Whats something you’re not too fond of a potential partner having/doing but almost all seem to do it now?

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#FeelFreeToList #ThatThingTheyOftenDo
I listed examples on the poll but also feel free to list examples of your own. here's some of mine—
- He's either a gamer or an anime lover... like dammit lol. Like its not baaaad but it kinda is cause these dudes are usually obsessed with one or both. I don't know how i keep attracting gamers and shit 🤣
- He’s either atheist or hardcore trump supporter. I dont care if you're republican. I personally choose to stay out of politics. But i also dont like being constantly questioned about my religious beliefs 🤷‍♀️
- He’s either jobless or rich. And i dont mean jobless due to covid. Like a lot of dudes dont have degrees but also have no intentions of getting a job anytime soon. Like nahh.. you’re cute but we won't work. The rich dudes are on a powertrip and think they can get anything out of me with a financial bribe. Lmao they got the wrong one. I got my own (when im not wasting it at the casino) 😂
- Theyre either sexual or not at all. Like damn i may not wanna have sex witcho ass anytime soon but i still like to talk dirty. I got some kinda needs 🙈
- They either live far away or live here with their mom. I’m tired of ldr but im not against it. And the ones who live with their mom usually have no intentions of moving out within a year or less so its just disappointing. 🙄
- Found out someone I was starting to like has a kid. Now thats a new one... i mean at least its only one kid so thats not a dealbreaker. Shocked the kid is like already 8 or something. But at least the baby mama is remarried and they can't stand eachother. So yea I don't know what will happen there.

KingdomForAKiss · Accepted Answer

I don't currently have a partner so I'm writing based on your poll options:

*Texting while I'm talking-- So rude for anyone to do while talking to other people. You should enjoy the company of the people that you're with.
*Gamer-- I enjoy playing video games from time to time but I get annoyed when it takes over time together. If we're doing our own thing, that's fine and doesn't bother me.
*Talk too much-- isn't a big deal unless the topic is meaningless (like celebrity drama or something stupid). I'll still listen out of caring for the person. If they seem immature about something, I think a conversation should be had about getting on the same page. I want to grow with my partner in the same direction.
*Work too much or not enough-- this would bother me if there wasn't a reason for it. There are times in our lives when we need to work more hours to afford certain things. There are also times where we might be lucky enough to not have to work (like during vacation). I'd be more frustrated if he didn't work enough/chose a crap job while I busted my ass (I've experienced that).
*Too emotional, dramatic, or depressed-- I've never experienced this type of man. I've been depressed before and I know it's not easy to deal with, which is why I stayed single during most of it.
*Rather spend money than time together-- There are many things that are better quality when you spend a little more money on them BUT I don't want to be with someone who constantly needs the latest and greatest technology/iphone etc. I mean, if he has the money for it, cool. But if it means that I'm paying for everything, or we're losing out on family time because of it, that's not right.

The only one I didn't see that you mentioned is the "Mama's Boy." Trust me, I love a family man. I know that older parents may eventually need to be taken care of, for health reasons or other supports. But I'm talking about the Mama's Boy that can't make decisions for himself.

KeziL · Accepted Answer

-Like you said, texting while I'm talking or constantly being on their phone while we're hanging out. Like I feel like that's within reason, you should be able to put the phone away while we're talking or doing something together, if we're just chilling it's fine but if you're spending time with me I want you to actually spend it with me? Same goes for friends.
-Constantly flirting instead of actual talking. I like flirting, but if that's the only conversations we ever have, imma find it real hard to connect to you.
-Bad at making plans. By this I mean first they agree to "sometime this weekend" and then you have to repeatedly question them to figure out which day, what time of day, and what time, because they just keep giving answers like "sometime in the afternoon" and then "either 3 or 4pm". I hate having to interrogate someone to find out what time to meet them lmao
-Lack of physical affection. Not the most common issue out there, but I like when a guy like slips his arm around my waist or grabs my hand almost out of habit, keeps me close. That's one of those things that doesn't feel so great to have to ask someone to do because then it'll be forced, so I'd rather have someone that's naturally kinda touchy.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Move too fast... I'm all for sex, but not 20 minutes into meeting...
And getting too handsy, like don't think you can touch my boobs just cuz they there or be tryna touch my thighs butt it anything else same day you meet me, not unless you want broken fingers anyway...
Anyway, I feel it's disrespectful, but especially when I state from the get go I need to take things slow they'll agree with words but then the actions don't match up... And that right there kills anything from going any further... As that shows that you don't have any care or respect for of you're making me feel uncomfortable, which speaks of a selfishness and lack of control I want no part of cuz if you that way from the get go , then yeah... Just no

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My pet peeve is chewing gum. There is a long, boring story that explains it but I won't bore you with the details.

VanityFair748 · Answer

Those things used to annoy me, but I got used to and now I couldn't care less:
1. Gaming
2. Texting while I'm talking
3. Not listening when I'm talking
4. Expects me to be excited about him making a lot of money
5. Expects me to forget the fight if he buys me a gift
6. Doesn't pay enough attention
7. Expects me to stay calm all the time cause I don't like to show emotions
8. Easily forgets what I said
9. Angry or sad if I refuse to have sex (cause he thinks I'm mad or something is wrong with him, he just doesn't believe that I just may not be in mood)
10. Telling he'll be back after 5 minutes, returns home like never again.
11. Lying about his location when we're about to meet so I think he's near and wait for him.
12. Not giving enough attention to our son.
13. Promises something and then just forgets about it.
14. Fat and doesn't exercise.
I mean he has lots of good qualities too, so I don't really care about those things but deep inside they still annoy me lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m a saver. I’m all for having a joint savings account when I get married apart from our personal accounts. Most of the guys I meet and like don’t save. They get money and they spend it.
My current boyfriend has that same habit and it irks me. Sometimes when we talk on the phone, he’s talking bout how his rent is half paid and he’s broke. So broke that his next meal isn’t guaranteed. And he eats out all year round!!
Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t complain because I know he’s fending for himself at a young age but isn’t it easier to spend your money on simply the things that matter and save the rest for the really bad days. I live on allowance from my parents because I’m still in school but I save almost half of my monthly allowance.
Saving is kind of a biggie for me.

Another thing is posting everything online. If you take a good picture, it’s good to want to post it, to maybe keep up. And I’m okay with taking videos for memory sakes, but when you have to post it all, I have a problem. I don’t get how people need to show off where they’ve been or what they’re eating. It’s just extreme a lot of the time.

Regmorus · Answer

1) Superficial conversations; and vocabulary, thoughts, opinions and soul restricted to basic levels of depth and awareness of things and their interconnections.

To make clearer and illustrative what is meant: things like being judgmental, impatient, shallow, often blaming others, gossiping, being materialistic, being not able to deal with own moods etc. are particular manifestations of the state of consciousness that is described above which are common in most people each to some individual-dependent extent.

2) Drinking alcohol more often than on special occasions (like new year celebration, birthday etc.); smoking or taking drugs (even light ones). This popular culture of "we live only once" isn't acceptable to me.

3) Unhealthy kind of coffee drinking (like drinking it to force yourself to stay awake), frequent use of medicine (like when they have headache they ALWAYS grasp a pill). People who can't trust and have faith in their own bodies which is one of the new trends are too fragile; even to just handle themselves.

MCheetah · Answer

Well, I haven't had a partner in a while but something I'm definitely not too fond of a potential partner being is queer/non-straight. Where I'm from, almost NO straight women exist anymore. They're all some variation of gay. ("Queer," to be politically correct.)

Look, if you're into girls, that's cool. You do you. But please don't talk to me if so. You have no idea how annoying it is to have a lesbian (or 'part-time lesbian') hit on you as a guy. Some guys - many, in fact - have a lesbian fetish, and for whatever strange bizarre twisted reason enjoy the idea of dating queer women. I don't. I ONLY want a heterosexual woman as a potential partner. I have zero attraction, or interest, in a queer woman, especially one hitting on me. I'm not a woman; why wouldn't I be extremely annoyed at a queer woman showing "interest" in me? That's like a guy going up to a (biological) woman and saying how he's into mustaches, broad shoulders, and bulges in crotches. What kind of woman would be flattered by that? It's the same reaction with me.

I just want a straight, compatible, pretty woman. They don't exist anymore in Philadelphia.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say being uncomfortably close with their guy friends. I don't want them to not see their guy friends but doing borderline romantic things like cuddling, going to a nice resturant ordering wine or him buying her expensive things... They are not always bad but they are not very comfortable feeling. Cuddling with a friend that they have known for a long time as a brother that is not so bad. But also I'd say draining the bank account. If we can afford it and especially if she has a job it's totally fine but spending impulsively before we know what's in the account is something that could be a little annoying

TonyV · Answer

Well it's kind a bummer that almost every girl over 22 has at least 1 kid now.
They all prefer a guy 6 foot or taller, I can't change my high not fair.
They all want to do something crazy to have fun, do you have any idea how many girls want to skydive?
They all sound too against sex, I get it, it's not the only thing that matters and your trying to weed out the fuckboys but it is inportant, but yes its inportant, it's not everything I want but obviously I want a girlfriend for sex and I know you want it too.
I'm not religious so I dont want to hear how much you love god.
I dont want to hear about your family, am I dating them or you?
I really dont like hearing about politics, you vote for your guy and I'll vote for mine, it dosent matter.

Those are top ones

ohshee · Answer

Well at the moment I don't have a partner but if I did you know I could find something lmao,,, lol it's call love it's called commitment it's called work in progress,, I don't care what it is we do in like we have to pay for it. And work for it if it is good and some thing we want and desire it's going to take hard work to get it or to make it work everything we love we have to work hard to get it,, that's why good people are good because it's hard being good

And that's why bad people are bad because they don't care they are lazy They take the easy way always

Now add a partner girls will know whst I mean ,, because they have a plan in life it's starts as a little girl grow up get married have hides a house so on And so on they didn't know about this being good thing that it's going to be hard and then even harder if u have kids and a lazy oldman lol

Anyway I really need a girl friend what was the question again lol

Kurαȷ · Answer

Having a bad taste in men and not maintaining sensible boundaries with other males are the two main issues that even the highest quality women have.

The amount of successful, educated, self-respecting and sensible women who had a total dickwad or an openly toxic/abusive asshole for a past partner is honestly mind-boggling.
And so is the amount of women who have male friends who they know are romantically interested in them.

I just ignore it now even though I consider it majorly stupid, because if I started penalizing people for it then I would legit run myself out of options altogether, apparently.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For me, it's:
1. Cursing, shouting, or fighting.
2. Smoking, whether it's cigarettes, weed, or whatever else: I can't deal with secondhand smoke.
3. Tattooing or piercing the body: what a way to disfigure what God gave you.
4. Wearing thongs: I don't know, I just don't... know.
5. Pregnant or with a child.
6. Saying "get a girl" while already taken: if only I had a dollar for every time I heard that one.
7. Asking for money or measuring you by the size of your paycheque: get a job, please, and earn your own money!
8. Wanting oral or anal sex: good thing for me, I'm a virgin and I'm not desperate to be anything else.

Rab1901 · Answer

I think being on the phone is the biggest thing lately. It doesn't even necessarily have to be texting, but there is so much that she could be doing, like checking their instagram/snapchat stories, uploading photos/videos, liking posts, and all that jazz.

TJFreshman22 · Answer

Unpopular opinion (but not going to lie): Them requesting and wanting me to eat them out during their period (or doing other things to them down below during their period). I'm really turned off by that and don't enjoy that in the slightest so I decline. Would be like if a dude had blood coming out his mouth or nose and asking his girlfriend if she was turned on by that and wanted to make out. She'd be turned off by that request faster than a fat kid chasing an ice cream truck. I'm not a fan of double standards. Would certainly enjoy making her soup, how heating up the hot pack turtle doll for her though and taking care of her. But would just want to wait a couple days on the fun stuff is all.

newfreshstart · Answer

somethings that i'm not too fond of a potential partner having/doing are

the girl has been with too many guys
she can't joke around
she try's to change me too much
she would reather be with her friends then me
she makes fun of my short comings like i can't spell things like that

An_Impulse · Answer

they being ignorant. apolitic. if they have bias ideas like 'everyone who has tattoo's are drug addict' kind of ideas or beliefs.. too much religious people. unrespectfull. selfish. depressive (since im not too cheery myself. i dont need someone else being depressive whenever i talk to them. i am trying to be happy whenever i can)..

i dont know i just find these annoying.. also if the person doesn't like games (pc games) i dont think we can connect as much as with the gamer person :)

Anonymous · Answer

An1, I don't like it when she's always on her phone. To be fare I spend a tad too much online on laptop, but don't use a smart phone. I own a smartphone, but still use a flip phone. I generally try to stay offline and in daily life am not connected. So I don't want to be plugged in, but sadly most women are.

lucas262 · Answer

Well im a bit of a gamer as iv lead battlefield clan for 3 nearly years
I like anime ok,

I do live with my mom and found a great place to move to with ny best friend,

I am a trump supporter, in my opinion right and left wing are both fuck ups.

I usually let people believe and do what they want but ill voice an opinon especially when they tell me i should share thie view

Since 17 iv usually had more than 1 part-time job at a time, soon looks like I have 2 jobs officially.

Not a very sexual guy, just seems to be a line i don't like crossing so many women get friendzoned instead of becoming dates.

AdithyaR · Answer

For me I guess an excess of anything could be a problem.
Also if she questions my beliefs it's s deal-breaker.
I absolutely can't smoking. I can tolerate drinking but no excessively, and she shouldn't question my choice of not drinking.

ElvenMr · Answer

I get it. But really, what's wrong with gaming?
Especially weird, that's coming from somone who goes to casinos, unless you go there to drink for free at the bar and spend only like 20 bucks on casino BS 😆
If i was in a relationship, i would happily cut back on the gaming to spend time her, plus it's not my only hobby so.. Some guys don't want to do that i know..

Give the guys some slack, you might be the change they need in their lifes that'll give them a boost in the right direction.

Fiddling with her phone constantly would drive me crazy.

I really hope she is not selling her nudes online.. at least let me take the photos 😂

ellkell · Answer

How they wake up in the morning. If you require 75 alarms and snooze buttons, well we will never share a bed or a house.

Whats something you’re not too fond of a potential partner having/doing but almost all seem to do it now?

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