Guys, do you prefer dating modest or sexy girls?

[mindNsoul]

[Anonymous]

Both pics are superhot and both are actually sexy. But if a woman dresses like in the second pic I feel usually a little shy, maybe intimidated. I do not know why that is, maybe because I fear pressured like there are expectations I cannot meet. That she wants some kind of very extraverted party lifestyle with high-performance sex... and that she will steamroll my emotions on occasion.
I mean - A woman like her could wear *anything* and still be as hot as plasma in a tokamak. I am a sensitive guy, if she actually wants to date me (wait - what... me? for real?) she will have realised that I can be very introverted and could help me a bit by tuning it down... The dress style in the first pic is very classy and versatile, perfect for so many occasions: Dining out, theatre / opera, vernissage / anything culture / works also for a café if its high-tier / friends wedding. First style manages to appear sophisticated without neglecting sex-appeal, like she would actually enjoy a deep conversation over some quality meal with a glass of red wine before the question "my place or your place?" may arise.
I do not mean to imply that woman who dress sexy to the extreme as in pic 2 are stupid or something - I have met too many examples to the contrary - but she is dressed for the beach, for the club, well... she simply might be lacking the patience for some rather artistic and calm activities that I enjoy very much.
I have dated women who preferred to dress like style 2, but I met them all when I had a manic upswing and contact always only lasted for a short while. Probably because dressing that sexy is an announcement that she wants action! Now!
Life for me is like composing a symphony and so is dating: I may well go 'vivace con brio' during the first movement but good music builds tension by variation: For the second movement I suggest 'lento ma non troppo'.

[mindNsoul]

wow! just wow who are you?

[Opinion Owner]

Shhh! Don't ask don't tell, y'know. ;P

[mindNsoul]

😹😹😹

[TremorJay]

Probably modest, but I like both. It's better (I think) if a modest girl dresses skimpy on occasion, as long as it's for my attention and not all the other men in the world, because she needs to feel good about herself. Of course, I would feel good about myself if we were out in public and she was turning heads, so I guess that's a win-win

[Espresso-Grande]

A guy's appearance initially attracts me, but his personality determines if I continue to date him one not.

I wouldn't date a guy I found physically unnatractive , and I wouldn't continue to date an attractive looking guy if he had a shit personality

Personality is most important, because it's a guy's personality, not his appearance, that I fall in love with. But I still need to have a physical attraction towards him.

[ineedatan]

Most men I know adores a female that can dress and present's herself as both depending on the time and setting. But most importantly feels comfortable in the skin she's in, what she wears and how she carries herself as a person - her attitude is what determines her appeal.

[ragequeen]

Why not both? I prefer being modest for my man but I also love to dress sexy for him and private and sometimes public. It will keep his eyes on me ;)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sexy isn't about how you dress... Sexy is more an attitude... You can be sexy without exposing your whole body for everyone to see... Besides a lot of men I've heard think less is more... Of which I agree

[Reaperbot666]

• more modest when in public.
• more sexy when in private.
• guys tend to want a girl they can bring to family dinner. who dressing in a modest manner.
• but also a girl who can be a bit wild and dresses. in a more sexy manner when at home or in the bedroom.

[Sapioit]

As long as I can have a mature discussion and she's not an adult toddler, it doesn't really matter. If it were completely identical twins, personality and all, I'd prefer the modest-clothed one. Unwanted attention is unwanted.

After all, is she advertising her assets to other potential partners? If she wanted to signal she's taken, she would wear sexier clothes while hanging out with me and more modest clothes while hanging out with others.

[sensible27]

Meh people are people, and it really sort of depends on where you're coming from. What's 's*xy* for some can just be a normal in thier life. Some 's*xy' girls are pretty sweet and introverted, pure at heart. I'd say the 'intention' matters, I'm not really sure I would like a super flirty someone who flirts with everyone as a close friend but I can see it being possible. People are complex I guess.

[malik0403]

I always tried to date modust girls with brain or smart and most of the time I got annoyed/frustrated when I am with hot girls because they constantly try to groom/takecare of themselves and usually they are selfish.
I am a business minded and goal oriented person. i can compromise with looks a little bit but I can't live with a selfish/dumb girl.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Sexy for me an modest in public. Occasionally sexy in public is ok but those who need constant attention by dressing sexy in public aren't the best partners

[mindNsoul]

and why is that if I may ask

[SuccessfulHornDog]

You asked what my preference was, right? That is my preference. Why do women dress sexy in public? To feel good, to boost their self esteem, to be complimented. to be looked at... Would the same sexy girl mind if her boyfriend or husband was complimenting other sexy girls while she is being complimented by other men?

[mindNsoul]

cool I was just asking why they're not the best partners in your opinion.. just was curious

[SuccessfulHornDog]

All women want to be noticed, and for that matter most guys do as well. But there is a segment of the population that puts it before most other things. We can see this with the advent of social media and Instagram. A partner that needs this amount of validation in public is not someone who I would value as a partner. I love sexy outfits and sexy woman but its a matter of frequency and appropriateness.

[BCA6010]

Modest, by far. Modest women tend to be much less reliant on looks and more secure about themselves. It's nice to be sexy and confident, but more often than not, those women are only looking for attention and have little else to offer.

[Don-_-Don]

Modest.
Why would I date someone merely because they're sexy?
I would want to fuck a girl who is sexy, if that's the only thing we're going by that is.

People, never let your main motivation on dating someone be because you find them sexy.

[walt0462]

Since I have a SO... im not actively seeking nor dating... but prior to my meeting my SO. I've dated modest and Sexy women equally!
I've never let a woman outta appearances be the o determining factor for dating besides it's subjective what I might consider Sexy or Modest another guy may not and vise versa

[vapeguy93]

I prefer women who are smart, funny, and compassionate. As far as physical looks go, they are not at the top of my priorities list because looks are deceiving.

[mindNsoul]

very wise 👍

[socksguy]

Trick question. How one dresses does not make one sexy or modest. It's not what you wear, it's the construction of your character.

[TruthBringer]

Dating in terms of investing in a long term relationship, it's always modest. Those who wear sexy clothes on a regular I see nothing more than short term dating for pleasure.

[BaronLaCroix]

Both can get me going. I love the challenge of bringing the sexy out in a modest girl and also figuring out what makes a sexy girl blush and get modest. The mind is her real sex organ.

[mindNsoul]

Amazingly said 👍

[zagor]

Those aren't really comparable terms. I assume you mean girls who DRESS sexy or modestly.

I don't care either way myself, as long as they don't make it look like I picked up a hooker (or a nun) when we go out.

[Tobi_Lerone]

I prefer dating girls with a nice character. If they are sexy it's even better, but for me it's more like an extra and a must-have.

[Jjpayne]

I'd say a little bit of both but mostly modest mainly because it's less a focus on appearance which means she finds other things more important in her life. Hopefully my hobbies or believes will be one of them :)

[kemo56]

Well I would say both but that probably would mean that I would date either one but I prefer to date someone that is both... Angel in public and naughty in private

[RemoErdosain]

Definitely modest in public. If she wants to be sexier when we're at home together, I don't mind, but a girl that's dressing like a whore in public doesn't just want my attention, but someone else's

[Rayvenhawk]

I would prefer a modest woman. They are usually more honest, and what happens behind closed doors, they can be just as "sexy" as a sexy girl. Best of both worlds.