Where can I find a serious relationship?

[LucyF95]

I'm online dating for people that want a serious relationship but when I ask what they're looking for they say fun or ask for nudes

[TurboKid]

I'm old school but I think the best way is if you can network and find a mixed group of friends (both guys and girls) with connections. I found my wife that way. She was a friend of a friend and I met her for the first time at a picnic with a large group of people.

My sister had a similar experience and she actually tried online dating (I never tried) and had very frustrating experiences. So she gave up on dating for a while and just started making friends and throwing her own home parties. She met her husband in a similar way. One of her friends brought him over to her home party and introduced him to her, and now they're happily married with a daughter I'm eager to meet (she lives in the US).

[TurboKid]

I think it helps a lot to change the setting/environment. I had lots of exes that weren't so great when I was younger (although I wasn't either), but I met many of them in nightlife settings like bars and clubs where people are too eager to start dating rather than building a community of friends. My impression of online dating is that it can be just as bad as nightclubs or bars in a similar sense that it rushes people into that dating context and often veers towards a very sexual route.

[TurboKid]

Most of all, if you do it this "friends-first" way, you can be having a blast. You don't have to base your happiness on finding a boyfriend. You don't have to be lonely. You will have your friends and your calendars can be filled with events where you can hang out: parties, birthdays, weddings. You can network and build a community. But then while you're having all this fun and not lonely at all, you might meet a guy with whom you are mutually attracted, even upon first meeting, and before you know it, you two are an item... and furthermore, you have this whole community of friends you share to show at your wedding.

[Hanrej]

Well ofcourse. It's not the place you're looking at but the people there that decide weather it's serious or not.

Besides, you can't nowadays simply say "I'm looking for something serious". That's The most vague expresssion there is. What does serious mean to you? Exclusive? Living togeather? Kids? Marrige? Who's gonna stay home with The kids? What's your minum requirement on a partners income? Etc...

"Serious" sums up waaaaaaay to many factors and most guys will simply read "serious" out of their own definition of the Word or be aware that it could mean basically anything and therefore not even bother.

My advice... Be more specific.

[Daniela1982]

You call Tinder "on line dating"? I'm taking it that you are on one of the free sites. With no money to lose the place is full of losers. I have no doubt that you would be having trouble finding anyone suitable. You get what you pay for.

[LucyF95]

I'm on plenty of fish and hily

[Daniela1982]

Yep, POF is a free site, like I said. . .

[dudeinohio]

I met my girlfriend on POF

[Daniela1982]

@dudeinohio No one asked you. But n ow that you bring it up, how is it progressing? Has she dumped/ghosted you yet or does she need more than one day?

[dudeinohio]

Tough shit bitch. I'm here to support the Asker... not you. None of your business, since you are being rude.

[Daniela1982]

@dudeinohio I bet you are one of the dumb asses looking to get sex instead of really looking for a date too. Right?

[MotorcycleMan]

Think of online communications as simply a way to meet people. It's just a start.
If you want to get to know people, you're going to need to do that in person, not here. Online can certainly supplement getting to know someone, but online alone doesn't cut it. There is too much missing.
Fun is fine, I like to know what people do for fun because it gives us something to talk about and maybe we have some things in common, and well, it's just fun. I'm interested in what other people find fun.
but people who are just asking for nudes are probably not looking for a serious relationship.

[Leavesbound]

You're aiming too low. By low I mean age wise. Guys corresponding to your maturity level tend to be 5-10 years older than you. Your profile says you are 25 so this means that guys with a maturity level matching yours will be between 30 and 35 or more. I assume you've been limiting yourself to guys in their mid twenties and unfortunately most guys that age just want a booty call and not a serious relationship.

[JackSmy]

Do you have any hobbies that you enjoy? Baking, hiking, some TV shows? Find a local group that meets, and shares those! Sometimes you find a good candidate there!
Also, many cities offer cooking classes, or "adult education classes" which are just one or two nights, learning about gardening, or cooking some kinds of food, or around the Holidays, baking cookies. A good place to meet, as well!

[scuff1986]

With online, you just have to keep weeding through potential matches, and sooner or later you'll find some one, just takes what feels like forever. I would say put what your after in your bio but let's face it most guys won't bother reading it they go by photos sadly. Only other way is to go old fashioned when able to and head out to bars or hobby clubs and go from there

[REALSTEEL]

I been looking for a serious relationship for a very long time I don't even go on websites anymore it's nothing but scams and perverts im in the same boat you are I don't drink don't smoke no drugs so hopefully it might happen when we least expect it

[In_Trance]

Your problem is you keep asking the same question to the same guys. If you want different results you need to talk to different guys

[TheBigGuy9]

It’s not a scavenger hunt. You don’t just find a serious relationship and nothing gets serious right away. That takes time. It’s pretty much like playing the lottery, but you can control it if you know what to look for.

[shortster]

I don't know. Whenever I say I am looking for someone to marry. I get told that they are looking for the same thing right before they ask me for money, my driver's license, or my bank account.

[Zygum]

There are people who are serious in relationship, 5 fingers are not equal, avoid sending nudes unless you are confident that the boy is serious not flirting

[Jamie05rhs]

Let me know if you find the answer because I want to know too.

[Luckycharms12]

I'm sure there loads guys or girls will be interested

[LucyF95]

I'm only interested in guys 😆

[Luckycharms12]

Lol ooh sorry my bad sure that be no problem find what you are looking for

[LucyF95]

No worries lol

[2021biguy]

There is a lot of that these days, but don't give up.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

You can't control what they ask/do for, you can only control what you do

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just take your time and make yourself available. You're a pretty girl it won't take long

[Randy121]

On a Dating app you can try your luck. But yes not everyone is there for a serious relationship

[anylolone]

First, start wanting one.

[prettyboy57886]

Maybe your are wrong path

[jimmy2]

I hear nonthing but scammers