So my girlfriend and I in a long distance had a run in. There were these guys that were commenting flirtatious on a thirst pic on Instagram and I talk to them separately and respectfully in their direct messages. The next day she tells me "im at home. I just woke up." Yet I never asked about it and then she text me "did you talk to those guys on Instagram?" I told her yes 2 people and 1 supposedly was a random guy and the other she knew a year ago. She told me that I was completely crazy for texting her friends on Instagram. Yet let me remind you she was trying to get married in the next year. I told her I was just doing my job because I was a worried boyfriend. Then she called me immature. We always said I love you in the morning for the other to wake up to yet that same day she didn't even say I love you but the day before she did. I haven't heard from her since then and a day passed. Later the next day one of the guys texted me to let me know that she doesn't consider me as her boyfriend anymore. And he apologized and all that stuff. He was cool about it. I'm just confused why she got so angry and called it quits and didn't even decide to talk to me. She always said she didn't want me to leave but she left the relationship effortlessly even though we have both put time and effort into this relationship. I dont know if this matters she is Filipino and I am living in South Korea. Please I need help figuring out a reason why its always on my mind now. Especially since I made a real connection and gave her love out of my heart.
Help me understand. Why did she get so mad and break up with me?
Yet another reason I am glad I do not use social media. I can only imagine the comments my girlfriends gets online - granted I trust her but not a headache I need. Nor her for the women who would potentially comment on mine if I had one. I have attractive women friends which have troubled other women in the past. My girlfriend who has met a couple is thankfully not worried about them or me. She knows wear my heart is - with her,. Still, I would hate to add that friction which is also why I do not keep exes around.
You have to trust your girlfriend. Unless she does something to make you question her faithfulness, just trust her online activities. I certainly trust my girlfriend and she is a dang pretty woman with physical features that do get reactions from men... but I know she is not a cheat so I don’t worry about her posting snaps of herself in bikinis or whatever for her friends to see and comment on. It isn’t an issue for me.
Yes I see that would have prevented this is I just finally tore down the wall that makes me not trust her I do love her and I trust her I just dont trust other men yet in that it made it seem like I didn't trust her
Been there. Felt that. Here's the long and short of it. There's better girls out there. Here's some work cut out for you : close your doors to her. Stop bleeding endlessly. You must feel rejected and wronged. And that's correct. But surely that isn't what you plan on feeling for the rest of your life. So what do you do. You figure out exactly what kind of a woman you need. What kind of a relationship you want. And make it sure as hell that the two of you actually dedicated to it and to each other. People are immature. Some people learn. Some don't. Hope your ex does. But that's her life and the people who date her and their cross to bear. You though. Get on to better shit. Be patient. Do what you got to do. Learn. Seek and offer humanity, unforgiving.
Goddamn that was a tremendous opinion thank you. Maybe I need a month to figure out what it is I need. You said to close the doors and yet on my social media and my photography page she keeps looking at my stuff I think it is because she knows she messed up trying to leave me or is just around for some clout what do you think?
It doesn't matter. If she's got the missing out shit, she should be reflecting on herself and then telling you about it. Which she isn't. She's keeping tabs on you for reasons you don't have to care about. It could be curiosity, boredom, missing your attention, or maybe just missing being with someone. Maybe she'll regret her choices. Maybe she won't. But your concern isn't her. It's you. Make choices that take you to the next level. A better life, a better self worth, a better person, a better relationship that's based on effort and understanding and not glamour and attraction or some other gratifying parameter. Because that shit thins out in some time.
I just was talking to her and she says it's too hard and she doesn't want to do it and I asked if she needed a break and she said yes then I asked if she was even a little sad and with a straight answer she just said no. How could someone go from head over heels to nothing? Will she really regret if she feels no negative emotion now?
It was really crazy to message them for sure. It's her job to tell them she's in a relationship, and a comment on her pic is something very harmless tho. She's angry because you messaged them and this shows them what controlling and insecure boyfriend she has. A lot of guys can like her but if she doesn't flirt back then what's the problem? What matters is she's loyal to you, you can't change others behaviours towards her.
It's just a comment tho.. did she like it or send any hearts or anything like that? If she ignored it I guess that's enough. And what matters is how she treats them in her dms. If she really just treats them like friends then that's enough, but if she responds to their flirtatious messages and doesn't tell them she has a boyfriend then she likes the attention and you have a right to be angry. It all depends on how she interacts with them, which you probably won't get to find out. Which is why it's all about trust. Do you trust your girlfriend enough to know she doesn't fool around? If yes, there's nothing to worry about.
But let's switch roles if I were to do this I know she would be angry. I was at a bar one time and she thought I was over there messing around with a bartender even tho I was just with the homies having a few drinks after dinner. Then there was a girl on a snapchat screen shot I hardly talked to and she barely made it in the picture and thought I was cheating with her.
Yes but she's not there confronting those people. Similarly if you don't like something you should talk to her, not to those people. Because it depends on her more than anyone else
It's never too late. It depends on both of you tho. If she wants to give you a chance go for it. But I think it's not your fault. Yes, you made a mistake but she's not a victim here. She was already doing something she wouldn't like if she was in your place.
Never wver have a long distance relationship. ever. Out of sight out of mind. Its true. She wants to use you and fuck guys where she she is. Thats why she's angry snd dumped you.
So that you can be her emotional tampon and make her narcisstically feel good. Plus, then when she leaves where she is at and visits you she has a new dick all set and ready to go. I mean.. what would you do if you traveled to different cities around the world? YOu'd have different girlfriend stashed away to visit in each city.
She's getting really defensive, I think she might have trust issues. Or maybe she's just not ready to be tied down. Either way I can tell you care about her, try and be there for her if she'll let you. But if not take a step back and re evaluate whether or not she's the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with.
She is most likely fishing in more than one pond, and if you guys start talking she will get nothing because you will blow her cover and find how many more ponds that is out there supplying her. Your better of not being in her net.
Long distance, doesn't sound like you were a priority tbh, but why message her friends? Like they're her friends not yours lol, definitely brought out her immaturity though, she got pretty defensive, but you seemed pretty insecure/over bounds. Both of y'all have problems to work on.
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