There is no formula.You should let her know that you would like to see her again and take her out. I don't know a girl alive that doesn't like to go out on dates, especially with someone she's made out with.
When you want her to become your girlfriend, you should think of the reasons why and be able to tell her why she should be your girlfriend. Share a little at a time, and find out how she feels about you before you use the word girlfriend. That way she doesn't feel pressured and you know how she feels before you proceed.
Don't use the word LOVE unless you know what it means and you are sure that you love her. Think about intense like versus love, there is a difference. Also, there is a difference between in love and love and intense like, so be careful how you use the word and to whom you choose to use it. You both may not be on the same page with your feelings, so go slooooooow!
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Well, my current boyfriend started introducing me as his girlfriend to other people after 3 dates, and I freaked a bit (ok, a lot), but stayed with him (almost 6 months now).
However, we are more of the traditional type- you only date one person at a time. It is more common to date more than one person at a time now, and some might not want to be tied down by the boyfriend/girlfriend phrase.
I wouldn't ask her to be your girlfriend, just hang out, have fun, and one of you will introduce the other as the significant other when out with friends one night.
I think it would be kind of akward to ask someone, especially if they might assume it already since you guys are going out on dates.
Basically whenever you want to ask her. If you've been on a few successful dates, if you feel connected, go for it. This guy and I have seen each other twice now, but we talk every day (almost all day via phone call, text message, or IM.) We want to see each other more, and I find myself wishing he'd ask me. Who knows? She might be thinking the same thing... just waiting for you to ask her.
Just make sure you ask her BEFORE you guys get to physical, otherwise she might be afraid that you're just looking for that physical gratification and not really looking for a committed relationship.. Yes... we do worry about things like that.
she can probably be you girlfriend now. or in a couple more dates.
i wouls say just let her know what you think. Usually it comes about a month after you start messing around. the feelings are usuaally mutual and its probably crossed both of your minds so it shouldnt be an awkward conversation at all.
Everyone's different, but the exclusivity conversation usually comes up after 4 to 6 weeks.
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