Girls, some dating advice for a guy who likes tomboys and dominant women?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry I didn't word the title better. But I feel like I should explain. See, I'm a guy who, as the title implies, likes tomboys and dominant women. But it's a lot more broad than that.

I'm attracted to women with masculine traits--and being dominant is one of the most important ones. Other big traits are being athletic/muscular, physically strong, being willing to fight or kill things (like a hunter or soldier), and even liking guy things like horror movies or violent/shooting games.

My ex-girlfriend had most of these traits, so we had most, if not all of the same interests. And when I first met her, she was a lot more like a guy than a girl, which is why I fell for her. But I don't know how to attract the kind of women I like. Again, one of the most important traits is dominance in a relationship, and my preferred build is athletic or muscular.

The problem with me is, I don't know how to attract tomboys/women with masculine traits. And I don't know what I have to bring to the table. Despite loving women who can fight and have muscles--action girls, basically--I'm not physically strong or sporty at all, although I do want to take up running/jogging at one point so I can stay light.

So I'm asking the women here--yes, tomboys are also welcome to answer--some advice. How can I attract the type of women I'm into?

(And me being dominant and taking the lead is OUT of the question. I'm submissive, and I'd rather take the supportive role in a relationship. I'm willing to have equal power in a relationship at least, but ME being the leader is not an option.)

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm honestly not sure.
I'm a tomboy still, but also with feminine qualities, now.

I'd say if you get into running and other sports, you'll most likely find more tomboys.

I don't know many other tomboy women, though, so unfortunately I can't offer much general help.

For me, specifically, I'm looking for a man who has his shit together, can handle some teasing, is hardy (physically and mentally), and who can keep up with me whether that's working out, sexually, or mentally.

I'm sorry, I know that's not much help. Good luck, though. Tomboy women seem to have a lot of interests and hobbies - so good news is finding them might not be too hard once all activities start up again.

[Asker]

So I guess in your case, you want to feel feminine and submissive, despite your masculine traits. No subs for you.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Hm, I'm sexually submissive, yes. But I don't need to feel feminine.

So a sexual dom is a good choice for me, but I don't mind an occasional night where I'm the domme. I'm switch, but submissive most of the time.

[Asker]

Yeah... That's what worries me. The fact that I'm submissive (mostly outside of sex) worries me. Sometimes it feels like I won't be able to find someone who loves me for it.

And you realize that when I say "Dom" and "Sub", I mean that in terms of who leads the relationship, right?

[JosyJosy]

I think the best way to search is by practising the same hobbies or joining conventions of activities you enjoy, it'll attract likeminded people

[Asker]

What do I do about the dominance thing, then? I understand that women who actually want to take the lead are rare.

[JosyJosy]

I don't know :(

[Asker]

And yes, I could get into martial arts or sports myself. My main worry is that I'll get too strong. Obviously, men are a lot stronger than women. And it's kinda hard for me personally to see a woman as the leader if I can easily overpower her.

[JosyJosy]

Does it have to be physical? I mean you can see someone as the leader because of how they carry themselves, their decision making, how they inspire others

[Asker]

It's kinda like how submissive women want men who are physically stronger than them. Their physical strength makes them more imposing and dominant.

And yes, I know that, but physical prowess helps with dominance.

[JosyJosy]

It sure does, but that makes the search all the harder

[Asker]

What search? Sorry, I'd been watching some LongBeachGriffy videos just now.

[JosyJosy]

searching for a person like that :p

[Void76]

Imma answer, ur question. Open to answer if any?’s on anything lol

I don’t pay anyone more or less acknowledgement until I need to. If it shows you’re trying on any level specifically for my attention, it’s boring & will actually be something I will actively not feed into if/when other people are doing that for them (guy tryna flex) bc obviously it’s just for show.
I really love when a guy is no doubt 100% light energy. He’s positive, can laugh, make me laugh (& others), not sorry for taking up space, he’s not worried about how he comes off if something is done for a selfish reason/me soo hot & Nd this is personal and I’m pretty sure unhealthy but…fr hottest guys just want what they want & will make sure they give it their all wout doubts of their capabilities but if it doesn’t happen they 100% let go any animosity, dont act like a little bitch about it, it’s okay to feel however but I’m talking about like the whiny, complainer, woe is me person.

imma list some of my experience / how I felt after

1. He hit da vape in a store & my eyes were 👀I’m pretty sure u can’t do that here. He just shrugged his shoulders “they ain’t say nun” +there weren’t 🚭 signs.. I stared and him and was like yea , let me see dat lol jk. It wasn’t rude, continuous, or in any one’s facE, aisle was dead lol

I liked how it didn’t hurt anyone, and if somebody Came up he would’ve said sorry politely ig lol

2. this other guy was w me driving around and we had pulled over waiting for for next Uber eat order. There was an apartment w 2 round tables 4 chairs total for smokers & above they had those patio light strings. I literally just said those lights are cute. I used to have some hanging in my dorm room like those. & he was laid back slightly & w his thumb pointing over in that direction slightly under the door handle he said “do u want them? And I’m like “noo, it’s fine thank you. Aha”I still laugh bc Ik him & he was most likely 55/100 serious if I really did.
I don't know it was sweet ig? But unnecessary bc it wasn’t that deep for me.

overall if I can see my presence does not affect how he lives his life however it may be, I gravitate towards him. size factored hardly ever mattered to me bc any guy can be strong, usually guys I’m with I’ve seen enough to know they got some muscle in their aha but if Ik they would help me in any way, to feel better, let my anger not scare them, talk me down, make sure people didn’t come crazy at him like disrespect (cut in line, look at me gross, get too close,) I liked it.

i become more okay to submit but not submit but fs he ain’t gon b runnin or comin at me funny. We both are okay to take lead depends on the day ig.

sooo yea I get interested in them & vice versa & it’s like literally no mission or have shared hobbies. Night and day as long as I knew I wasn’t being micromanaged nor would I want a guy I need to feel like that or worry he would depend on me to feel okay if time comes when we part ways. Of course respect & polite ig with everyone, no judgement but I will naturally gravitate notice that kind of person who presents opposite of me bc no one approaches me, I don’t care to look friendly, I’m good alone bc idc enough about looking a certain way, makin sure I look 100% bc Ik I’m good. It takes someone like that ig bc it brings balance

[Selene1600000]

Focus less on trying to target a type and more on putting yourself in spaces where athletic, confident, tomboyish women naturally are, like gyms, sports clubs, climbing, or active hobbies. Be upfront about your dynamic preference in a simple way many dominant women actually like a partner who is relaxed, supportive, and not competing for control. A dating coach for men would tell you the key is matching energy and lifestyle first, not forcing attraction through traits alone.

[Panda909]

Damn, I soo get u finding a guy who is submissive but also Isn’t a masochistic is so hard.
To be honest I’d just look for tomboys who ur attracted to who’s a don. and try and get in with them and show them u wanna be submissive with them.

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