Hypothetical question: What's your opinion about a man who treats his girl like this... What advice would you give the girl What would you say to him?

[meetkitty123]

Scenario

Introvert dating Extrovert

Young bubbly outgoing Girl with a big close nit family

Older single man shares a home with his Mom

She says: She loves him, he's a bit odd at times but still sweet.

He says: He loves her, she's his everything, his future, the mother of his children to be.

This is how they're relationship goes:

How they both feel when alone
Song: Walking on sunshine by Katrina & The waves

How she feels when he freaks out because they're not alone
Song: DIRTY LITTLE SECRET by The All-American Rejects


What She's asking herself:
Song: Should I by Phoebr Ryan

Updates

+1 y

Gag made a mess of glitches when I went to post.
Here are the two missing links
WALKING ON SUNSHINE
https://bit.ly/3fPYj6J
DIRTY LITTLE SECRET
https://bit.ly/31WOCeC

Updates

+1 y

It's a joke I make with an introvert friend
I tell him this is how you make your girlfriend feel with your introvert tendencies. He "hides" for from his friends and family. He doesn't like to "share" her with anyone and likes to keep his relationship private.

[hahahmm]

If a guy is hiding you (hangs up the phone) then he doesn't see you as a serious partner/relationship regardless of what he's said. He's cheating or has an unfinished relationship that he needs to keep you away from. For example he could be married or have another girlfriend.

The clothing thing, I wouldn't read too much into. There's too many possibilities there so don't overthink it.

[COMMODOREII]

I agree with him. With my experience with my exes my family or specifically my parents have too many comments to offer. I feel like if they stayed out of my last relationship i would have dumped her sooner. But because they like to guilt me in how i need to be this and how i should be this i lost 10 years of my life from that bitch.

[meetkitty123]

OMG
Its Terrible your relationship was aweful!
Yet
you have me cracking up... advicing He should keep her hidden from the world. 🤣
🤔 She's a sexy smart good girl... I understand when she gets pissed at him for hanging up on her every time someone else walks by or ignores her completely if he's with his mother.

[1stranger]

Hey..
I'm a little bit like your friend too. When we are alone I say him 'babe, my love, my life' but next to my family, I just say his name. When we are alone I hug him, kiss and touch him.. My hands don't move when others come by.

[meetkitty123]

It works for many.
The key is the lovers response... If they are content thats great
If they are slightly bothered this can be worked on but
If the lover feels as if they are someone's dirty little secret... Then major change needs to occur and fast!

[amadimal]

This sounds more like a controlling and insecure guy than anything else. I am sorry, but this has nothing to do with being an introvert/extravert.

[OlderAndWiser]

What is his explanation for the Jekyll and Hyde?

[meetkitty123]

I don't know lol

[Wiredone]

If he can't treat her the same when they are together by themselves and with others I would say something to him if I was his girlfriend. If he can't / won't change his ways I'd dump him. It's like he's embarrassed to let others know he is seeing her. That's not a good way to treat a woman

[Jjpayne]

I feel like he needs to communicate and find peace with his partner.. it should be a sharing experience and not just his view but both peoples views... Which get harder the older they are unfortunately because old preferences set in...

[Anonymous]

I'd tell her to chill and for him to be mindful of appearing rude or weak.

Other than that I don't really see a problem.
The one about how she dresses makes perfect sense.
The one about the phone is probably just a "I prefer to keep my intimate conversations private".
I don't feel the need to tell anyone about a relationship I have, and I'd rather avoid even having the conversation all together.

[genericname85]

well he's getting away with it apparently. how is he ever gonna improve as a person, if the girl doesn't put him in his place?

[meetkitty123]

Yes I agree it is extremely important to put ones foot down we teach people how to treat us.

[genericname85]

i mean it's not always "having to put down ones foot". it can be very subtle. but negligence in sending minor signs for a long time can lead to a situation where you have to put a foot down. i would say "normally", that isn't necessary. and if someone is straight up abusive from the get go, just walk away from them. no need to get super harsh, if you do shit right.

[meetkitty123]

Of course harsh is not good
Foot down does have to be harsh it could be just applying the breaks to slow down

[genericname85]

yeah but just like in traffic, you don't really ever have to slam the brakes, if you're driving thoughtfully :D

[meetkitty123]

Of course not lol 🤔 unless in immediate danger

And that was a typo
It was meant to read
"Foot down DOESN'T have to be harsh"

[genericname85]

ok :) gotcha.

[Grond21]

Sounds awful. Like he is using her for sex, but doesn't value her

[meetkitty123]

I've actually have said the same thing but It feels
harsh to say so... Its not as cold cut as that... But I can agree it can come off that way

[Grond21]

There may be complicating factors, but that's the bare bones of it. That's what's really going on, when you strip all the extraneous stuff away

[meetkitty123]

Yes I agree there may be complicated factors

[MCheetah]

Sounds pretty bad to me. I hate to use the term "toxic" as SJW's have destroyed it nowadays, but that looks like a pretty toxic relationship to me.

[Kaneki05]

Controlling and she needs to get the hell out. I wouldn't say nothing to him that would just escalate it.

[hello_kitty_man]

If a guy can't treat you the same in public and around other people as well as when you are alone. I'd tell him to KICK ROCKS!

[Anonymous]

Depends if the girl is happy with him then it's fine.
But if she is not happy then she should talk with him and make him understand giving logical reasonings.

[Cowboy6666]

thats like scenario of typical Indian Sub continent region

[larry69]

Sounds like he needs to be talked to.

[Samantha_17]

Respect is first and foremost everytime.

[jimmy2]

Well let him be him

[meetkitty123]

Let him be 🤔
Break it off

or
just accept his introvert behavior?

What about redirecting him into new ways lol?

[krin_m]

That is messed up.