Something don't feel right?

[Anonymous]

I'm a friend of an ex-girlfriend of mine. We dated off on and off for over 4 years. Always broke up over stupid shit. Well, last night was by far the worst. She blew a gasket because I hearted a female friend side by side picture of her weight loss journey. I've known this friend since we were in kindergarten. She's a lifelong friend. The girlfriend didn't approve either way. Well, we broke up and stopped talking altogether. I had moved on. But on June 4th of this year, she messaged me out of the blue asking for help moving her things out where she was living because her current boyfriend had become an alcoholic and was mentally abusing her. I agreed to help but before I could, she went back to the guy. We stopped talking again. Not a week later, she texted me again. This time she was done. I was at work one evening when she went to get her things. She found him unresponsive and barely breathing. He had overdosed on her diabetic meds and insulin. He passed the next day. We have been pretty much talking, texting, or together ever since. She has told me she loves me only as a friend, that the romantic feelings went out with that picture I liked. Everything has been awesome up until this past week. She's just been different. Snappy and too herself. I was deleting some old Facebook profiles I don't use. I saw a guy on one that she was talking too right after we had split up. They talked for about 2 weeks and stopped talking. I asked about it. Said I see you and so and so are friends again. She went apeshit crazy saying I was spying on her and other bullshit. Said she was gonna block me on FB but hasn't. Then 2 days ago she accused me of stalking her because I asked her roommate's son if she was home from work. She has just been odd lately. I don't know what's going on. It kinda feels like she's not wanting to talk anymore. She needs to tell me because we've talked about getting a place together.. Your thoughts folks.. Anything's appreciated

[Anonymous]

That's one toxic unhealthy relationship you had there. Please value yourself, try to think objectively of what she does, how she acts. Do you really want to put up with that shit? Having an on an off relationship where you can't even like your friend's pictures? And with someone who will call you one day and ditch you the next? My friend I'm sorry but that's not the road to happiness. What you've lived with her, your story together, will repeat itself. Will you end up overdosed like her ex? Did he really abuse her? Or she found someone as umbalanced as her and they lost their shit together until he couldn't have any more? Don't you think you deserve better?

[Asker]

Thank u. I agree

[Vide_Noir]

Man she sounds toxic like that. From what you said you two are in a relationship so I'm going on thinking she has made her piece with her ex. It doesn't sound good though to get a place with her or the entire relationship tbh but that's on you since you know more. I would just wait, maybe have her live with her parents for awhile or something. A drastic change like that might be through a lot of things but yeah get straight to the answer and if she yells just walk out you have 0 obligation here.