Guys, do you prefer dating modest or sexy girls?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Both pics are superhot and both are actually sexy. But if a woman dresses like in the second pic I feel usually a little shy, maybe intimidated. I do not know why that is, maybe because I fear pressured like there are expectations I cannot meet. That she wants some kind of very extraverted party lifestyle with high-performance sex... and that she will steamroll my emotions on occasion.
I mean - A woman like her could wear *anything* and still be as hot as plasma in a tokamak. I am a sensitive guy, if she actually wants to date me (wait - what... me? for real?) she will have realised that I can be very introverted and could help me a bit by tuning it down... The dress style in the first pic is very classy and versatile, perfect for so many occasions: Dining out, theatre / opera, vernissage / anything culture / works also for a café if its high-tier / friends wedding. First style manages to appear sophisticated without neglecting sex-appeal, like she would actually enjoy a deep conversation over some quality meal with a glass of red wine before the question "my place or your place?" may arise.
I do not mean to imply that woman who dress sexy to the extreme as in pic 2 are stupid or something - I have met too many examples to the contrary - but she is dressed for the beach, for the club, well... she simply might be lacking the patience for some rather artistic and calm activities that I enjoy very much.
I have dated women who preferred to dress like style 2, but I met them all when I had a manic upswing and contact always only lasted for a short while. Probably because dressing that sexy is an announcement that she wants action! Now!
Life for me is like composing a symphony and so is dating: I may well go 'vivace con brio' during the first movement but good music builds tension by variation: For the second movement I suggest 'lento ma non troppo'.

TremorJay · Accepted Answer

Probably modest, but I like both. It's better (I think) if a modest girl dresses skimpy on occasion, as long as it's for my attention and not all the other men in the world, because she needs to feel good about herself. Of course, I would feel good about myself if we were out in public and she was turning heads, so I guess that's a win-win

Espresso-Grande · Accepted Answer

A guy's appearance initially attracts me, but his personality determines if I continue to date him one not.

I wouldn't date a guy I found physically unnatractive , and I wouldn't continue to date an attractive looking guy if he had a shit personality

Personality is most important, because it's a guy's personality, not his appearance, that I fall in love with. But I still need to have a physical attraction towards him.

ineedatan · Accepted Answer

Most men I know adores a female that can dress and present's herself as both depending on the time and setting. But most importantly feels comfortable in the skin she's in, what she wears and how she carries herself as a person - her attitude is what determines her appeal.

ragequeen · Answer

Why not both? I prefer being modest for my man but I also love to dress sexy for him and private and sometimes public. It will keep his eyes on me ;)

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Sexy isn't about how you dress... Sexy is more an attitude... You can be sexy without exposing your whole body for everyone to see... Besides a lot of men I've heard think less is more... Of which I agree

Reaperbot666 · Answer

more modest when in public. more sexy when in private. guys tend to want a girl they can bring to family dinner. who dressing in a modest manner. but also a girl who can be a bit wild and dresses. in a more sexy manner when at home or in the bedroom.

Sapioit · Answer

As long as I can have a mature discussion and she's not an adult toddler, it doesn't really matter. If it were completely identical twins, personality and all, I'd prefer the modest-clothed one. Unwanted attention is unwanted.

After all, is she advertising her assets to other potential partners? If she wanted to signal she's taken, she would wear sexier clothes while hanging out with me and more modest clothes while hanging out with others.

sensible27 · Answer

Meh people are people, and it really sort of depends on where you're coming from. What's 's*xy* for some can just be a normal in thier life. Some 's*xy' girls are pretty sweet and introverted, pure at heart. I'd say the 'intention' matters, I'm not really sure I would like a super flirty someone who flirts with everyone as a close friend but I can see it being possible. People are complex I guess.

malik0403 · Answer

I always tried to date modust girls with brain or smart and most of the time I got annoyed/frustrated when I am with hot girls because they constantly try to groom/takecare of themselves and usually they are selfish.
I am a business minded and goal oriented person. i can compromise with looks a little bit but I can't live with a selfish/dumb girl.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

Sexy for me an modest in public. Occasionally sexy in public is ok but those who need constant attention by dressing sexy in public aren't the best partners

BCA6010 · Answer

Modest, by far. Modest women tend to be much less reliant on looks and more secure about themselves. It's nice to be sexy and confident, but more often than not, those women are only looking for attention and have little else to offer.

Don-_-Don · Answer

Modest.
Why would I date someone merely because they're sexy?
I would want to fuck a girl who is sexy, if that's the only thing we're going by that is.

People, never let your main motivation on dating someone be because you find them sexy.

walt0462 · Answer

Since I have a SO... im not actively seeking nor dating... but prior to my meeting my SO. I've dated modest and Sexy women equally!
I've never let a woman outta appearances be the o determining factor for dating besides it's subjective what I might consider Sexy or Modest another guy may not and vise versa

vapeguy93 · Answer

I prefer women who are smart, funny, and compassionate. As far as physical looks go, they are not at the top of my priorities list because looks are deceiving.

socksguy · Answer

Trick question. How one dresses does not make one sexy or modest. It's not what you wear, it's the construction of your character.

TruthBringer · Answer

Dating in terms of investing in a long term relationship, it's always modest. Those who wear sexy clothes on a regular I see nothing more than short term dating for pleasure.

BaronLaCroix · Answer

Both can get me going. I love the challenge of bringing the sexy out in a modest girl and also figuring out what makes a sexy girl blush and get modest. The mind is her real sex organ.

zagor · Answer

Those aren't really comparable terms. I assume you mean girls who DRESS sexy or modestly.

I don't care either way myself, as long as they don't make it look like I picked up a hooker (or a nun) when we go out.

Tobi_Lerone · Answer

I prefer dating girls with a nice character. If they are sexy it's even better, but for me it's more like an extra and a must-have.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say a little bit of both but mostly modest mainly because it's less a focus on appearance which means she finds other things more important in her life. Hopefully my hobbies or believes will be one of them :)

kemo56 · Answer

Well I would say both but that probably would mean that I would date either one but I prefer to date someone that is both... Angel in public and naughty in private

RemoErdosain · Answer

Definitely modest in public. If she wants to be sexier when we're at home together, I don't mind, but a girl that's dressing like a whore in public doesn't just want my attention, but someone else's

Rayvenhawk · Answer

I would prefer a modest woman. They are usually more honest, and what happens behind closed doors, they can be just as "sexy" as a sexy girl. Best of both worlds.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Of the two pictures, the modest gal. Then again, I see the first gal's outfit as more fun and playful.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Modestly sexy women. It is a talent some women pull off with great success.

thehorriblesheikh · Answer

I don't mind either, but it would be unattractive if she was just being modest to seem more attractive, or if she was being sexy just to seem more attractive.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Uh we prefer whichever is hotter. How they dress doesn't mean a whole lot to most of us. I don't understand how this is continually something that females do not understand.

Walt832 · Answer

🥴🤓BOTH!!!✌️. If she is smart oooooh boy. Specially talented gifted 🤭

Anguiano2323 · Answer

My girl can wear whatever she wants because I can fight. Lowkey though I’d prefer modest to a bit sexier in public, and in prívate obviously lingerie, less clothes even better.

JimboGB · Answer

You mostly date in public and any real man will want a Modest woman. We can be sexy at home.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Both girl wardrobe is a turn off. I prefer modest but mixed in with sexiness as well.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Definitely modest, I think they're more beautiful. And while I think the sex girls are, well sexy, it leaves little mystery to the imagination and gives the impression that they're insecure and feel they need to show off their bodies.

JackSmy · Answer

Modest Ladies, that have self-respect, and don't dress "Trashy" in public.

winterfox10 · Answer

Modest girls don't seem to want anything to do with me.

Browneye57 · Answer

Yes. Your dress attire is mostly irrelavent. Guys are far more interested in YOUR level of attraction and desire for THEM.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I prefer athletic girls.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

I love the perfect girl. Modest sexy girl. Believe me she is out there, I know I married her

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Dating would be modest. Fucking... well sexy is more for a one night stand.

jgokgotit · Answer

I prefer to date modest women. They value more than their appearance.

simonqq · Answer

Really depends on their personality beyond this.

Glojoeblo · Answer

I want it all! I want it all!!! I want it now!!

asshole_ · Answer

a little bit of both too much of one thing, is well, exactly that, too much but why does it matter what i like, im not dating YOU

OutdoorsForLife · Answer

Given the question the modest girls are not sexy? Then I choose someone sexy.

JosyJosy · Answer

I feel like modest Can Be sexy

Anonymous · Answer

I like dating hot girls-modest can be hot as can sexy when naked. If they are hot and have a vagina then I'm there!

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Modest girls! Only modest girls could give real love, at least to me; "sexy" is a fickle master, and much too subjective...

mikee2020 · Answer

modest , you can get her to be sexy at home and she is more confident and fun

bonus2543 · Answer

Most of the boys date to have sex and that's a dark reality 😔😔

JKingOff · Answer

Sexy, but I wouldn't rule out a modest personally. Just as long as the weren't a prude.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I suppose I don't have too strong of an opinion either way, actually.

apollo3000 · Answer

Those two define an attractive woman. Those two together. There is no sexy without being modest.

Deeb3 · Answer

With the pictures modest. But sexy can sometimes be also nice (if you are at some private place)

Tslav_ · Answer

Both girls are whores, ones just dressed like one and the other took a day off

Anonymous · Answer

Both, as long as they are virgins. Your style isn't as important as your purity; and there is nothing more attractive to me than a woman waiting until marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

She needs to be a model citizen by day, and a dirty whore by night.

sennar · Answer

Out in public I like modest private sexy it all really depends on what is going on or where we will see the girl

wellendowedwonder · Answer

Modest all the way those are the ones that will fuck your brains out and are secure enough to not use tits and ass to get attention

jenna92 · Answer

I've dated both and I absolutely adore both 😁😁😁

JonnyRoyce · Answer

Both. A modest girl that can get sexy with me is a total combo...

anil_thapa · Answer

I would love them both if i can get one of those two.🥰

Aloneguy34 · Answer

Sexy girls comes first but some modest girls also have very sexy bodies ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Modest girls are the prize. They are unicorns. Whores are just fuck and chuck garbage.

the_bruh · Answer

Modest is sexy, in my opinion.

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