Internet guy friend asked me for nudes?

[Anonymous]

So I have this internet guy friend whom I know for 7 years. We met through a mutual WhatsApp group and we have been in contact ever since. Sometimes we text/talk a few times in a month, but there also been times where we didn’t text/talk at all.
3 years ago we were texting one night and he asked me to send him nudes. I told him I didn’t want to and he acted like it was a normal question and I was overreacting. I blocked him immediately. After a few months I logged into my Facebook account and he apologized to me. I forgave him way before he apologized (because I truly believe forgiveness is for oneself) and I told him that. Slowly we started texting and talking more.
We never met up until this day because we don’t live in the same country (I live in Europe and he lives in my home country) but he asked me about 2-3 times to meet up when I was in my home country. I didn’t want to meet up because I never met someone I only knew from the internet. Anyways, this past month we have been talking/texting more frequently and we even talked on the phone a few times. He is a really funny guy and I do like him as a person BUT all of a sudden I remember how he asked me for nudes once and I don’t know if I should continue my friendship with him. I’m just skeptical. Am I overreacting over something that has actually happened years ago? I don’t want to get myself in a situation where he’d ask me for something similar again. I worry that he didn’t really change. What do you guys think? Should I continue my friendship with him or should I ghost him?

[Jessica405]

Don't EVER send them. Once you do, you will have no control as to what happens to them. He might seem a nice guy, but even the best can turn to blackmail to try and get worse nude pics.

[Asker]

I’d never send anyone my nudes never did never will. Thank you though

[Bklynbadboy12]

You could continue your friendship but you have to set boundaries let him know that what he did wasn't a good thing and you really didn't like it so that way in the future he doesn't do it again understand

[Asker]

I let him know 3 years ago. He apologized i forgave him it’s actually been 3 years. I just remember it sometimes now we got closer again

[Bklynbadboy12]

So what are you afraid that he'll ask you again. If he does just block him and move on right

[Asker]

Yeah I’m afraid he’ll ask again since we’re getting closer again

[Bklynbadboy12]

You don't have to be afraid if her ask you that again cut him off and thanks for the MHO

[BarryLiverstone]

Continue the friendship and if he asks for nudes again remind him of your boundaries

[Asker]

Okay thank you but would you ever ask a girl you’re only "friends" with and know only through the internet, for nudes?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because I’m honest I’ll say yes. I have been horny before when talking to a friend and it kinda built on flirting. Why do you ask?

[Asker]

Because I want to hear it from a guys perspective… how did the girls react if I may ask?

[BarryLiverstone]

Surprisingly well. You would think they would not react in a positive way but maybe because some trust was built it was almost like they wanted to share and get feedback. Do you think some girls want to hear they look good and feel desired?

[Asker]

Of course every girl would like to hear that but I could never imagine sending my guy friend nudes. They probably liked you or they just wanted male validation

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s a valid point. If you are thinking about your friend, you must have already put that friend into a Zone or nonsexual part of your brain and as such you don’t see how sharing pics would be fun for you as you wouldn’t want to see them. If you got pics from him you would likely just delete them right?

[Asker]

If he or any other guy friend sent me nudes, I’d probably block him.

[Asker]

Like immediately

[BarryLiverstone]

Then my guess is you have blocked lots of people online as this behavior seems to happen occasionally. You wouldn’t judge the relationship before blocking?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for MHO

[Asker]

I only got asked to send nudes by him tbh. I remember when I was 15 a guy sent me his nudes without me asking but I also blocked him. I think my friend unfortunately felt comfortable enough to ask me

[BarryLiverstone]

He could have asked for many reasons. It’s ok if other guys haven’t asked. You can work on yourself and strive to be healthy so that you are seen as attractive. If you were 15 that’s too young to have people sharing that kinda content tbh

[Ms_Facesitter]

Good, Be skeptical. It's shady, friends shouldn't be asking for nudes unless perhaps a friends with benefits, but even then. Nudes, pictures that can be spread without your consent.

[Asker]

Would you continue the friendship if you was me or would you cut him off? by the way he didn’t ask me now, he asked 3 years ago

[Ms_Facesitter]

If it's still on my mind after three years, I would rather cut ties.

[Asker]

It’s been on my mind just recently tbh. Since we got closer and sometimes flirt for fun

[Ms_Facesitter]

Flirting 'for fun' can send the wrong message, maybe that's what got him to ask it.

[Asker]

We didn’t flirt back then. And tbh he flirts more I just play it off

[Ms_Facesitter]

O well be careful with it, if your message isn't clear to him, he might try it again.

[Asker]

You’re definitely right. I will do that. Thank you

[Nahid1707]

Seven years is a long time

[Asker]

Yeah I know…what’d you do in my position?

[Nahid1707]

Leave him and meet someone new

[Asker]

We’re not in a relationship so what do you mean leave him

[Nahid1707]

End the friendship

[Asker]

Why?

[Nahid1707]

You seem unhappy correct?

[Asker]

Not unhappy, worried it might happen again tho (that he asks) even though he apologized before

[Nahid1707]

Okay i understand