Why do single women think they’re entitled to a good man?

[Grubhub]

Like what are they gonna offer him? Say he’s at least 30 year old. A woman with one kid is enough

[proNutro]

People can want what they want.
My mom was a single mom after leaving my dad who is an alcoholic snd an abusive man. She had shit boyfriends after that and I guess she just wanted someone good. A good man.


Don’t we all deserve a good person? Someone that makes us happy, feeling loved, safe, secure. What’s wrong with that?

Personally I think it takes a REAL MAN to love a woman and her kids.

My stepdad is AMAZING and he has become a father to me. Better than my own dad! My whole family see and refer him as our dad. That’s the real reward. Gaining kids even though they aren’t yours by blood, mom gaining a good man and kids gaining a father. What’s so wrong with wanting good from life?



People need to be less judgmental. Life isn’t picture perfect and we go through some crazy shit. Be more loving, understanding and supportive! Not negative, judgmental and closed off.

[Anonymous]

Your question hardly makes any sense.

You go from asking why women think they deserve a good man to saying a woman with one child is enough. Nobody deserves an abusive, self-centered, no good man with nothing going in his life, if you're wondering.

[Grubhub]

My point is even if a woman has one child a man with no kids should stay away. Men with no kids should date women with no kids.

[Opinion Owner]

Your point isn't making any sense. If a man or woman chooses to date somebody with a child from another partner, that doesn't make them any less of a good person.

[Grubhub]

You still didn’t explain what a single mother could offer a man with no kids

[Opinion Owner]

Oh boy, I don't know. I guess it depends entirely on what the man is looking for. Respect, encouragement, security. There's a whole list of things that women can offer a man, child or not.

[Anonymous]

Because women are not honest with themselves about what good men actually want in a good woman. They place far too much importance on their looks and sexual appeal and overlook all the other important things men want. They also think men value the same things in a woman that women value in men. They don't recognize the fact that men are not looking for a "provider" like women are. We don't care about their education and career, and in fact those things often conflict directly with the things that actually ARE important to us.

To put it simply, women overvalue themselves.

[peachymech]

No one can ever over value themselves, male or female.

[Opinion Owner]

@peachymech It's not a matter of over valuing yourself, it's a matter of not understanding what men care about in women. Women "value themselves" by the wrong standard.

[peachymech]

I don't know if all men are quite aware of what they want in a women either. I think they know intuitively but struggled to articulate it. They want to be cared for, protected (different to how men protect women), loved and encouraged. Do they not?

[Opinion Owner]

@peachymech Sure, just like women, men are sometimes not fully aware of what they want on a mate.

And yes, men want to cared for, protected, loved and encouraged. Everyone one does, regardless of age or gender.

But the fact you listed those obvious things that EVERYONE wants tells me that you are typical in the sense that you truly do not understand what men value in a woman as a mate.

[Opinion Owner]

*in a mate

[peachymech]

Okay but you still aren't telling me what men value in a "mate". Like we can keep this unknowing circle going around or you can just say it?

[peachymech]

But I would also argue no, not everyone wants to be cared for and protected. They're simple traits that a mother can give but there are plenty of people who would prefer independence and do for a long time.

[ChrisMaster69]

Surely anyone, no matter sex or sexuality should be deserving of at least a chance of a relationship with a good person.

someone that treats them with respect, trust, understanding, is actually nice, listens to them as people, works with them rather than against, basically common human decencies.

Entitled is wrong no matter the sex using it, more so when it’s men using it to refer negatively to women.

[Hannah591]

Oh are you talking about single mothers wanting men who don't have kids or something?

People can want what they like, there's someone out there for everyone. And everyone deserves a decent partner who respects them.

[Kas19]

Because I'm not going to date a bad woman. That's about it. I'd rather have a good partner than a bad one. It's quite literally common sense so I don't know.

[Smashingdoozy]

I think everyone deserves to be with someone who treats them well.

[karaspara]

I don’t know why do single men think they’re entitled to well quite frankly any woman?

[Anonymous]

And why do you think men are entitled to judge women for having some boundaries and standards?
She's good so definitely she expects nothing less.

[Wise4myage]

How a girl is raised probably has a lot to do with this.

[Anonymous]

Most of those single women try to date men who also have kids.