How am I supposed to get over someone that left without a warning?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing this guy for half a year after knowing eachother for a full year prior to that. Everything was great and he made me feel very special. I dont like someone that quickly and i haven't felt this way for anyone before. Then, with no warning he suddenly started ignoring me. He would act nice in person but he stopped texting me all together. I then saw him text another girl a few times and she commented under his pictures. I Figured i was crazy because there is no way a guy like him would do that to me. Today i found out that his little trip with "friends" was actually with her. Honestly i dont even want to think about what may or may not have happened. When i saw the pictures i felt sick to my stomach. So basically he just decided one day that he was done with me and never gave me an explanation. I can't even express how heartbroken I am. Nothing was wrong, at all. I guess what hurts the most is that he never would go on trips like these with me and somehow i guess i never expected him to be like this.

[Stevefiveo]

I hear you. It hurts really badly when they leave and you don't even know why. Unfortunately, you found out what they are really like in the end. The kind of person that has no loyalty. He will unfortunately do the same thing to that girl eventually. The same thing happened to me. I was dating a girl for six months and she begged me for us to find an apartment together. I let my lease run out and two weeks before we are supposed to move in together, she comes in like nothing is wrong and then says umm, this isn't working out I have to go. She is magically dating someone else a week later and ends up marrying him, but a few years later. She does the same thing to him.

[Asker]

Im really sorry that happened to you. You didn't deserve that. I asked him 3 times if i did anything to upset him and everytime he told me i was being crazy. Do you have tips on how to get over the heartache?

[Stevefiveo]

Tips, hmm find someone new and hope for the best. It happened a long time ago and it still upsets me because we were so perfect for each other and I feel we were meant to be together. But, I have to remind myself that it wasn't for real because she doesn't have the loyalty that I thought she had and I could never trust her with my heart again.

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, she always said nothing is wrong too but she wasn't talking as much but there will still a lot of sex so I was thinking everything was fine too.

[Stevefiveo]

I got lucky, the next day I was in line at the bank and the teller is like do you have a girlfriend and I was like no, we just broke up yesterday. So she goes well I think your cute and hands me a note with her phone number on it. That's how I got over it. Lol

[Asker]

Haha good for you! Unfortunately that didn't happen for me haha. Honestly i dont know if i want to be with anyone at the moment. I gave my all to him and i supported him so much when he was going through hard times. Never in a million years would i have expected this. I hope I can come back stronger because i dont think he deserves my tears lol

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, I was like that. I'm never dating anyone. Oh, hello hot girl that just gave me her number. Lol. Yeah, guys tend to swallow the pain down and try to keep it down but sometimes it still comes back up. You'll find someone someday. If you want to talk some more. Feel free to follow me and message me.

[Asker]

Thanks i really appreciate it! Hope you find the happiness and love you deserve

[Stevefiveo]

I did. I've been happily married for 16 years. But that one still stings sometimes. Good luck.

[ChiTown33]

Easy your clinging to what you thought he was. Not who he was. Don't be surprised if when things start to go bad with her that he comes back to you. Just have the good sense to say " get lost".

[Asker]

Thanks. Thats a really valid point. And yeah i guess people dont really change so i have to stand my ground

[ChiTown33]

A good way to get over someone. Think of all his bad points and play them in your head on a continuous loop.

[Asker]

Yeah i guess i romanticize things in my head so i only see the good. I need to stop looking through rose colored glasses lol

[ChiTown33]

We all do. Men and women when we're in the moment. Don't feel bad.

[Asker]

Thanks, i appreciate it

[dimmy01]

You should accept that he left you and be happy.
You don't need his opinion because if he really loves you he won't left you hanging.

[Paris13]

It was Never Sadly Meant to be. There is Someone very Special Out There who will Care. Wait and See. ****Hugsxx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx