The guy I’m talking to is asking for nudes?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been friends with this guy for a few years and recently we told eachother how we like eachother. He makes it no secret that he’s attracted to me.

He kept going on how he wanted to ask me on date, but he never asked me. Instead he text me early morning one weekend to go round his to have sex. We spoke about it and I said kets go out a few times and let things progress naturally, he seemed ok with that. We work with eachother so I didn’t want it to straightaway start with sex.

Now in this current situation we can’t meet up but we’ve been texting/ talking on the phone/FaceTiming and he always mentions dating once we can go out again and then things get flirty.

Last night we were messaging and he asked me for nudes, well, he told me I should send nudes pictures. I’ve never really sent nudes and prefer more in person. I made a jokey comment in response but basically saying no and he hasn’t spoken to me since... we usually speak daily. I like him and want things to progress sexually when we finally get to meet again but I just don’t send nudes. Is he annoyed I wouldn’t send them? Am I weird for not sending nudes?

[genericname85]

first of all, you should inquire yourself. is it cool that you show yourself to someone in a picture that way? if yes, cool. then you gotta ask yourself, can you trust that guy? if yes, cool. then i think you should tease him a bit about it. make it a game. make him work for getting your nudes.
this way he will feel awesome that he got them from you and he won't think you're a slut, cause you didn't make it easy for him. so he feels like he's a special guy who got a thing not everyone could have.
i encourage you to do this, cause it can be a really cool experience and you're in an age, where sex and nudity shouldn't be a "no-no" topic anymore so why not?
just if you do it, make sure that your face is not in the pictures and nothing that can be super easily traced back to your person or where you live. just in case.

[opnbuk59]

That's disrespectful to you didn't matter how long you have known each other and shows you respect you enough to where you have concerns about it it's your buddy and you decide will has earned the right to see your body and your decision should be respected if your not that kind of person please hold fast and never compromise your integrity for anyone and if he cannot respect you for your conviction your choice if you want to continue on with him never settle for less ok maybe I'm weird also but I never would think too ask for nudes of someone I'm talking to rude to do so,

[whitlee34]

NO MA'AM!!!
DO NOT DO IT!!!
I don't give a dame if his feeling get hurt and I don't care if he ignores you bc You will not send nudes. He has no respect for you anyways if that is how he acts.
Know your worth and make dame sure a man is treating you with respect before you send nudes.

[btbc92]

You are not weird for not sending nudes. You are WEIRD for dealing with a jerk who doesn't value you, isn't your friend, isn't looking for a friend OR a relationship, and just wants sex. That is not a friend! Don't be stupid! Remove this loser. Don't waste your time. Drop the guy.

[Anonymous]

you're not weird for not sending nudes to him. in my opinion he sounds like a creep. I think u did the right thing. you don't know what he could do with the pics. I think he only liked you for your figure and for sex. though I'm under 18 I sent nudes to a guy I truly thought he liked my I feel for him too. I didn't feel comfortable but he said he will never text me again. so I sent them to him. he used that excuse all the time. till once I stopped and a week later he put them on social media. so i think you were brave to not send him any pics. i wish i did that. as he's not texting it shows that he doesn't love you for your true personality.

[Socialist]

Nudes are always a scatchy thing. You'll never know where they will end up. This guy seems very pushy towards sex and it's good that you want to take it slow.
But the fact the he isn't talking to you anymore is weird. Have you asked him what is wrong or is he ghosting you now?

[Asker]

I’m not sure if I should contact him to ask what’s wrong? I just assumed he was annoyed I didn’t send them... don’t really know a way to fix that

[Socialist]

No, you are right. Don't contact him. He probably only want sex and nudes so... better not to contact him.

[Doody22]

I think you were right not to send them if you had sent them he would always have them and could use them against you one day. If he is annoyed he isn't someone I would waste your time with especially if he is in his mid-twenties I could understand him being annoyed if he was an immature teenager but he should be older enough to respect your decision.

[MannMitAntworten]

Weird, no. But think for a moment... he asked, you said no ( jokingly), and now he stopped talking with you... He’s just looking for sex. Even if that sex is merely just nudes to toss off too.

You two may be friends, but his behavior just reminds of an idiot seeking their next conquest to nail and bail on.

[Redlioness]

Oh no girl, don't make him use you and your emotions. At first be sure you both have feelings for each OK their rather than sexual attraction. Then you should date enough time that you are both okay and happy in this relationship. Then at the very end, if you're both sure, do what you want

[chriscdi]

dont send em, if he gets mad and frustrated that you dont send nudes is just an eye opening, would you really want to be with a guy that gets angry with you for not wanting to take pics of your body and send em to him on a chat that can be accessible somehow? if you feel pressured to send nudes then get away from this dude asap

[xburrowbuntx]

nope you're not weird for not sending nudes. in my opinion, I don't think this guy deserves you. if he doesn't get your nudes and stopped texting you, he's not the one you should invest your time and feelings on.

[wellhack]

Best thing to do is do what you're comfortable doing you should never be forced to do something and he can be annoyed and if that's the case let him know I don't feel comfortable with sending nudes but once the quarantine lifts we can advance this relationship if you're comfortable with that

[weasley8]

Don't give them to him. He could share them with anyone, and it's pretty clear from the context you've given that he's just using you for sex. It's not worth it.

[sarahhcmarie]

clearly if he won't talk to you cause u won't send nudes then he doesn't seem all that great. try to talk ab it maybe and see what he says. if he's being an asshole about it, drop the mans.

[Gedaria]

You have had face time why not do It then. My girlfriend is stuck in Canada, I'm in UK. When we chat we are both naked and can get really steamy. I prefer to do it in person but both of us are missing each other.

[Shamalien]

probs found another picture to jerk off to

don't pay it much mind, penises need to ejaculate and it takes blood straight out of our brains, no joke, just state your boundaries and let him do what he will

[Grkgod12]

It's obviously your choice. But why not try it? It might be fun

[one1wild00]

That will be entirely up to you. I like seeing a gal nude, it's always exiting, but I can also understand If she doesn't want to send nude either. It's exhilarating but scary too.

[Dain8in21cm]

You're not weird, but he is definitely embarrassed and annoyed. I would not ask that of a co-worker for fear of creating a tense situation at work.

[Twalli]

I think most people do, but if you don't want to, that's fine.

[Anonymous]

That's messed up. Seem like he only sees you as a sexual object.

[COMMODOREII]

You are not weird for sending them.

[Anonymous]

Is the friendship over now?

[Asker]

I’m starting to think there was never a friendship on his part to start with..

[Opinion Owner]

Be careful with this guy.
He went from 0-100 on friendship to wanting sex.
If he respected you, we wouldn’t have even mentioned to send nudes.

[Jmmmfi4]

Don't do it