Is it bad to be a shy girl with social anxiety?

[Paolaa988]

Will i have a hard time finding a guy because of my social anxiety and skills if im like this and have some flaws?

[Andres77]

It's not bad.
You need to find social circles where you're comfortable.
Hobbies?
Sports?
Do you play an instrument?
If you meet people where you're comfortable then you won't have as much anxiety.
Competence breeds confidence.
What skills or knowledge base do you have?
Would you consider yourself an expert in anything?
If you are part of an event that has something to do with your area of expertise you will also have less anxiety because you already know so much about a subject and you'll feel more confident talking about it.
If relevant people are not coming to you then go to relevant people.
Don't just sit there and say "woe is me, there's no one for me here. I guess I'll just settle."
You'll regret that for the rest of your life.
Go to where interesting people are. You'll be more satisfied with them.
Good luck.

[CentralPerk77]

Bad? No. You are you. It is not bad to be you. This said are your concerns valid that having social anxiety (depending on its severity) can cause problems keeping a relationship. It may not cause a problem initially finding a guy… it’s just … if it’s bad anxiety it can cause anyone to be frustrated with your mental health causing a limitation on what you guys can do together and that’s not always fun. If you hang in there you’ll find someone who it works with.

[Alyssa11]

No I don't think it will stop you but it will make things slightly harder for you.

At the end of the day, we all have flaws. Time, perseverance and determination helps. I don't have social anxiety and I'm a loud person, but I have other types of anxiety and sometimes I feel like it gets in the way of a lot of things for me.

Just recognise that you have social anxiety and work on it, while being patient and kind to yourself. Not to find love, but for you :)

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m like this I don’t think it’s bad I think being like this keeps the bad people out of your life and although I thought that it wouldn’t be possible due to my personality I still found the love of my life. I think it’s good to be this way because we’re one of the most genuine people out there.

[pink_and_inlove]

I even struggle with eye contact and I am incredibly awkward and I still found a guy I think you can too I had to find him through dating apps though the hard way

[BlueBex]

No, it’s not bad to be who you are. But yes, it will make it more difficult to find someone. The world tend to reward people for being outgoing, it sucks, but it doesn’t prevent you from finding someone. If you find online interaction easier maybe try a dating app? That way you can connect at first through written messages and you can have some time to think about what you are going to say before you send it. It also might help you be more comfortable with someone before you meet them in person. 😊

[exitseven]

Everyone has flaws. Believe it or not even I have some flaws. Are you sure you have social anxiety and are just not a little shy>
Getting used to people is like going swimming in the cold ocean. It is really fun to swim in it but it takes some time to become acclimated.
Just be friendly and approachable. Meet as many people as possible and do not shy away from making friends with guys.

[JoeyG_7048]

Listen if you want a guy you want a man who will be a man and respect you for how you are. If they do not respect you for how you are it's going to give you more anxiety. Be patient I'm sure a good guy out there for you. Here's a little thing I live my life by read these words a couple times

You should expect that you accept, if you, then you should expect it.

Me myself I think a shy woman is a sexy woman. Be yourself I'm sure you're beautiful

[FunkyMonkee]

No, but, if you want to break out of it, just try hanging out with a few girlfriends for a few hours at a time on a regular basis, you'll open up and be more like them.
Also, some guys like quiet, mousey girls
Lastly, NOBODY'S PERFECT!! We ALL have flaws!!

[Anonymous]

It’s perfectly normal to be shy. You can talk about things you’re interested in with others. Things you like. I mean, some guys just like to sit there and talk about sex which is dumb and boring. You can only talk about that trash for so long. Good luck.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

If a girl is pretty, then any awkwardness on her part will be interpreted as "cute". Girls mostly get a pass on that sort of thing. It's men who are judged harshly on how shy or confident they are.

[pink_and_inlove]

My family has always judged me because of this all my life treating it like it’s some flaw to be shy and some family members have even referred to me as retarded

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

@pink_and_inlove well that's just mean of them :/

Don't let them get to you, I'm sure you're a bright and intelligent girl 😊

Family can give so much with one hand but they can take a lot out of you with the other. Try not to take their criticisms to heart.

I know when I'm feeling my most socially anxious, I probably come off a bit "dumber" and make more mistakes etc. In those situations I try to create some distance between myself and the cause of anxiety. Next time you feel that way, try stepping outside for some fresh air, away from other people, and tell yourself something positive and focus on getting centred, breathing deeply and slowly, noticing your breath without judging it, that sorta thing.

But anyway, you asked about dating, and I still maintain that the men you date will be far more forgiving of your anxiety (or maybe even see it as "cute") than your family. A judgmental family can be far more scrupulous than a single guy hoping to date a nice pretty girl.

Don't worry about it so much. If you feel shy on a date, just tell the guy "I'm really nervous". He'll probably either admit he's nervous too, or he'll reassure you that he's enjoying your company. And on the off chance he does act shitty over it, then you'll know not to give him a second date! You have more control in this equation than you realise.

[HairyPoppins]

Well you are going to have to own up that you have flaws in the first place. Nobody is perfect. Be confident in your weaknesses and you shouldn't have a hard time. It's only when you allow stuff like this to become self fulfilling prophecies.

Walk with confidence and own who you are and you won't ever have to worry about if you are good enough.

[loves2learn]

Nah. I was very shy at your age and I have social anxiety too. Just be yourself. :)

[moviedude714]

As a woman you're not expected to get this issue handled or overcome, nowhere as much as guys or men are, because nature or the world dictates that men have to be the confident assertive ones, it should be obvious as to what I'm talking about

[Still-alive]

not bad... but you will likely have difficulties dating yes. i only know from my own experience

[Still-alive]

just being honest. shyer people generally have a tougher time dating than non-shy people

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not if you’re pretty. And call it a hunch, I think you are.

[Luckycharms12]

Don't worry no its not bad we are who we are I'm sure finding right guy make you feel comfortable confident and you be able to forget about it and enjoy yourself

[TallAnon]

What's bad and good? You are what you are man.
If you want to change, then you'll change, but being isn't bad or good.

[Anonymous]

Relative to girls who aren’t like that? Probably not.


But in general? No. If you’re attractive then it’s easy street.

[SilverRain92]

Just go to the night club with your female friends and pick a guy :)

[anylolone]

Yes, you will have a hard time. At least harder time.

[2021biguy]

No, if you are cute and caring you will someone, don't worry.

[Shihab91]

Do you believe this is what is stopping you from finding someone?

[JesseJayNeak]

You gotta take time to open up being you won't attract someone if you keep yourself too closed

[Ripper_E]

depends on what you want

[poneglyphs]

Nope, I think shy girls are cute :^)

[msc545]

No, some guy will pick you anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's idiotic, don't make everything about you

[COMMODOREII]

Nah it's not bad

[Dinosaursandanime65]

NO. you okay