Some foreigners, especially Western men, openly say that Malay girls are boring and one of the worst because we don't adhere to liberal values as we hold our culture and traditions tightly and are not prefering western liberal values. Some even avoid visiting Malaysia for the reason. They don't understand that we are used to the culture and tradition here of being super shy. We are not used to Western kind of dating too.
We don't do any sexual activities before marriage, it's common here to be virgin and Western men are turned-off by that. We only do sexual stuffs with our husband. Do you think that the mockery is reasonable?
Some Western guys mock Malay girls for traditionally not doing hookups before marriage. Are they being reasonable?
Your descriptions may be correct in many or most Kampong areas. It's true that Malays go about sexuality in a much more discrete way than Mat Saleh, but to assume that they aren't equally horny is incorrect from what I have seen and experienced myself. This may hurt you a little: I find that average Malays indeed are boring (to me) when it comes to partying or just having a raucous 'good' time. Even when they hide their beers in a coffee mug. For those who co-read here: Malaysia is totally worth a visit: beautiful country, nice people, nice food, safe weather (just be cautious with Indians). For those who intend to hook up 'easily'... there's still the Chinese and a variety of foreign hookers at hand :)
Oh yeah I've expected that malays are generally boring for foreigners because our values (?) are quite different. I think that although we're boring, but as long as we're nice I think that's okay.
I admit that I'm boring as hell to foreigners. I just don't do stuffs that they do. Yes we're horny too but we're used to and good at repressing it and save it for marriage.
Malays just don't know how to have fun, and that's me included.
''Malays just don't know how to have fun'' - I don't see Malay values being the reason. I give you examples: - once -in Lumut- they prepared some life music (rock) and the music wasn't bad. The 'locals' sat nicely on neat rows of chairs and listened calmly. It was like being on a funeral. Nearby there were loads of foodstuff and everyone stuffed himself (Satay being finished within minutes) - I had been invited to a wedding (Kuah, L'wi) The 'locals' sat nicely on neat rows of chairs and gossiped. It was like being on a funeral. Nearby there were loads of foodstuff and everyone stuffed himself (Satay being finished within minutes). - etc :) Now... is dancing a little, and laughing loudly really that hard?
Hahaha i see... Malay girls are trained to be as modest as possible and be shy... That's just our culture and traditional practice.
Laughing loud is considered unethical (?) for girls. Women are to be as feminine as possible. Malay men are women don't usually physically mingle out of religious value. But that doesn't mean women hate men 😂 it's just the value. We still respect each other but in another way that isn't conventional.
In an official gathering, we usually are to be as quiet as possible as being loud is considered chaotic.
Malay people practice Asian + islamic (not as strict as middle eastern) values.
Malay people are the shyest people I've ever seen and malay girls are one of the most feminine, if not, the most.
Oh yeah and one more thing, we have dance actually!! We usually do traditional dance during official events such as zapin. But only the performers 😂 I am currently joining the cultural malay club so I will hopefully learn the proper way to dance.
Hahaha i see... Malay girls are trained to be as modest as possible and be shy... That's just our culture and traditional practice.
Laughing loud is considered unethical (?) for girls. Women are to be as feminine as possible. Malay men and women don't usually physically mingle out of religious value. But that doesn't mean women hate men 😂 it's just the value. We still respect each other but in another way that isn't conventional.
In an official gathering, we usually are to be as quiet as possible as being loud is considered chaotic.
Malay people practice Asian + islamic (not as strict as middle eastern) values.
Malay people are the shyest people I've ever seen and malay girls are one of the most feminine, if not, the most.
Oh yeah and one more thing, we have dance actually!! We usually do traditional dance during official events such as zapin. But only the performers 😂 I am currently joining the cultural malay club so I will hopefully learn the proper way to dance.
I think that that mockery is Unreasonable. Everyone has a right to follow their culture/religion etc without being judged (as long as it is not harming/affecting any fundamental rights of other living beings). In your case, it is not harming anybody, hence mockery is little unreasonable.
Some Western guys online told me that doing hookups / sexual acts before marriage is a common right especially for my age and staying virgin is "weird".
Not exposed much? Ohh i see. Umm yes it is common in western culture to perform sexual acts before marriage. But i wouldn't say that being a virgin would be "weird". Like you said that western culture was something new for you, similarly he could have said that he was surprised to see someone staying virgin.
But nonethless, nothing wrong in western culture either. Its more of a matter of personal choice i think
I too will have sex after marriage only, but i am open to a little bit of other stuff, say somewhere in between the two. It totally depends on one's persoan decision on what he wants to follow i think. And there is nothing "weird" in either of the choices
Well I have to agree with you I think it's just all men in general though but there are some of us to see the beauty and the Heart behind a girl like you there's something special that you hold dear to your heart and to be honest no matter what where you're located on the world there's a lot of women like you and that's beautiful you are stronger than me you're better than me because you're true to yourself it's something that I did not do was to stay true to myself so so when I look at you I do not mock you when I look at you my eyes smile s a good job you are who you want to be and for me that's just beautiful
To each their own, but I personally find that saving sex for marriage is not logical. Humans are not meant to hold out their biological desires as long as many cultures do. And sexual compatibility is also a thing. I don't want to date someone for years then learn that they're not willing to try stuff in thr bedroom that I've desired for my life. I feel that repressed kind of lifestyle/choice is boring. I don't think it's good to sleep around either. Every relationship I've had (2), I went in with the purpose of figuring out if I want to marry the person or not. Not just a partner to have sex with. I feel like people with that kind of mentality are not open minded.
Your absolutely right, I have been many times Malaysia, majority are bound by cultural heritage, not include Chinese malay, I assumed fact is neither liberal nor conservative, some do some activities outside own country, because I personally know some female (bhumi Puri), I must admit all of them are respectable behaviour. It's my own observation not harming anyone.
I don't see anything wrong with following your culture/tradition, at all.
There are many acts in other cultures that I would find far more repugnant than *gasp!* not sleeping around before marriage. The guys that say that are crazy. Don't listen to them.
Amen to that brother I concur with that statement all right keep it tight your body will let you know when you're ready for it take it slow because it's not a TV show.
Honestly that’s better westerners have no morals amd it ends up leaving us empty inside I regret my days hoeing around and now that imma be a father and scared shitless with this garbage slut culture is gonna do to my kid
No. This sounds like Malaysia has a healthier culture around this stuff than the West does.
People who say they don't want to visit Malaysia because of that are what are known as "sex tourists", and generally not highly regarded even in Western society.
This is a good social norm, you should keep it.
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Just cut his dick off. Why do you need follow their culture if he himself cannot follow yours? He literally just wanted to bang you before moving on to other prey. Maybe he on pussy quest. LOL. Not all westerner like to having sex before marriage some either religion, culture and their own decision wanted to keep sex after marriage.
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