How to know if the guy is a "player" ?

[MairimBP]

Actually, I know this guy and he's super handsome and stuff but the way he acts (always flattering me and saying things like: "Oh I love the view" "Meh, I'd rather stare at you" is just weird in the sense where he's always flirting.

I don't know if that's just how he is, or if he's just playing with girls all the time, and so he's so used to say those kind of stuff that he says them effortlessly.

I already told him to stop saying those kind of things because it's not working with me (which is a lie) and he said: are you sure? and laughed. Then he said that he will change his "game" for it to be more suitable to my league (top tier league as he said).

I really like him but tbh I don't know what to do. It's the same guy from the previous question about long distance relationship.

[RebelinSteel]

The best way is usually to play him, he will be confident in himself, he will have ego and pride. You need to push both of those. Having him protect his ego and protect his pride. Challenge his knowledge of girls (subtlety), as in ‘ you would not know that as a guy’ or most guys don’t know women so it’s understandable he won’t. fish him for lack of experience, a player can be tempted to push his experience. They will often be direct, play mind games, being too nice, lots of compliments but no real conversation.

[MairimBP]

That’s such a good idea actually thank you !! We were in the swimming pool and he started to make a tiny braid on my hair and I was surprised bc usually guys don’t know how to. And he said he learned in school. So I said: with the girls ofc. And he smiled. Which kinda makes me think he is one

[Confucious900]

Well hard to say. He could be or he is just really trying really hard to appear very confident and mess with your head. There is also his rep, so im sure you must have heard a thing or two. doesn't mean its true but where there is smoke, there usually is fire. Only you will have a beter idea what he is like in person vs over texting.

[MairimBP]

In person he’s just the same, but very caring and affectionate the thing is that he does it so effortlessly that it makes me believe he’s used to do this.

[Confucious900]

I see. Well always trust your gut. Never ignore it. But also time will tell if he has intentions and just wants to get something from you (only sex) or if he actually wants to pursue you. If he does it so effortlessly then it might be a normal routine for him. But you will know him better. He might just really like you and wants to date you. Its hard to say. His responses are almost immediate so his attention is on you. But see how things play out. A player always reveals his game at some point

[Confucious900]

Just read your post on the long distance ting. Long distance can be hard because you dont know what the other person is up to, but if he does come and visit you thats a different story. Then he really likes you. But also he mentioned he is not looking for something serious. You might be the one to change that or that was just a short vacation romance. You guys formed a bond really quick, see if he picks up if you video call him. Try to work on the bond. I trust you will see each other again, and only then you will know where you guys stand.

[DishLady]

Players tend to say a lot but not act in a way that backs up what they say. They tend to be very busy and only see you on "their" schedule not yours. Some exude compliments, others are a little more quiet but still love to play games with all the girls in their orbit.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Sis, we can still see his name. 🫠

But seriously, some people are just born that way. I am naturally flirty also, but I pick who I want to flirt with. What truly matters is if he also flirt with everyone? If it's just you, everything's good.

[MairimBP]

Ahaha I know ! I saw it after posting but it was too late 💀

Yeah I also do that but I actually wanted something more serious with him. But well, we’ll see ! He went back to London now. And for instance we are going to see each other only in July 😕

[lightbulb27]

Ask them and judge by how they communicate. if they smile with pride (deflection), they are or would like to be.

[Finchie40]

Long distance relationships can be hard , but they can work if you are both on the same page with things and you are both honest with each other and you both stay in touch on a regular basis , and try to see each other as much as possible , the hard part is having trust for each other because you are both apart from each other for a long period of time leaving you both room to meet other people without you both not knowing. I had a few long distance relationships and my advice is to just stay FWB’s so you both can take time getting to really know each other

[ProbablyClueless]

The big thing players always do is they fluff themselves up a lot. They're always trying to impress you by talking themselves up about inconsequential stuff. And it will always be stuff that there's no way to prove or disprove and you'll have no clue what the point of them even saying anything was.

Like, a player/bullshitter might find out that you soak in the hot tub before going to swim laps in the pool, and they'll tell you about how they've been doing that for years before benefits of the cold plunge became popular.

[OfMiceandMen]

If a guy is seeing more than one woman he can't be bothered to remember things he's been told about that person.

For instance, you ask him when your b-day is and he's not even close, more than likely he's recalling what one of the other women told him her b-day was.

[Anonymous]

Signs he’s a player (from experience)

-he’s super handsome

-love bombing when he barely knows you

-manipulators-pushing for displays of affection and/or sex & nudes before you’re even in an official relationship

-plenty of female “friends”

-you question if he’s a player

[JesseP1nk]

He is a player. Only question is do you wanna deal with a player. Because he is gonna break your heart. I dont expect you to believe me - i just suggest you to take pink sunglasses off for a second.

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, he’s a player. But sometimes they’re the best fuckboys.

[MairimBP]

Yeah even tho we never had smth sexual, his kisses are top tier

[RedInnocent69]

Time for that top tier player cock, I’d say.

[Pohjolan]

Usually they fuck several women and have the reputation of a player.

[Enginn]

You'll know if he cheats on you. Get to know esch other first.

[Jamie05rhs]

Who are Sam and Rachel?

[MairimBP]

Ahaha oops, that’s an inside joke that we have

[Anonymous]

It's pretty obvious. If you can't tell that's a YOU problem.

[AnAmazingGuy]

He is 100% player

[Aaannnonnnn]

He is a player

[DonFredoCorleone]

ask him how many cm he is

[Anonymous]

Get to know him

[MrZameer]

are you Muslim?

[MairimBP]

I’m not. I’m Portuguese and I don’t have any religion! :)

[MrZameer]

I see,
You are a beautiful and pretty gorgeous girl

[MrZameer]

You have a beautiful smile as well

[MairimBP]

Thank you !!