Guys, if a man is short, broke, and lacks ego, does he still stand a good chance to get a decent partner?

Question

If a guy is  short  (under six feet),  broke  (earns less than $31K a year), and not full of  a ton of self-pride and ego  (aka "lacks confidence") but has modesty however,  does he still have a good chance of impressing a decent woman in today's day and age?  Let's also assume the man is under the age of 35, so still relatively young (or not old, at least). Or does he  have  to be not-short, upper middle class and above, and very prideful in order to earn a genuine, decent woman nowadays?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Huh! If this is how your thinking, then you'll get what you are. You have a lot of misconceptions about dating and women.

1. If a guy is short (under six feet) - Looks doesn't matter. But every woman is different when it comes to the height that she can handle and deal with. Stop listening to those myths and get to know REAL WOMEN. That's the problem with a lot of you men, you don't communicate, talk or get to know us for us. Many shorter men under 6'feet have partners. The ones who struggle more are those who are shorter than 5'0 and over 6'feet. Why? You're either too short or too tall. As a shorter woman that is overall my criteria, I find to not be attracted to people. At least it's logical. Love your height and don't worry about that. Stay away from shallow girls and women.

2. broke (earns less than $31K a year) <- Question. How are you broke? 0 income is broke. Making less than $31K says you either working a minimum wage job or your working seasonal jobs. A job is a job. BUT, if you expect to get married, have a family, and live with a person, you are better off finding a higher paying job or go back to school to increase your income. What matters is that he has a job. It's only a problem when you can barely take care of yourself or another person. Besides issues with bills. That is ONLY if you have a person who is serious about dating and desiring marriage. Otherwise, nobody really cares if you just fooling around anyway. It depends on what she is looking for in a partner and what you are looking for in a partner. You should already know this.

3. and not full of a ton of self-pride and ego (aka "lacks confidence") but has modesty <- CORRECTION. Pride and ego are ugly. Nobody in their right mind is attracted to that except for those who are also like that. Confidence has 0 t do with pride or ego or modesty. What is the definition of Confidence?

Confidence: the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. Examples of it are: "I am confident I can get the job done." "I feel confident that we will win the playoffs!"

Now, what is pride?
Pride: a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.
Examples of Pride: He knew he was going to win the match, and he relished the idea of breaking them.

Or ego?
Ego: a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
Examples of ego: As a socialite, she felt that everybody lower than her should bow down at her feet. It only took one man that she wanted to remind her she wasn't the queen of the world. And she was but offended.

Then what is modesty?
Modesty: the quality or state of being unassuming or moderate in the estimation of one's abilities. Or even--> behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency.

So please explain what does that has to do with impressing somebody? When you try to impress a person, your entertaining them. They will be judged you based on how entertaining you are. It also depends on who are you trying to attract and who you are as a person. "does he still have a good chance of impressing a decent woman in today's day and age?" Let me tell you something as a decent woman myself. We don't care about that. We care about who you are as a person and what you want with us and why.

jelly77o · Accepted Answer

Loack ego is so different from lacks confidence.  Either way, it depends on other stuff, like his character and what he has to offer (not necessarily materialistic stuff, but in general)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, he merely has to do further afield, and earn a genuine, decent woman from some place that still has several of them, along with far lower entry-level criteria, and a far shittier standard of men. Try SE Asia, East Africa and West Africa- they'll be catfighting over a prize like you there...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Any woman neglecting a man solely on those reasons is a benefit for yourself. A woman whose standards aren't so broken will for sure go for a guy like that.