How do you find a relationship?

[SeanshterMonster]

I've been searching for awile. All I meet are dead ends of abusive people. Even if I do meet someone I think is good, they just say "I wasn't ready for a relationship" break up, and then find someone else like 2 days later. I don't understand the dating world.

[CallmeTheKnight]

The realm of dating for the most part is already a cesspool. However there's still a lot of good potential partners out there if you are patient and willing to take the time and get to know someone. Don't approach someone on a basis of dating or having sex with. Approach them on a get to know basis and take your time, it really pays off.

As far as the people who has willingly wasted your time, reflect on your interactions with them and learn from it. You will be able to understand what you will tolerate and what you will not. However, be up front with someone if you're seeking a relationship. You can always say I'm looking for something meaningful and fulfilling.

Now here's a hard truth, you treat someone based on how they act. Never treat someone with chivalrous actions if they are disrespectful to you. Never treat someone as if you wish to make things work. This goes for people that were abused and never seek therapy, the recently divorced, and it goes for single parents as well.

[SeanshterMonster]

The problem is I can't treat people how they treat Me. It makes me feel guilty and horrible. I want to be a good person so I try to he good. But I have bad habits of never asking for help, and assuming I'm always the one that's wrong and it's my fault.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I don’t understand the dating world either, I am very selective to be honest, so that makes it harder.
What do you look for in a relationship?
Dating apps are available, but it all seems directed to one thing - sex/hookups. However, the thing with certain dating apps, is that you can narrow down your search a bit more. Apps like Hinge or Bumble narrow things down. Things like what they are looking for (relationship), politics, religion, music, activities, etc.
Do you do any activities where you can meet new people? College? Work? Hobbies?

[SeanshterMonster]

What do I look for? Someone who empathetic, caring, fun, open minded, honest, and loving.

I have work, but I work at a warehouse, everyone there I'd 8-50 years older then me. (I'm 20). I don't have college. Hobbies? Models, but there's nowhere to go for that. Cards, but that's nerdy and girls don't like nerds. Drawing, but there's nowhere to go for that either unfortunately. Usually I go to the mall in hopes to meet someone.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Some girls do like nerds! You’d be surprised. It’s good that you’re going to the mall… Try coffee shops or places where people usually do their homework/work/read etc.!

[SeanshterMonster]

My dream would be to meet a nerdy girl

[jahaims]

With my senses