My mental state during and after that relationship: "mental insanity".
My lesson: I am no one Superman, just an average joe.
Yes but it was an experiment. I thought this one guy I was kind of seeing liked another girl. So I decided to flirt with a much hotter guy and hotter guy asked me out on a date. The other guy was mad or whatever and I guess he decided to prove me right (about liking the other girl). From there I transitioned to dating hotter guy for a while.
OMG never. Why would i even do such dumb thing to my beautiful sexy wife. Never did it and never will. She knows i have female friends that admire me but she knows how much trust we have in our relationship and i would never try to break that, it's nice.
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You're a great husband. She's sooooooo lucky. Thanks for the awesome feedback 💜
Yeah, it's a game player, keep them wanting you. Otherwise it's like they don't act like they need you. But if there is competition, that's when people often step up and start acting like a relationship is important.
I dates guys with a lot of ego and that all i need is them thinking Im cheating. They would not stand for that and i dont expect them too becasue i would not.
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Girl same. One of my exes literally said he would kill me and the other guy if I ever cheated. I don't play those kinds of games. Nope 🙅
Heavens no. My ex was always accusing me of being with other women I'm visiting all these websites and communicating with them and all this and it split us up. Terrible two cuz I'm 62 years old and experience love for the first time with this woman I fell in love with her but I don't know what happened I lost her. If your partner really loves you you don't have to make him or her jealous they're all ready going to be that way.
No, because I don't like dealing with the backlash, disagreements, and long talks that come with it. Why start unnecessary problems with someone I have to deal with all day
I would like to do something to try to get the one lady who I really want... If it would work and I had someone to help me do that.. But I would not mind finding someone better.
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