Would you ever date someone who has been to prison?

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Citizenkirk · Accepted Answer

I would never again date someone I have never met (Blind dates are bad ideas, I learned, regardless of how much it helps a friend get laid) and a person's history of incarceration can only enhance their desirability in my eyes, if the human trash (Police officers of unquestionable character, because there is no question of what they are💩🤮

Would you ever date someone who has been to prison?

) I exchange barbs and threats with are any indication of what law enforcement is degenerating into.
That, in stark contrast to a police department that has it's share of problems, but is nothing short if exemplary by comparison.

I know these people, and I'd give my life in a heartbeat for any one of them. The ones mentioned above, I'd give my life to get rid of them.
Would I date some hypothetical person I know nothing about for serving time, definitely. In this system if justice, if you haven't been behind bars than your up to no good and hiding something offensively messed up about yourself, because honest people get into trouble with the law by criticizing evil human trash that lied their way into office and positions of public service. I know a couple honest politians, and they're poor overworked and stressed out to the brink of having a stroke or coronary, and one of them is accused of things he could not have possibly done by people who absolutely are guilty of doing some seriously messed up stuff.
Honest politicians don't drive around inexpensive luxury automobiles and have smiles on their faces unless they're forced smiles and you can tell that those are genuine because of the stress lines around their eyes and lips. Those people have committed the unforgivable sin of serving the public tirelessly and without regard for their own financial self-interest.
We need more people like that in government.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

The thought that you can somehow " save someone " " give a second chance " etc etc , simply not true , people always return to what they know , whereas I can appreciate certainly in USA and other parts of the world far too many are incarcerated , for minor crimes , however this individual is in jail , its highly highly unlikely this was a first offence , at best it was first time they got caught.
For example a very much EX of mine , went to jail ( well after our relationship ) she was basically , an extremely good fraud , she swindled people out of their money , it certainly cost me some , but because she could dress well , speak well , it all looked good , people would trust her , she ripped off 100 s of people , maybe 1000 , no one knows , when she FINALLY got caught ( for 300 k fraud with another ) she was sentenced to a year , on appeal decreased to 9 months ( this stopped deportation so was a very important appeal ) , she did the 9 months easily ( so Im told ) hero in jail , a clean rip off merchant , who was small and cute , willing to swing inside. What do you really think she's doing now? Same same stuff , changed name via deed poll.
So , its not as simple as " date someone " whos been to jail , these people ALWAYS return to their past , one of the most important things in same is association.
DO NOT glorify criminals ! They have a choose , they made it their future is clear , never ever follow the association path of being involved with crooks , sometimes there is no way out.
Dont glorify it.. Dont do it , your parents have reasons based on the LOGIC , I describe , you will not " save " these people , its impossible.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

My ex said that he went to young offenders and although that's what he told me I don't know if I believe him or not.
He refused to tell me what he went in for initially his behaviour was so kind and gentle I dismissed it but over the years he became really abrasive and just really quite unkind and controlling and bullying.
It wasn't for me really, was it due to his delinquent mindset or was it because culturally the men are domineering.

I really don't know, but going forward I don't think I want to date and ex con, bottom line is unless they have a total life change it brings a lot of problems financially and emotionally.

Got the t-shirt now I'm throwing it out

lakotabebebe · Accepted Answer

It really depends on what they did. Like most replies, if they did something really awful like rape or murder, then that's a no. If it's for something that isn't bad enough to make me question my safety in the relationship, then yes I would date someone who was incarcerated.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The girl I'm dating now was previously married; does that count?

hahahmm · Answer

Hmmmm. Probably not because it's very hard for a woman to go to prison in the first place. Judges cut them all kinds of breaks compared to men. If she went to prison once she probably should have been in there 20 times. Ha ha. And absolutely zero chance if her crime was a sex crime. Part of my job as a man is not to do things that endanger my family/friends/community. I wouldn't knowingly bring a wolf around them.

A political prisoner -- assuming they aren't just psycho -- I could be open minded about cause locking someone up over politics isn't right.

NathanDavis · Answer

Prison implies a longer sentence not just jail time... but still, there's a lot of unfairly and unjustified incarcerated people, and there's also some that complete their sentence and have become way better people. So I would not rule it out, it could happen.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Depends what they went to prison for... I mean, I guess I could date someone who went to prison for drugs or robbery or vandalism, but a person who went to prison for murder or GBH would not be a person I would really want to have near me, not just for safety sake but also because some abusive criminals have serious tendencies of being adept at being manipulative if it was a relationship based one.

So I would prefer a person who was never in prison but if they had been in prison it would have to be for something that was not due to intentionally critically injuring someone, I could be with someone who hurt someone but not critically, like if it was just a fist fight, but if it was someone who went to prison for trying to put the person in critical condition or even attempting to kill the other, then I couldn't feel comfortable with that person.

XimenaV · Answer

Depends on what they were in for, whether or not I thought they were guilty, if my family trusted them (they have an uncanny sense of whether or not people are good), and if my dogs trusted them. Of course that's assuming they were a person I was considering dating to begin with or would have

Kaneki05 · Answer

For sure, Depending on what they did and how they are. There are people i will and have met in my life who i wouldn't know have been so unless they specifically told me. In reality some people go to prison for dumb reasons or because the system didn't want to bother finding out who really did the crime, or they did a justified action that got them in there (Beating up an abuser or something).

Outofthegrey · Answer

Depends on what for. I can forgive drinking and driving or something, hell I'm druink right now. But if it's something more serious I'd have to naw out.

Miah02 · Answer

That's not enough details. What he do? Did he actually do it? Does he still break the law? These really makes a difference

Anonymous · Answer

A few months ago I was chatting with a guy in prison and he was interested in marrying me then after a few months I got ghosted lol
No I wouldn't date or marry someone who was in prison. I'd be scared that they're bi, have a disease, have mental issues, and wouldn't be able to rejoin society.

menina · Answer

I would say it would depend on why they went to prison. If they were innocent or if they were arrested by mistake, I could give them a chance. But if they killed, raped or molested someone then no, I would run away from them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I focus on where they are headed and what their goals are right now. Of course I want to what they went to jail for bc these days some people go for stupid shit like weed. If it’s something more serious like assault/ rape etc then he’ll fricking no. I also wanna know how they’re preventing themselves from going again like not running with the same crowd if possible, getting a new job etc. Everyone deserves a second chance (unless it’s abuse, murder, rape, assault, battery, harassment etc).

Cathy7734 · Answer

Yes, I would.
I'm currently writing to several prisoners via snail mail.
I enjoy writing letters because it gives me a chance to express myself. I'm unable to do this in life because everyone wants to talk my right ear off and they aren't that keen to hear what I have to say.

With the few prisoners, I write to I feel heard. My voice matters. In all other relationships, it doesn't.

electromagnetic · Answer

As much as I like bad boys, probably not. Most people who go to prison aren’t exactly innocent to begin with. A crime is still a crime no matter the severity.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I dated someone who had a misdemeanor, but if they did hard time it would depend on why they were in in the first place and how their character is now. Otherwise I would avoid that.

MickeyMac · Answer

Sure, why not? Although, I will concede, trepidation would be expressed if they were violent offenders.. violent *repeat* offenders. That would have to be on a case by case basis. The particulars, if you would.. but other than that..

I wouldn't mind at all.

HairyPoppins · Answer

I mean probably not but ya never know I guess. This is a funny question because prison is serious shit unlike the county po po.

exitseven · Answer

I would have to say no unless it was for something like tax evasion or being one of the people who rioted in the capitol on jan 6.

libsaretards · Answer

Depends on several factors. Why were they locked up? What led to their behavior? Have they been out for a while or just released? Have they truly reformed? What would I have done in their shoes? Everyone has a past. EVERYONE has broken a few laws. The only difference between a convict and a non-convict is that the non-convicts were either lucky enough to not get caught or lucky enough to get caught before things went too far.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Theoretically, yes. There are a lot of reasons why someone might go to prison and a lot of people who sincerely reform when they get out.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes… but I’d have to really know them first. If they’re someone I’ve known for a long time and I know that they were unjustly incarcerated or if they were there due to financial issues or something I would probably still date them. Same goes for an already existing partner. Keep in mind that there are vetting levels of crime. I would never date a sex offender or rapist (those guys are really just jerks)

Devlaw5 · Answer

I would say it depends. On what they went to prison for Ofcourse, but beyond that, if they have a great personality🤷🏾‍♂️. Not all crimes are equal, by no means is the justice system perfect. So it really depends on a lot, but I’d like to think I’d be willing to🤷🏾‍♂️.

mrkdvsn · Answer

Back when I was "dating", I'm sure that the knowledge of a girl doing prison time would not have prevented me from "dating" her. And as we can literally see now... some very GOOD people are being sent to prison, for simply following their sincerely-held Christian convictions

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I believe I asked this question awhile ago but worded differently However I would pending on the crime ✌️

Avicenna · Answer

Probably not, but maybe a woman that had been a political prisoner.

thathonestman · Answer

No because it complicates things beyond belief. If that person went to prison, it means their judgment stinks. You can even do a lot of things that make me question your judgment and not be in prison.

Not to mention, now this person has a record and it makes it more difficult for them to succeed in life.

Don’t make things more difficult than they need to be. There’s billions of people in this world, I’m sure you can find a better fit.

keyair · Answer

Im 22 my boyfriend is 35 total 10 years in prison with two sons. There's a lot to unpack lmao, but he's a good man and at the end of the day I can see a future with this GOOD man. Yes, there's history and we all have trauma. But a person's core will last until death, so prison isn't a deal breaker for all people. Really depends on mindset.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

As long as they are good to me, that's all that matters, everyone has baggage people shouldn't be judged for it plus most of them are super sexy

KittyBites · Answer

It would depend on what they were in prison for. Something serious like murder or trafficking charges, absolutely not. Someone who was caught selling herb, or defend themselves in a fight, sure.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Depends what they were in prison for. Rape, murder, stalking and armed robbery, absolutely not. Something minor? Probably, as long as I loved them.

natured · Answer

As long as my mom doesn't find out i'm fine... but since i respect my mother I would not want to hurt her, since moms want the best for their kids and this decision would truly hurt moms in general...

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

Not against it per se, but never heard a woman/girl admit to anything of the sort (probably my 20 years of career obsession in IT which is 98% guys)

andreasderjuengere · Answer

If her imprisonment was because of 'political dissent', revolutionary activism, general resistence against 'The System' ... then she will be my soulmate :)

purplepoppy · Answer

Prisons may be an excellent source of bad boys but I'll give it a pass

kc_4308 · Answer

No never been and wouldn’t want a partner who has either

DavidDong · Answer

People say I'm bound to get into prison since I am quite aggressive and shit idfk Guess I sympathise sometimes with a criminal, sure we all do sometimes. In the end, it depends

iseekpinetrees · Answer

No. I have more self respect for myself than that. I don't date people who get into trouble with the law.

HawkPerception · Answer

Depends on what for. The system isn't perfect. Lots of good people that don't deserve to be in prison. And many minor crimes as well.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It's not like I would ask on a first date. "Have you been to prison? "  Therefore when starting to date them, how would I know?

Twilight_Angel · Answer

It depends on a lot of things, main one being why was he in prison. I'm all for second chances but some things I can't look past.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

If they went for a non violent crime like drug possession or tax evasion or some shit like that, yeah.

butterfly92 · Answer

Yes but no at the same time it depends what they been to prison for

Kaamraj · Answer

I date women, and if a woman went to jail than I would not date her unless it's for a very minor offense.

Manon1998 · Answer

No, maybe it's a silly prejudice but I won't trust to be honest

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what he did of course. I had a friend time ago that was in prison and he was the sweetest guy ever, he was innocent and spent 5 years in prison for dating the wrong person.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I may hear them out, try to understand what they had done. But would be very wary, not sure the right role model for my kids

AmazonGirl21 · Answer

Don’t be ashamed of who you are. That’s your parent’s job

oldawg · Answer

Yes and I have dated a few girls who have been in prison

Anonymous · Answer

Hellll no lol

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I like edgy, yes. As long as it wasn’t for using an edge on an ex or embezzlement, I really do not care.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Not knowingly. All women are a little crazy. Women ex-con are crazy and dangerous. Best to just not get involved.

UnicornU · Answer

Depends on the crime. If it’s nothing near murder then it’s fine.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Nah. There's like 1000s of attractive men who didn't go to prison.

The_Outlaw · Answer

Well, hell. Why not? She could teach me all sorts of new moves in the bed room, could she not? :P

Synikal · Answer

Oh you learned you're lesson and showing so? Yes, let's try something. Wait it involved something horrible that goes against my very being? Then... no.

Anonymous · Answer

No bc if they went to prison it means they have a record i don’t want to have to deal with anything-dealing with this.

Silas_153 · Answer

Hell no! They're criminals, and that says all I need to know about them.

loveslongnails · Answer

That would depend what they were in prison for, Coach !!

Iron_Man · Answer

Only if she was falsely accused And I would have to believe her

Anonymous · Answer

Troublemakers attracts the ladies even more because they love those mild bad boys. Bad boys, jerks and assholes always gets the pretty ladies and the good ones too.

BUNroaster · Answer

Slight maybe. Plenty of wrongly convicted people so like depends on a lot.

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