I've read a good number of women's responses and they make my skin crawl. It is quite simple, are you ladies adults or pathetic children? Adults are responsible/ accountable for their lives and choices. It is up to all of us as individuals to make our lives better and more meaningful. This attitude of expecting men to chase women (and practically do the bulk of the courting) is a cop out. Lets say that you wanted to become a lawyer. Do you simple sit on your arse and expect some high profile legal firm to contact you and offer you a job because you arrogantly think (wrongly) that it is your birthright by possessing a vagina? Or do act like a freaking adult, go to university, get the relevant qualifications, get a side job to build some kind of experience and widen your professional references and then construct a good quality professional resume? Do you then apply for position after position copping rejection until you finally get your break and land a job at a good legal firm? Dating/ courting is no different and I don't care what anyone says.
You ladies might be able to fool others (and even yourselves) of your bullshit, but you don't fool me. The real reason on why women don't want to approach blokes or do anything that gets them out of their comfort zone is because they are lazy, self entitled cowards. Period. Full stop. Mic drop.
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It's fine for girls to approach, but if both are equally capable to do it, it's definitely the man's job. At least the times when I didn't, I felt like the biggest pussy, and the girl probably thought the same about me. I'd have to be the biggest degenerate loser ever to redirect even half of the responsibility to the girl to avoid feeling like the loser. I think that's exactly what guys who say "it's not only my responsibility, that's not equality" are doing.
Think about a situation where both are interested in each other but hesitate to approach and just wait to gather the courage. And then the woman is the one approaching first. As the man, could you really feel good about yourself knowing she has bigger balls than you do?
And it doesn't even matter "whose job it is". If there's a hot girl you want, she doesn't have to approach anyone, she can just sit there and get approached all day long.
I NEVER would do that. That’s his job. I have been in a steady relationship for seven years so I haven’t had the chance to know anyone other than my only boyfriend but if we broke up I will never ever approach any boy. He better impress me and woo me if he wants me. I am too good looking and intelligent to lower my standards so much as to chase a man. A real man will be courteous enough to pursue the woman he loves and I won’t lower my standards for anybody. The one who deserves me will pursue me otherwise I am happy alone.
I’m more brave online.. but I’m real life I’m terrified. I just assume I’d be rejected and the guy would be repulsed by me. So I don’t even try. Honestly if a guy came up to me.. I wouldn’t know what to do. I would just smile and assume I was in his way.. or he thought I worked at the store we’re in. Lol
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Generally speaking, it's usually going to be the man who makes the first move, and most if not all of the escalating steps; that's just how human psychology works. Some people, however (particularly the more traditionally-minded), think it MUST ALWAYS be the man, which is just kinda stupid. The whole point of human intelligence is that we can choose to be more than just another instinct-driven ape.
But defying instinct takes a social courage that few possess, and while we may eventually see women asking men as a completely normal, everyday thing that raises NO eyebrows (today few will complain, but few will do it), that won't be in our lifetimes.I think in many situations, women do a lot of the initiating of interaction. It is she who decides to smile at him from across the bar or casually mention that she doesn't have plans for the next day. The woman is the one who might suggest that she is looking for plans on a spare Saturday or is looking for 'the best coffee in town.' There is also textbook approach of needing someone to help lift some things ;)
I think these are many more less formal, but equally valid things to take into consideration. Very few men will point blank ask out a woman, without context. When I see men taking more charge on these sorts of things, aka sending out those informal feelers, "so I heard that you're really good at balancing a budget," etc, then It's much easier for that girl to say, yeah, "Would you be interested in making a budget over coffee sometime? Call it a date?""She says it's the man's job to approach,"
It pretty much is. I know that sucks, but that is how it is, get used to it now.I think women should be able to approach men just as men approach women. I don't personally approach anyone, mainly because very few people interest me. Also people typically find me scary/intimidating and I don't want to make them uncomfortable.
Yes, I'll approach if I'm feeling it with a guy. But he's got to ask me out and make something happen. I'll flirt my little booty off, but I don't ask out--ever.
It's her job to give you a sign she's interested then its the man's job to approach her.
They’ll approach if a guys really desirable to them
Here is my view.
I approach guys online, but in real life I’m too shy to even look at a guy 😄
Leave it to the ladies
approach a woman in the MeToo era are you fucking mad
I steer clear of solo women under pension drawing age in any scenario
If you get MeTooed, you're best off sucking a 12 boreIts noones job, if she believes it's a man's job then she won't ever get a real man and she will be moaning under wimps.
That's how it's been historically and traditionally, I never liked this gender dynamic either sadly can't do anything about it
i run away if girl apporach me first i need to approach her first if not than no 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
That's just what they like, so obviously they're going to say it's "men's job".
It's a hollow claim.I have approached in the past.
Whoever is feeling it first 😃
no one cares
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