How to know if he is a player?

[Anonymous]

[JEndigoBleue]

Trust your intuition and not your eyes and feelings. If it feels off, it is. You know how you want to be treated. If he doesn't do it, it's not him.

A player can only play you, if you decide to play. If you decide to play, you better be up for the game. He only wins, if you don't know who you are and what you want. And, that you think with your mind and not "feelings" How you feel will get you trouble all the time.

You sound like you know. But, because you are attracted to him and like something about him, you can't think straight. I'll say "No". Move on unless you want to play "Casual relationship" because that's all a player will offer. If you want that too, by all means. But, know how to play the game before playing it. Casual relationships do have rules. It's every man and woman for themselves. "Selfish" is the root of the game. If you are giver, you will get hurt.

So, back away and yourself time to think about what you want in a relationship. Write down if you have to and compare it to him. He probably will not compare.

[likelyOK]

How he acts, stalk his Instagram see if he is liking a lot of girls pics if they are not models or friends he is more than likely sliding in their dms. It may sound childish but if I had looked ahead of time in this guys’ Instagram more closely ahead of time I would have known because he was following several porn sides and some were the kind you pay for. Also just the girls photos he follows.

Does he flirt with other girls? Does he HAVE Reputation? These are important.

Go ahead and ask straight out what they are looking for some of them will tell you “They don’t do relationships.” So listen

[likelyOK]

Also forgot not all of them are confident remember a lot of men with insecurities are trying to “make up” for it by raising their body count.
Plus the rise of social media and online dating has made it easier for men who are less confident to get around

[HikerDude]

First of all, the more attractive the guy, the more likely he's a player. Good-looking guys have the most options. Give a guy numerous girl options and he's likely to indulge in them. Also, muscular guys are more likely to be players. Having a fit, muscular body is a point of pride for men that gives us tons and tons of self-confidence and self-esteem. That makes us more likely to go after the girls we want. But to me, a player is also a guy who's not truthful about his intentions, so look for a guy who hides a lot about himself. There are signs of this all around, like guys who are constantly checking their phones and then lying about who they're messaging. If a guy is checking constantly, it's usually not their plumber, it's a girl.

[bones0271]

This not true and is unfair for decent looking guys

[HikerDude]

@bones0271 there's nothing "unfair" about what I wrote.

[bones0271]

That is like saying that all women are not good drivers

[HikerDude]

@bones0271 that's not even close to being a good analogy. First of all, I never wrote "all." What I did write is, "the more attractive the guy, the more likely he's a player." More likely, not all. Second, this is a question about spotting players. There is no foolproof way to do that. It's all about recognizing patterns in behavior. That doesn't mean, however, that every person who engages in a given behavior will be a player. It's ultimately up to the girl to spot that for herself. But there are things to look for. Fat, ugly guys or skinny wimps are typically not players because they don't have the opportunity to be.

[JustTheTrue]

I’m extremely good looking and I’m not a player. That’s a lie

[HikerDude]

@JustTheTrue Go re-read what I wrote, moron.

[RawIronhide]

It's pretty easy honestly Where's the confusion? If he is overly concerned about his appearance, if he has a high body count, if he is controlling over you, if he has an issue committing or can't tell you what phase of the relationships you are in with honesty. If you have to question it often, go with you gut more than anything.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Most of his "friends" are females...
Flirts with everyone...
Says whatever it takes to get laid...
Tries to hard to be "charming"...

[JustTheTrue]

That’s a lie

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@JustTheTrue what's a lie?

[Smoothing]

🤣😂🤣😂🤣 some one's buttons got pushed. Lord have mercy. This is too funny.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Smoothing 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ truth hurts lolol 🤣

[Smoothing]

I don't know to be honest. I think if I was to be a player, I would be found out too first. Because I can't keep a lie going for long.

A player has to be a serial liar and even serial liars are easy to spot. Honestly, come to think of it, it is easy to catch a player.

[aalexiss]

honestly i think if you have to ask this the chances are greater that he’s a player. of course you can have your doubts but if he’s being 100% genuine with you you shouldn’t be questioning his loyalty to you, besides the occasional intrusive thought out doubt

[Anonymous]

If he's way more confident, charming, relaxed than guys normally and seems like he wouldn't mind at all of you liked him or not and always knows what to say. Only someone who treats you like a game and is experienced at the game acts like that. If he's genuine he'll seem a bit more vulnerable and flawed. A player would know how to hide all flaws.

[JustTheTrue]

This exactly

[JSEdwards]

Yep. This is dead on.

[NorthShoreCalling]

Agreed

[Alice2J]

1. You're just a friend when he is with his guy friend.
2. Never take you seriously
3. Never keep distance with other female (except family)
4. Always sweet talk to any female
5. Too close with female friends cause when you got a girlfriend you will just keep distance even though you're best friend
6. Always lying to you (I guess)
And that's all my opinions

[AFellowWeeb]

If you're trying to get on a relationship with a guy and he's ''taking a break'' or just broke up with his girlfriend like 3 days or a week ago and he's already dtf, he's definitely a player.
Never trust in people with relationship status ''taking a break'' or ''its complicated''.

[fonduegirl]

- lying habits
- proof like condom wrappers or something
- how unavailable he is during certain time periods
- behavior towards other females
- smooth speech
- gut feeling
- Mr popular aura
- too good to be true

[DCooper]

Let him park slam it, neutral drop it, and leave it sitting in a random parking lot dripping fluids from both ends... then wait and see if he hits you up again. :p

[Anonymous]

If he acts like me, gets them hooked by doing minimum then backs out at the height of his interest. If your lucky your unforgettable to us in some way because we feel bad while others you just remember them as a fun time as cruel as it sounds. After all, they relentlessly approached me even though they couldn't read the room

[EyebrowChewie]

Ask him directly and say you've been warned a few times and just wanted to ask because you think you're ready for fun.

[bamesjond0069]

Keep your legs closed for a good long time and see if he sticks around. Thats really the only way. ALL men are players in certain situations and ALL men are not players in other situations.

[JustTheTrue]

Agree with this

[Backspin2]

An Fboy can't be an Fboy if he has nothing to f*ck

[Babygirl_S]

*He has lots of female friends on social media.
*He has never had a normal relationship.
*His exes were whores.
*He doesn't take women to proper dates.
*He doesn't want to commit to one woman.

[Egirl28]

Overly confident and flirty
Actions do not match words
Uses pet names
Flirts with everyone

[Nazgol]

If he's all over the place and your find him flirting and getting close to or hooking up with other girls, if you just have an overall off feeling that you're not the only one & if he sweet talks a lot

[Gosceewual]

Try to locate his joystick and put your hand on it

if he gets mad with you touching his game pad then he probably take his gaming very seriously and is a player

[FýrdracaDócincel]

If other women call him one?

That's about as close as you're gonna get to defining a word with no meaning.

[TheFlak38]

if you're instantly attracted to him then he's a player. But of course you won't care about that too much. You need the D and will take it.

[Unit1]

They're way too super charming as if they're trying too hard and do whatever it takes to get into your pants.

[llorando]

Easy, look for a video game collection, you find one, he's a player, don't find one than he's not a player.

[AmeerX]

Just offer him sex and if he goes for it then he is. Another way is ask him to marry you if he refuses then he is a player

[dragoblack]

Sleeping around on a daily basis, flirting with every person he can

[scooogy]

I once witnessed a guy run from one woman to another who were all closely around, like he called one woman while heading away from another.

[EyebrowChewie]

He possibly was in a code red and needed the other woman as a decoy so he could escape

[FakeNIK]

If he said those 3 magical words within a week then he is..

[Anonymous]

If he is single, is a smooth talker and has a seductive vibe.

[Tomtom9090]

If all the women enjoy his company, he hardly has to say anything to have them laughing or engaging

[Slim57]

Its obviously the guy with women all oggling over him

[nod32xxx]

Good game = good gamer.
Vrong game = no gamer 😃

[Alyssa11]

Overly confident is a major red flag

[DesolateRain]

If he flirts with a lot of women.

[JustTheTrue]

That’s a lie too

[DesolateRain]

Lol, ok, haRbRinGeR oF tRutH.

[spartan55]

How do we know she is a player?

[Danny_dan92]

What’s the situation?

[xxAlanaxx]

It's just obvious lol

[GAGSucksBalls1]

he never takes you out

[Dbach]

Look up his gamer tag

[Twenty2]

Don't sleep with him (if you can)

[Furuok]

We all are players. What game are you playing?

[Waldoe]

you'll know it in your "gut" trust your gut

[CheeseBurgah]

It’s pretty fucking obvious

[jimmy2]

The pic explsins it he does a 3some

[guywho]

When you like him.

[msc545]

ask him.

[ILearnEnglish__]

It's so complicated

[postaldudePL123]

He plays a sport.

[ayomanwya]

By his actions

[Anonymous]

Guys are players, so