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Been there. Felt that. Here's the long and short of it. There's better girls out there. Here's some work cut out for you : close your doors to her. Stop bleeding endlessly. You must feel rejected and wronged. And that's correct. But surely that isn't what you plan on feeling for the rest of your life. So what do you do. You figure out exactly what kind of a woman you need. What kind of a relationship you want. And make it sure as hell that the two of you actually dedicated to it and to each other. People are immature. Some people learn. Some don't. Hope your ex does. But that's her life and the people who date her and their cross to bear. You though. Get on to better shit. Be patient. Do what you got to do. Learn. Seek and offer humanity, unforgiving.13
It was really crazy to message them for sure. It's her job to tell them she's in a relationship, and a comment on her pic is something very harmless tho. She's angry because you messaged them and this shows them what controlling and insecure boyfriend she has.
A lot of guys can like her but if she doesn't flirt back then what's the problem? What matters is she's loyal to you, you can't change others behaviours towards her.39
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Read your very first sentence over again.
Never wver have a long distance relationship. ever. Out of sight out of mind. Its true. She wants to use you and fuck guys where she she is. Thats why she's angry snd dumped you.4
She's getting really defensive, I think she might have trust issues. Or maybe she's just not ready to be tied down. Either way I can tell you care about her, try and be there for her if she'll let you. But if not take a step back and re evaluate whether or not she's the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with.3
She is most likely fishing in more than one pond, and if you guys start talking she will get nothing because you will blow her cover and find how many more ponds that is out there supplying her. Your better of not being in her net.1
Long distance, doesn't sound like you were a priority tbh, but why message her friends? Like they're her friends not yours lol, definitely brought out her immaturity though, she got pretty defensive, but you seemed pretty insecure/over bounds. Both of y'all have problems to work on.11
What you did was inappropriately possessive. She reasonably concluded that if you were together you would be too controlling.1
She was looking for a new joystick to play with, you caught her and she leaves.0
she's not cool2
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Yet another reason I am glad I do not use social media. I can only imagine the comments my girlfriends gets online - granted I trust her but not a headache I need. Nor her for the women who would potentially comment on mine if I had one. I have attractive women friends which have troubled other women in the past. My girlfriend who has met a couple is thankfully not worried about them or me. She knows wear my heart is - with her,. Still, I would hate to add that friction which is also why I do not keep exes around.
You have to trust your girlfriend. Unless she does something to make you question her faithfulness, just trust her online activities. I certainly trust my girlfriend and she is a dang pretty woman with physical features that do get reactions from men... but I know she is not a cheat so I don’t worry about her posting snaps of herself in bikinis or whatever for her friends to see and comment on. It isn’t an issue for me.
Yes I see that would have prevented this is I just finally tore down the wall that makes me not trust her I do love her and I trust her I just dont trust other men yet in that it made it seem like I didn't trust her
Essentially, that is what occurred.