Why are there so many single bachelors nowadays?

Question

i have just noticed that there are so many high quality , marriage material men out there in their 30s seeking wives but seem to struggle so much. Back then during the early 2000s, most men would be married by 33 and have kids. Nowadays so many Middle Aged men are single and are frustrated With not being able to find dates. Why is that?

Quidthonian · Accepted Answer

From my interactions over social media, people lose interest very quickly. Also, there are too many gun-ho youngsters convinced that every woman in the world simply must see their sexual tool. Understandably, women are put off by that type of behaviour. This also ruins the chances for genuine men (cheap shot warning: like myself).
I want a slow, steady stable relationship. I am not into clubbing, alcohol, narcotics (tobacco is a narcotic in my book). I keep on trying, but after the first conversation people write me off as a boring, crazy geek.

On_the_other_hand · Accepted Answer

Everyone is trying to date up. Guys are trying to date up, the girls they are interested in are dating even higher and the guys they are after are trying to date even higher. Girls are getting constantly hit on buy hot guys, but those guys are just looking for a hookup.

Ask any single girl in her mid thirties looking to marry how hard it is to get the type of guy they want.

Most men today don't want to marry, there is very little upside and a LOT of downside.

Chikky · Answer

Because their taste are high, back then they want a stay at home woman. But now, they want a woman that works hard just as much as him

ImagineSketchy · Answer

In a word; feminism. More specifically modern feminism. These bachelor's want wives... Not independent women. They want someone that is wanting to build a family with them, to be submissive to him, to support him and his endeavors, to bear children and to raise those same children, whilst holding down the household. Far too many women invest a lot of time into education and then forget about dating and they miss their opportunity to find a partner with these men you speak of. Feminism has pushed for a woman to be independent, to not need a man, and to essentially live as though she were male. Basically having them think that a man acting like a gentleman towards them is showing that the woman is being oppressed or even as though she's unable to do for herself. If a man offers to open the door for you, pay for the first date, or even open and close the car door for you after you get out/into it, then he's a gentleman and he's simply courting you. Feminism rejects this notion and it pushes men away. Feminism as a whole is not about equality. It never has been about equality. It has simply been about granting females more power in the Western world. In some ways, the powers or the rights have been beneficial, but that was in the 60s-70s, and we're far past that era.
These men are looking for a needle in a needle stack. You can find a good needle in all of the awful ones, but you're going to look worse than a pin cushion by the end of it.

blank_expression · Answer

I am only a bachelor some of the time. The issue is not attracting women; the ones that pursue me are. They all tend to be feminists (some have been sharp, what a waste) and most seem normal in the beginning, but as that mating dopamine wears off, their ugliness begins to show. They are so sweet to snare a guy and they do all the best things, but that doesn’t last. I had some trying to get knocked up, which can mislead a guy especially when it doesn’t matter by whom. I have built up too much to throw it simply to the judicial winds sweeping wealth from men to women in this Marxist revolutionary epoch. As long as I am in high demand by women and career job offers, I don’t see the need for marriage especially considering the risks.

JackSmy · Answer

30s is "Middle Aged"? Really?
More mature guys are more likely to be more focused on her needs, and satisfying her, before himself, unlike the younger boys, that think they are amazing, but now knowing shit!
Believe whatever you want, but who do you want to be with?
Some guy that treats you like his plaything, or some more caring, loving guy, that honestly cares, and wants to love you, wants you to feel safe, and cared for, and adored, as well as loved?

DonCachondo · Answer

Eek! I can't imagine how pathetic it must feel to be a 30+ year old man desperately looking for his first wife. If you miss the chance to claim your prize during Round 1, you might as well embrace the bachelor life from then on, bro. The returns on marriage go downhill for a man FAST the older the woman is at the start of it. If you're lucky, you might make enough money later on to catch yourself a wife in her 20's.

007kingifrit · Answer

modern women... are awful. they have been indoctrinated into a secular religion on social media of constant outrage and fake news and they always need to be telling you to what to say and are easily offended.

conceited with low self esteem is how i describe them. there just are few viable women with traditional values that you could be proud to be around

Anonymous · Answer

What you've done here is taken the facts and switched the genders. You have it completely backwards.

"High quality, marriage material" single men in their 30s are in a very powerful position in the dating game and they are not struggling. They have their pick of women their age as well as younger women because women tend to be attracted and drawn to older men anyway, and especially the ones who have their shit together and have an established career and income, which is exactly the demographic you're describing here. Those guys are in the most powerful position of all and they are NOT struggling to find a wife IF they want one, and many don't for obvious reasons (that's a different conversation).

It is a well known fact that it is single 30-something women who are struggling because, unlike men, women's value in the dating market decline precipitously beginning in their late 20s and early 30s.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

Being single, from experience, the girls don't even know how to talk to a guy. They are just in hookups. and thinking sex is easy with a high value guy. No it's not. Girls who are younger have a better connection with me.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Well, every time men try to explain what the problem is, they get ignored or even attacked.  Don't ask questions if you're not going to listen to the answer.

B2281 · Answer

Well there are many different factors. The divorce rate is extremely high so it becomes a personal economic issue as well as take a extreme emotional toll on guys, and because of that many guys decide if it's so easy to get sex out of marriage why risk the financial gamble of divorce.

in the long run it's a unfulfilling and in many ways stupid decision. However not every man makes that decision, but it has become a more common and popular one.

sensible27 · Answer

Quality and struggle don't really go together, almost like by definition so don't know what you're talking about. If you think there's a good 'catch' go for it. Also, personally I wouldn't be surprised if people want to remain single.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

To use myself as an illustration, I'm single and have never dated anyone because I have not found the right girl for me and the risks of getting involved with the wrong one are greater than I can afford or care to think about.

888theGreat · Answer

Me Too Movement is one , and women give up their Asses too easy. Why buy a cow if you are getting milk for free?

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Are they really frustrated, or are they simply wise enough to avoid the sucker's bet that marriage under no-fault is?

Anonymous · Answer

Hookup culture, whereby attractive men are able to stay on the market taking up the majority of the single women's attention.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

For me, I'm single because I just haven't come across a gal that I want to spend the rest of my life with yet. I'm don't want to why all the other guys are single bachelors.

Anonymous · Answer

Very few of them are virgins. So it's obvious what choice they made. I am 21 and have that choice marriage to one woman or sex with dozens. I'm still holding out for one.

Guanfei · Answer

They don't struggle. They're just smart enough to be very selective. In their position, there are thousand of women who would gladly use them.

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

Because they are likely cheap skates dont know how to woo women and probably boring in conversation

Isac132 · Answer

haha, there is a very interesting YouTube channel- Better Bachelor. Check it out. You get all the answers there

FearlessGoat · Answer

Because ya wanna be hoes and not yet cuffed

Smirnoff23 · Answer

Maybe they have not found the right one

msc545 · Answer

Marriage has NO advantages for men.

venomhbk1313 · Answer

Because none of us ever found the right one

Anonymous · Answer

For me it’s definitely looks

asshole_ · Answer

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